Post # 1
Sometimes it is hard for me to understand the posters who say they fight a lot with their Fiance or don’t have much in common or their Fiance does this or that annoying/terrible thing. (Not specifying anyone in particular, just in general.) It makes me wonder if it just seems odd to me because I don’t see the good parts of their relationship, so it seems black and white, or if my Fiance and I actually fight less than most people. Anyone care to weigh in?
Post # 3
Gotta say I think that’s a hard one to answer because it could change week to week – like sometimes I feel like I love him so much I could cry (and I do cry) and at othertimes I am so unhappy with my life that I cry – could just be me lol
Post # 4
@Scottish_lassie: I think that is a fair assessment ..
For me: sometimes I picture squeezing his head like a grape .. other times I wonder why such an amazingly awesome man is marrying me 🙂
He is without question my best friend and my soulmate
Post # 5
My Fiance and I bicker almost daily, but I’ve never questioned our love for one another. Quick fact: The average couple disagrees 7 times per day! lol. That doesn’t mean they have a big argument. It could be as simple as “I don’t want to watch SPEED channel.”
I love him to the moon and back. We have had fights, we bicker often, but at the end of the day? I love him more than I ever imagined I could, and it’s only grown through our compromises and our disagreements…as well as our agreements and common goals. There are two sides to every story, and way more facets to a relationship than arguments. 🙂
I think that what you’re seeing is that it isn’t black and white, none of us know what it’s like to be a part of another poster’s relationship. Some of us consider fighting bickering…some of us consider fighting big blow-out arguments that end in crying. Just like some of us think cheating is a text message and others think it must be physical. We all differ in our perspectives. That’s what makes the opinions of the hive so interesting.
Post # 6
@AmeliaBedelia: That is a very good point – some people are just more “bickery” naturally (is that a word…?) and if that works in their relationship, good for them.
Post # 7
@moonadea: I know what you mean as I was actually reflecting on this today.
I tell Darling Husband all the time how deliriously happy he makes me and how lucky I am to have him after reading some posts and hearing some people in real life talk about their SOs.
Post # 8
Fi and I nag about the little things… He doesn’t rinse his dishes, I leave my yarn where our dog can get to it and make a mess. 3 years later and I still look at him and think how lucky I am.
Post # 9
I’m somewhere between Very and Deliriously happy. I’m absolutely content with my relationship but the rubbish around it sucks (work etc).
We don’t really argue (we did during waiting and over a few things early in the engagement), we love to spend time together (we’re friends as well as lovers) and we’re genuinely comfortable. We don’t hump like bunnies but we never did. We have a healthy and satisfying sex life along with a really intense friendship and love for one another.
Post # 10
My two cents: We barely disagree, we have a pretty good system where we talk to each other calmly.
Being fair and honest, we don’t live together so there’s a smaller window for arguments. I just hope everything stays this good when we move in together.
Post # 11
@moonadea: Yep, we are one of them. We don’t agree about everything, but I’ve never seen the fun in that, so to speak. We are two very different personalities. I can be very, well, difficult and opinionated sometimes. If I don’t agree, I don’t usually just let it blow over. We like to challenge eachother, but neither of us have much issue saying, “Oh, well I guess you’re right then.”
Post # 12
I think every couple and dynamic are different. I’m currently living in a different state from my husband (wah) and living with a girlfriend and her fiance (who get married next week). I’m in their second bedroom of a 2 bedroom apt, so there’s not a TON of extra space. So naturally, I’ve become a voyuer of their relationship and that’s just strange. It’s very different than my relationship with my husband. But the 4 of us are very different people. One is not necessarily better or worse than the other; just different lives/interactions. I could never marry someone who needed to create drama or had large emotional swings; I’m very blessed with my husband. For us, we rarely fight, talk about everything, are best friends, and live a lovely low key life.
Post # 13
I think this is hard because I would say I am deliriously happy but we do fight some. I think couples who don’t ever fight have problems- they are probably not being totally honest and comfortable with each other. You should be able to say WHATEVER you think, which will sometimes lead to fights.
My Fiance and I fight, but we NEVER EVER stay “in a fight” We ALWAYS keep at it until we figure things out and we always immediately go back to being our happy in love selves. It always amazes me because even when we are screaming at each other (that hasn’t happened in a very long time) we always know that somehow we are going to get over it. (And, by the way, it’s almost always a VERY very stupid argument. Never anything big).
I vote for deliriously happy, but I don’t want that to sound like we never fight or that we are still in the “honeymoon” period and just haven’t gotten to real life yet. We’ve been together for almost 6 years, and we honestly never even really had the honeymoon period since we started out as friends.
Post # 14
Also, as to the friends thing, I have a friend who is married to someone she pretty much has nothing in common with- she even says so. They almost never hang out alone, their other friends are always around. But she sees nothing wrong with this! She never sees movies with him because they don’t like the same kinds of movies. Instead, she goes with her “best friend” who just so happens to be a guy. There is honestly nothing romantic between them, at least on her end, but I just think that is weird. How could you NOT be married to your best friend?! That’s the best part of my relationship is the fact that my Fiance is and always has been my best friend. Makes no sense to me.
Post # 15
@kerri13: I’m not marrying my best friend. Then again, I don’t have a “best friend.” We don’t have all of the same interests, but to me that is what is interesting. We expose eachother to new things that we haven’t tried before and we get to do them together. I think it’s great that you and your Fiance are best friends, but…not all of us are best friends with our significant others.
Post # 16
I’d say between happy and very happy. Sometimes he says things I don’t agree with (and no doubt there are times when I say things that he doesn’t agree with), but it’s understandable, especially when whatever is said/done is with good intentions.