Post # 1
So, Fiance and I will be getting married in May 2014 and have started looking into possible venues…I have come to love a venue that is located in Brentwood, CA…we live in the east bay…and for those of you that don’t know the area, it’s about an hour and a half away…
The problem we run into is…will our families want to travel that far for a wedding? Unfortunately we don’t have the funds to pay for a block of hotel rooms…is it asking too much for them to drive that far? How far would you be willing to travel (same day) for a family member/good friend’s wedding?
Post # 3
Um, maybe it’s just me, but I would consider that local. No matter what, some people (and it will suprise you who it turns out to be) will not bother to come to your wedding. It sucks, it’s ok that it changes how you think of certain relationships in your life, but there isn’t much you can do about it. It would happen if you had your wedding at their own house.
That said, depending on who it was and my financial situation, I would totally travel much, much further than that. One of my childhood best friends got married with like 3 month notice in March. In Vegas. I’m in Afghanistan, which is literally a 12 hour time difference (and like 20+ hours flying each way). She basically chose the furthest place on Earth away from me, and I showed up because she’s my best friend and I could. Many of her other friends from “home” (Michigan) and close family members, however did not.
Have your wedding where you want to have it! And good luck planning!
Post # 4
Thats a pretty normal amount of travel time where I am from!
I would definately travel that far for any wedding I was invited to and would probably stretch it to 2hrs.
Anything over 2 hrs and we would have to be more than acquaintances.
Interstate or overseas it would either have to be a close friend or family member or a location I was dying to visit and could use the wedding as an excuse to spend the money to visit.
Post # 5
Sounds pretty much local to me!! Depends on people’s personal experiences though – I grew up in the middle of nowhere, so was on a bus for nearly that long just to get to school, and getting to a town big enough to go shopping? Not within an hour’s drive!
If I would have to drive more than about 2-3 hours in a day, it would probably need to be someone I know well, family or, as another poster said, somewhere I would want to visit and hang out for a weekend away. I think as long as you give them info on accommodation, it should be fine 🙂
Post # 6
i travelled 15h to a friend’s wedding back in may. 1.5h seems local.
Post # 7
I was on the road for 36 hours each way for my friend’s wedding in April (planes, trains and automobiles with a boat or two thrown in for good mix). I would do that trip again in a heartbeat to be at her wedding.
Post # 8
I don’t think that is too far AT ALL.
I wouldn’t cross a hotel block off the list yet though… My hotel block doesn’t come at any cost to me (as long as my guests reserve a minimum number of rooms, in my case, 10). Talk to close friends and family about their preferences. If the wedding was that far away, would they prefer to stay the night at a hotel near the wedding, or save money and just drive home the same night. If it seems like there is enough interest in getting hotel rooms, you could probably get a hotel block at little or no cost to yourself. In any event, I think it is still worth looking into…
Post # 9
90 minutes is not that far. But really, if it was someone close to me, I’d travel quite a substantial distance for it. 90 minutes is nothing!
Post # 10
I would definitely travel 1-2 hours, and at a push 3-4 hours if there was nowhere to stay; if there was accommodation nearby I’d probably travel more than that, and just stay the night before and the night of the wedding, though only if it was a close friend and I could afford the accommodation.
Our guests are travelling a minimum of 40 minutes, with a handful travelling 2-4 hours. Though, mopst of our guests will be staying overnight.
Post # 11
If it was someone’s wedding I wanted to be at, I’d travel as far as I had to.
Post # 12
@MsAmandaAnn: agree. If I want to go to the wedding, then the only thing that will stop me is the cost to get there.
Post # 13
Ya I drive an hour for work everyday, that’s not far. I’ve driven 9 or so hours for a wedding before?
I don’t think you need to feel bad about not paying for hotels either, that’s not a common responsibility of the bride and groom. If I’m going to a wedding and don’t want to drive home from it I get myself a hotel room.
Post # 14
we just traveled that in a day for a babyshower :D… so for a wedding it wouldn’t b e that big of a deal.
Post # 15
That’s not too far at all. I think of Brentwood as part of the bay area/east bay.
Post # 16
@MissThespian: i am not familiar with the area but its not too far. if you aniticipate people complaining about distance, maybe prepare yourself for people leaving early.