Post # 1
Im from alaska and people are super friendly here. but i recently went to new york and as everyone knows, they are not that friendly. but i couldnt help but smile at random people. even while walking into the restroom or on the elevator. as i came back, threw seattle i noticed it got more and more friendly the more west i got.
i went to the mall in seattle and people would walk by and smile or nod. no one does that in new york! and then as i boarded the plan to alaska, i was walking down the asle to my seat and everyone was looking up and smiling. ohhh how i missed stranger smiles.
ive also noticed men are not that polite. i had no idea how polite the men are here!!! even though they all have beards and are rough and tough. no wonder some women think chivalry is dead………soooo curious.
where do you live, population and how nice are people??
Post # 3
I live in Oklahoma City with a population of about 600,000 and I have always loved how friendly people are in Oklahoma. I went to Baltimore one time and it was the culture shock of my life. I waved at someone and they flipped me off in return. Definitely strange compared to where I am from.
Post # 4
Small town in Ontario, Canada. I can’t remember if it is 52,000 or 72,000 people. Most people are very friendly here!
Post # 5
The North East is known to not be the most courteous, warm, or kind…
I grew up in Northern Virginia, next to Washington DC, and mostly everyone was rude. Thank you’s, please’s, and smiles were very uncommon.
Two years ago I moved only two hours south (still in Virginia) to Richmond and people are SO kind and courteous here. They’ve heard of manners! The South is the place of true hospitality.
Post # 6
I am from CT and we are not friendly people for the most part, but sometimes we surprise you! i go for walks along the water and maybe its a walker/ runner pact but i see people i say hi good morning or just a smile. but random strangers i don’t smile unless i’m holding the door for them or doing something nice.
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza
It’s not that people in NYC aren’t friendly, it’s just that we live in a city that is swarmed with tourists. We are just trying to get to work, or get home or get wherever we need to be, but the sidewalks and trains are stuffed by people who are slowly shuffling around, taking pictures, stopping abruptly, etc. It starts to grind on your nerves after a while and makes you a little cranky. 🙂
I can also be a bit stand-offish sometimes because most strangers in the city who are smiling/nodding at you are either crazy or want to hit you up for money (sometimes both)!
I consider myself a very friendly person, but you need to catch me at a bar or at work, etc. I swear I’m not trying to be rude when I brush pass you with a scowl on my face I’m just trying to get from point A to point B!
Post # 8
I live in Florida (I’m back and forth between Orlando and Gainesville a lot) and I’ve also visited NYC and DEFINITELY noticed a difference.
If you make eye contact with someone around here, you smile and nod. I wouldn’t say it’s considered overly polite, just… normal?
If you do that in NYC (actually this applied when I was in Europe as well) they look at you like you have a third eye. Instant giveaway that you’re a tourist.
I’ve made the same observation about men, as well. Around campus I almost never have to touch a door because if there is a man nearby, he holds it. And although it’s less common than holding the door, I see guys give up their bus seats to standing women fairly regularly. I didn’t really see that very much in the Northeast.
(And for the record, I don’t think they’re trying to be RUDE at all. I think that’s just the norm for them. It’s kind of offputting for someone from the South, like me, but they probably think we’re total weirdos for being overly friendly. I’ve heard some people say that they feel like we’re being ‘fake’ and disingenuous with them.)
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
We are in Md. The cities and suburban areas are not known for being “nice.” We live in a rural area, and people are definitely nicer, but still not “nice” in the sense that people from other areas are accustomed to. Honestly, I find the “niceness” of “friendly” areas to be a bit too much. Why are you smiling? Why are you talking to me? I don’t know you and you are creeping me out, man. Yes, I am a “north east” gal at heart.
Post # 10
I’m from Texas, pretty sure they put something in the water to make everyone so friendly!
Post # 11
I live in Texas and it is engrained in the culture here to be polite, courteous, and conversational. I love it here.
Post # 12
@souza_2005: 64,000 or something like that and for the most part there are wonderful people here. However, we have a large Indian population and I think cultural differences are thick. Many of the Indian men and women are pretty rude/verbally judgemental here but I wouldn’t say that means all of them are guilty of that behavior. I babysit my neighboors son when they need to go somewhere and they are the sweetest Indian family! However, they also agree that there is a lot of rascism from the indian culture towards others in the area. I assume it is due to some strong religious views but that is a complete assumtion.
Post # 13
I live in the wine country of California. People are INCREDIBLY friendly here. I also live in a small town that is tourist minded so this is not a surprise.
Post # 14
oh my gosh thats so rude. 🙁
lol i had a few people look at me like i was crazy when i would smile or say hi. but i understand we dont have so many people. pop: 8500 but we get tourists standing in the street. looking around and just stopping. i felt bad but my Darling Husband yelled at one, one time. hes like its july 1st get out of the round!!!! im like Darling Husband ppl dont know july 1st is a huge fishing opener. so people are scrambling around to get ready to make most of their money in that first week. but i felt really bad lol. i wanted to stick my head out and say sorry. but yeah she was just standing there, in the middle of the street. looking up and around.
interesting, there were a few guys from ireland there that i thought were really rude. that really surprised me but they were also from an irish city….and drunk haha
hmmm must be the water. 😉 i like that.
must be the wine jk;-)
youre totally right. we have a large native population. in fact non native here is the minority. but in certain surrounding villages some are rude if they feel you are not alaskan. i work at a hospital and i can see the attitude change when i name drop the village i grew up in. oh youre from yakutat. who is your mom? haha.but i think they also assume since i work at a large hospital i come from down south. (lower 48s)
Post # 15
I live in Boston, and I think the “New Englanders are rude” stereotype is a bit of an exaggeration (except for the driving- people are pretty aggressive).
For the most part, people keep to themselves and I do the same. However, if someone approaches me and asks for help/directions/to take a picture of them, I will instantly give them whatever help I can. However, I won’t just walk up to someone on the street and assume that they want me to talk to them or that they need help. I have places to go and they probably do too!
If you just grin at me randomly on the street I would probably assume I have bird poop on my head or something 🙂
I’m very friendly with our neighbors, though.
Post # 16
I live in Toronto, population 2.8 Million. Everyone I have ever encountered in my daily business has been super nice and polite. Well, there have been some jerks too but the are certainly in the minority.
Edit: I’ve found people out in the suburbs are more arrogant on average.