(Closed) How Far Would You Travel For A Wedding/Vow Renewal?

• ERsax
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: November 2013

@PositiveThinking:  +1

• OkieHeart
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: February 2014

@PositiveThinking:  Like I said, I’m not bashing your decision. And I did answer your question.  You asked about people attending a small, intimate ceremony that you expect them to drive to and from without staying overnight. You also asked about a wedding or vow renewal, which many people see a distinction between the two. I would be more likely to drive further to witness your wedding, than I would to go to a vow renewal. I’m sorry if you don’t like people telling you that your vow renewal isn’t as important to them as a wedding would be, but that’s how some people feel. You chose to elope and expected everyone to accept your decision, now it’s your turn to accept your guests’ decision if they choose not to attend.

• daisyfay
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: August 2014

An hour is nothing! I travel more than an hour to work each way every weekday! 

We live at least a five-hour drive away frrom virtually all of our friends and family, though, so traveling for a wedding is the norm. Next year we have three weddings on the schedule, one in San Diego (two hour flight), one in Maine and one in Massachusetts (both six hour flights). For family or close friends, we’ll go as far as necessary – though I acknowledge that we are lucky to be able to afford to.

• VanillaCoke
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: September 2014

@PositiveThinking:  Sorry, I’m confused now – you state that your family and friends would be happy to travel an hour.  So, it seems like you have your answer already and I’m not sure why the question was posted?

• Mandy-Moore12-13-14
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: December 2014

My Fiance and I just drove about 3 hours (one way) a few weeks ago to a wedding. It was for some friends of ours that we’ve known about 8 years or so. We’re having a similiar issue. We moved about 3 years ago & we’re now 3 hours from our hometown so that’s where out families are but we have a lot of friends where we live now. Trying to find a venue that’s about halfway for both is our biggest obstacle with the wedding. I look at it this way: if they aren’t willing to drive to be there for an important event such as a wedding/vow renewal then they don’t deserve to be a part of your life (unless they have other obligations such as work & absolutely can’t make it).

 

• VanillaCoke
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: September 2014

@PositiveThinking:  Ah, got it!  Well, I think you know your family and friends the best, and their opinions are the ones that matter.  I hope you have a lovely event.

• rachelmichelle
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: April 2018

I put ‘Other,’ because I guess it’d depend on how close we were to the couple. If they were close friends or family, I’d happily drive an hour, perhaps a bit more if it was a Saturday wedding.

• dv3849
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: July 2014

Id travel across the world for someone whos close to me, i have to be honest though and say i wouldnt be as willing to travel such lengths for a vow renewal… An hour drive is nothing though. I do that to/from the office everyday lol

• riley23
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: October 2012

DH sees an invitation not as something to be accepted or declined, but as a command to arrive at a certain place at a certain time in appropriate clothing.  So we’d pretty much travel anywhere within a 10-hour flight, although we’ve drawn the line at leaving the country. 

I honestly don’t mind anything short of 3-4 hours each way, depending on how close I am to the people celebrating.  I’d need to book a hotel room for any event with an open bar more than 2 hours from home.

I’d say even if you don’t pay for rooms, call around about blocking out a bunch of rooms at a discounted rate at a nearby hotel. There shouldn’t be a charge to you for that, it’s just something you sort of informally set up, but it gives your guests a discounted option that’s nice to have. Some hotels will even offer a free shuttle service to some venues.  It’s worth asking.

• Treejewel19
• 7 years ago

@MrsBeck:  This!

An hour or two is nothing in the bay area. Some people drive two plus hours to work and back each day. If we are talking three to four I might opt out depending on how close I am to the couple. If I am spending the night/weekend away there really isn’t a limit.

• Horseradish
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: October 2014

For a wedding I’d travel 1 hour each way or make plans to stay over (there’s hotels in every corner of the world). For a vow renewal, 30 minutes or less.