Post # 32
Seeing as you aren’t throwing a party or anything like that I wouldn’t travel more than 30 mins. It all depends on the kind of event I think.
It sounds relatively laid back, so I wouldn’t be invested. If you were throwing a large wedding-like bash I would travel about an hour, but if it was a milestone anniversary (hey, 10 years defs counts! :P) I would travel however far (same for a wedding, no limits so long as I can afford it!)
If you were worried about if they will travel that far, you could always include other activities (are you doing a big dinner? A drunken atmosphere isn’t always neccessary, but many would possibly appreciate accessibility of alcohol during your event/celebrations?)
Good luck, you know the important ones will always travel for you, especially if the mothers have been hanging out to have a weddingy event 😉
Post # 33
I know that my family would want to attend my vow renewal.
Our vow renewal is partly for us and partly for our parents. It will not be a big party; we are having less than 40 guests. There will be no “giving in” to our mothers. I’m not sure why you thought we were having a huge celebration when that is not what I said.
As I said before, I would prefer not to turn this into a “Are vow renewals right or wrong?” debate. If you would like to talk about that topic, you may want to start another thread. Thank you for your previous response to the question I asked.
Post # 34
We are having a ceremony and then reception with dinner afterwards.
It is going to be an intimate and elegant event.
Post # 35
I wasn’t trying to turn it into that. I just got the feeling that you were not doing it for yourselves but for other people which I would advise against.
Post # 36
For a vow renewal I would probably travel up to 45 minutes each way. For a wedding I would travel up to 2 hours each way. The only reason that I am differentiating between the two is because your poll asks “How far would you travel for a wedding/vow renewal?”, and my answer for the two is different. I am definitely not saying that you shouldn’t have a vow renewal!
Post # 37
If I wanted to trash your vow renewal, I would have told you what I thought about them. You asked “how far would you travel for a wedding/vow renewal” and I answered. To me, an anniversary party isn’t as big of a deal as a wedding, so I’d be less inclined to drive more than an hour or so. If it were your actual wedding, I’d be willing to drive farther.
Post # 38
@PositiveThinking: I’d travel up to 3 hours each way for a close friend/family member, and up to 1.5 hours each way for someone I wasn’t so close to; it really wouldn’t bother me.
I mean, I travel into London frequently to see friends, and door-to-door it’s over an hour; and that’s just for a couple of casual drinks. So for a wedding, to me that’s no big deal.
Post # 39
@PositiveThinking: I have travelled hours for weddings. Of course it depends on how close I am to the couple but an hour is nothing to me.
Post # 40
Hi! So, i just want to reassure you that there are those of us who completely understand what you’re doing and why. We’re getting married in Florida in a very small wedding in order for me to get my visa organised before my student visa runs out- i know, super romantic ;P. As a result, we haven’t invited a bunch of my extended family, and no friends (i’m from Australia, so we couldn’t justify asking people to fly for 30 hours for a small, intimate, brief wedding- not to mention the cost of travel and accomodation). This pissed a lot of people off as they wanted to travel to see us – family will travel as far as necessary for weddings i find.
I’m also curious about how far people will travel for a vow renewal as we are delaying our honeymoon until we can take a significant chunk of time off (and i am allowed to travel, which may take some time getting approval at the moment)- so, 6 months, and spend 6 weeks in australia, where we will be doing a vow renewal/reception for my family and friends. Everyone except my extended family (so, my friends and special people etc) aren’t super happy with this idea, but it is what we have decided to do. I have a gorgeous venue in mind thats about an hour away also, so i’d hope people would be ok to travel that far.
Anyway, just my situation, i guess I didnt help that much, but just know you’re not alone! I’m always worrying if we’re crazy and know how nice it is to have someone understand. 🙂
Post # 41
@PositiveThinking: I drive over an hour to go shopping. One hour to 1.5 hours is not excessive unless the wedding runs into the wee hours or you are 80 years old.
Post # 42
Once again, I would like people to stick to the topic at hand. I think that is a reasonable request and I didn’t ask for opinions of why I am having a vow renewal. I said that this vow renewal is partly for my husband and I, as well as for our parents.
Post # 43
Well, my DH and I have traveled three hours in each direction (making a six-hour, round trip) in one afternoon/evening for a friend’s wedding.
Post # 44
I’d definitely go an hour, but anything more than 30mins I’d want a hotel so I could drink!! (would taxi if closer) But would be happy to organise my own.
Post # 45
“You’re already married so there isn’t a point in it.”
I did not ask if there was any point or reason in having a vow renewal. I asked a very specific question. However, you took an opportunity to bash our idea and I don’t think that was necessary.
I don’t want this to become an angry argument because there is no need for that. I just wanted to tell you what I had an issue with.
In any case, thank you for your responses which directly pertained to my question. I appreciate it.
Post # 46
It looks like an hour is pretty reasonable in the eyes of most Bees.