(Closed) How Far Would You Travel For A Wedding/Vow Renewal?

posted 7 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: How Far Would You Travel For A Wedding/Vow Renewal If You Weren't Staying Overnight?

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  • Post # 47
    1007 posts
    Bumble bee

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    @PositiveThinking:  If I was really close or family I’d drive an hour (maybe more) each way to see your wedding or vow renewal or your we-eloped-and-are-now-having-an-“official”-ceremony thing.

    But honestly for any wedding or party where I am not family or super close I would not go at all unless I was staying overnight. Even if your not throwing a big party I might want to go “party” afterwards myself at a bar with SO lol. So in your case I would definitely drive up and probably just get a hotel room on my own.

    Post # 48
    5408 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I live about 5 hours away from Niagara Falls and I would totally go to a wedding/vow renewal there. I grew up visiting that area a lot, because we have family in St. Catherines so the drive is no big deal to me. Plus, there’s lots of stuff to do in the area and my Fiance and I could visit the falls and check out some stuff on Clifton Hill. Considering how large Canada (and Ontario) is, spending an hour on travel isn’t a huge deal (or at least it shouldn’t be a big deal).

    Post # 49
    1644 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I flew 2.5 hours to get to a vow renewal (and if you add ground transpo, it all added up to 4+ hours) – the bride and groom were already married because her mother was dying. It doesn’t mean anything less and a lot of my friends are going.


    I think it really depends on how close you are. My wedding was family only due to drama and I’m having a second reception next June. All my close friends are attending and some of them have to travel 4+ hours .

    Post # 50
    8434 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

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    @PositiveThinking:  To me vow renewals like yours (i.e. eloped or courthouse) and weddings are the same thing, I’d drive about an hour away for either; if I was extremely close to the couple, I would drive even further.

    Post # 51
    1471 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I love any excuse to get out of town and travel, so as long as we can foord the gas and DH has the time off (my schedule is very flexible), we don’t really have a limit 🙂

    Enjoy your big day – I hope it is special. Non-conventonal arrangements like your own tend to get a lot of judgment on the Bee – Typeically by people who haven’t had to deal with the difficulties that cause them (extremely long distance, immigration, family deaths, family drama that prevents a traditional wedding, insurance issues, deployments etc).

    Post # 52
    3764 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    An hour is fine, over an hour, probably not unless you’re really close family/friends

    Post # 55
    13973 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’d travel most distances for a wedding.  I would travel significantly less for a vow renewal, unless it was for my parents, or very close friends/family.   Sorry, I just don’t have the expendable income to justify it.

    Post # 57
    2889 posts
    Sugar bee

    Over an hour and overnight. But I would not take a plane or go to another province or country. That’s for a wedding.

    Vow renowal … I don’t get it. Unless you were married in a rush (FI in the military, or someone was sick or something like that that make you wed, but did not have ”the wedding”), then I would attend because it would feel like the wedding you never had. But if you already got married and for some reason wanted to have another ceremony/reception, I would not go. 

    Edit : in your case you eloped, I don’t know. To me, it’s weird … I would probably not go as a guest (friend), but as your sister maybe … but I would not drive more than an hour each way. I just can’t spend that money.

    Post # 58
    13973 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

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    @PositiveThinking:  I have nothing rude to say about vow renewals — they are beautiful and important ceremonies.  If I had unlimited financial resources, I would, of course, go to support the couple.  I think the point that others are trying to make (although not very clearly) is that a wedding is the initial ceremony uniting the couple, which makes it a huge honor and privilege to be invited.  In a vow renewal, you have been united, and while it is still very important, your unity was not questioned and isn’t as crucial to be witnessed by all your friends and family.  I do hope all your family will be able to make it.

    That being said, an hour drive to a super cool location like Niagara Falls would be worth it for me — I’d probably get a hotel and make it a long weekend since I love that area. 

    Post # 61
    6883 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Depends on how close I am to the couple.  Though a vow renewal not more than 30 minutes drive time 1 way.


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