(Closed) how friendly are people in your area?

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Post # 108
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I live in a small, rural community in northern California now and people are really friendly. I definitely cannot go to a grocery store or gas station without running into someone I know. Strangers are really nice here too. Men will hold doors open for you and help you lift a 50 lb bag of feed into your cart and follow you out to your truck to help you load up. Most people I know hug instead of shake hands when they meet someone. People here really get involved in the community and we have a lot of events that are free and open to all ages. We even take good care of our homeless.

ETA: I lived in south east Ohio for a while and I loved it (besides being part of a 2% minority and encountering some racism). I had a neighbor who made casseroles and cakes for my family for a week when my dad died and her husband would bring over fresh quail that he shot just hours before, and they were kind enough to shovel the snow off our walk and driveway. They would even mow our grass if the landlord didn’t send someone over once a week to mow. These people really impacted me and the way I treat others!!

 

 

Post # 109
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I live in a small town in Ontario and it’s very friendly! Everyone always smiles to each other when they pass each other, people say please and thank you, and say good morning and stuff. It’s really nice and one of the reasons we moved back here. I grew up in the area in the country, which is also friendly. We lived in a nearby small city for school and always found people so cold and rushed 🙁

Post # 110
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Generally speaking I find Canadians to be very polite* & friendly … we don’t usually have any issues talking to other people we don’t know in public.  We hold the door for the next guy, smile at you in passing, say Hi a lot, and like to talk to the next person in line at the Grocery Store, Bank etc.

This is Eastern Ontario, so we sit right next door to Quebec… and also have a lot of French Canadians who live here as well.  When friends greet each other here, there is a very warm & friendly exchange.  It is not unusual for men to shake hands, people to hug, sometimes kiss or more precisely *kiss-kiss* (one to each cheek… well more often not into the air next to the cheek)

Everywhere I’ve lived in my 50+ years I’ve had a good relationship with my neighbours… altho I would have to say that “country people” tend to be more easy to warm up to than “city folk” probably because those who live out in the country know that they may need to depend on their neighbour a lot more in an emergency.

And when you live in the city, there is a higher turn around of people on a street / neighbourhood.  So always people coming and going… whereas in the country, people tend to stay put a lot longer.

When I’ve lived in the city still tho I’ve known several neighbours on my street, and have found ways to socialize to some extent with all of them… be it a backyard BBQ, an invite for Drinks at Christmas, or getting together for a Block Party or Garage Sale.

Canada may be a cold country… but for the most part I find us to be a warm & friendly people.

Mr TTR & I travel a lot… and we love our visits to the USA… but we do get our share of “You aren’t from here are you” when we are there (or the occasional strange looks).  As we tend to carry on in some situations just by habit… such as at a Store… I’d never walk on up to the Clerk without saying Hello and starting a bit of a conversation… I appreciate that He / She is a person, and not a machine… I always try to be nice to the Cashiers, afterall I’ve been a cashier and I know how long the hours are, and how crappy some of the Customers can be… why not have a good experience to remember at the end of your shift beyond just the bad ones.

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* Lol, how polite are we… we have a joke in Canada about how if we don’t look where we are walking and we walk into an inanimate object (like a street pole) we autmatically say “Oh I’m sorry”… and it is true.  We do do this. 

 

Post # 111
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@musical-lady: Re – Montreal

I’ve never found Montreal to be any less friendly than any other Canadian Big City (people busy in a rush to get places)

BUT I will say that there is a cultural difference…

The first is the obvious one when it comes to language

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The second one is part of the French culture of being more aloof to strangers but warmer to those they know

The trick is to break the ice I’ve found.

That and there are definitely parts of the city where there are a higher percentage of non-French Canadians that are warmer “at first glance”

But in the end, I don’t find Montreal much different from the rest of the country in regards to friendliness.

 

Post # 112
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@This Time Round:  I speak French so the language is not an issue. Maybe it’s the cultural thing. My mom is from Montreal (doesn’t speak French though, she is from the English part of the island), and she thinks that over the last 20 years it’s become more Francophone, especially now that the Separatists are in charge.

Post # 113
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

 

 

Post # 114
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Another one in So Cal here! Honestly, each county is so huge that it’s impossible to generalize. Places I’ve lived:

 

– Seal Beach (OC): Nice, in a kind of fake way.

 

– Mission Viejo/Lake Forest (OC): Very nice, but old people love me, so….

 

– La Jolla/UCSD (San Diego): Mixed bag. UCSD area- pretty friendly college town. Downtown La Jolla- generally rich, stuck up.

 

– Hillcrest (San Diego): Liberal, very nice.

 

– Temecula (Riverside): Quiet, friendly small-town vibe.

 

– Rancho Cucamonga (San Bernardino): Not overly friendly, not rude, middle of the road.

 

– Santa Monica/West LA: Pretty damn freaking rude! And pretentious. Driving there is the worst! (Though driving in Asia takes the cake)

 

– Hermosa Beach (South Bay area of LA): I live here now and I love it! Very friendly neighbors, strangers smile and say hi to you. Cute, quiet beach town. Does not feel like LA all ALL. Laughing

 

Post # 115
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@misskittenn:  May I ask do you know where in Atlanta you are moving? I find people really nice especially in the suburbs.

Post # 116
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2019

@Tori5810:  We aren’t sure yet, but Fiance will be going to Georgia Tech as a grad student, and we’re hoping for a living arrangement not directly in the city so we can unwind.

Post # 117
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Honey bee

Another So Cal bee here. Everyone’s always been really friendly to me, compared to, say, the northeast. What’s there to be angry about anyway? The sun is shining and the living is good. 🙂

Post # 118
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@MichiganGirl24:  Interesting.

I am an expat living in a small town in NorthEastern Ohio. Everyone here is SUPER friendly to me, but I don’t know how much of that is due to having a foreign accent (you don’t get many around here).

My city in Japan was friendly, but not in the way most westerners might have percieved. People would always go out of their way to help you, but it still was very formal, stiff and polite. Being a white female, however, meant that I would often get extra attention, which could be fun (people can be hilarious on their downtime), or frustrating – sometimes I just want to do my grocery shopping without stopping to chat with strangers!

In my community, people would frequently stop for a chat, even if it was in an English-Japanese blend. My neighbourhood was in a semi-rural part of a big city. About 80% of my neighbours were retired. One old man would dress in incredibly fancy clothing – think white suit, bowler hat and cane – and wait in a prominent place, like outside the supermarket, to stop and have a chat to anyone who passed by. He was awesome!

 

 

Post # 118
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

People around my area are RUDE. If you do something nice for someone, like let them go first ahead of you or hold a door for them, they will ignore you. I’ve actually had a woman glare at me for letting her go first! I just don’t understand some people.

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