(Closed) Are you happy?

• Benni
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: September 2013

@bmo88:  My life right now feels like the idyllic first scene of most thriller movies — you know, the one where everyone watching thinks “ohhhh yeah, someone’s gonna die. They’re too happy”

• jenilynevette
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: October 2014

Yes, I’m happy. I feel like I’m where I should be at the current time.

I am relatively young [25], and fi is younger than me [23], so we have plenty of time to accomplish things.

We both have decent jobs.. sure more money would be great, but then we’d just spend it.. and in turn need more money.

• sillysillybee
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: May 2014

@bmo88:  I answered no, because I am happier now than I truly ever thought would be possible for me in this lifetime. 

• HisMoon
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: July 2013

I am happier than I ever thought I could be despite not having any of the things I expected to have. Oh well except for being married to the love of my life of course! No career, back in school when I actually hate school, no house, no kids, single-income living…yeah. If someone had told me 10 years ago that this is what I had to look forward to at this point in my life, I might have cried. It’s funny how one’s outlook and attitude can change over time.

• JulietFoxtrot
• 4 years ago

Hmm, I appear to be one of the very few who is not as happy as she thought she would be!  I didn’t think I’d still be a full-time student at 28, and I didn’t think that FH and I would be living in different countries, however we’re doing what we need to do in order to be where we want to be in 5 years’ time, so I suppose I’m happy in a long-term sort of way?

• This Time Round
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: December 2012

Happiness can actually be measured (evidently)

As I discovered about a month ago with an article in Forbes Magazine (October 29, 2013)

The Legatum Institute is a think tank dedicated to figuring out how to make the world a better place. Naturally, before you can fix something you’ve got to analyze and quantify it. For five years now Legatum has attempted to do just that with something it calls the Prosperity Index. To build the index Legatum’s elves incorporate “a mixture of traditional economic indicators alongside measurements of well-being and life satisfaction.” The result is a list of 142 countries, covering 96% of world population and 99% of global GDP, ranked from most to least prosperous — the Happiest and Saddest Countries in the world.

So who’s the happiest? As has been the case the past five years, that distinction goes to countries that enjoy peace, freedom, good healthcare, quality education, a functioning political system and plenty of opportunity: 

TOP 20:

1. Norway
2. Switzerland
3. Canada
4. Sweden
5. New Zealand
6. Denmark
7. Australia
8. Finland
9. Netherlands
10. Luxembourg
11. United States
12. Ireland
13. Iceland
14. Germany
15. Austria
16. United Kingdom
17. Belgium
18. Singapore
19. Hong Kong
20. France

The saddest, least prosperous? War-ravaged countries under the thumb of greedy despots and theocrats, where freedom of expression is limited, education nonexistent, violence the norm: Chad, Congo, Central African Republic, Afghanistan and Yemen.

Bottom of the pile:

142 = Chad
141 = Central African Republic
140 = Democratic Republic of The Congo
139 = Afghanistan
138 = Burundi
137 = Togo
136 = Yemen
135 = Guinea
134 = Haiti
133 = Angola
132 = Pakistan
131 = Cote d’Ivoire
130 = Iraq

You can see the whole list here at the Legatum Institute Website = http://www.prosperity.com/#!/

Hope you all find this to be as interesting as I did.

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Personally, I have to admit I am in Recovery Mode… I am happy in my marriage with Mr TTR… it is truly AWESOME. 

BUT I am not where I thought I’d be in life overall.  And that makes me sad.  I am still 10+ years still playing “catch up” from my Divorce in many many ways.  And that makes me sad.

But then Divorce is like it takes the wind out of you and causes a MAJOR SET BACK in life in soooo many ways.

Part of the reason I truly hope that my posts here on WBee for the women who are going thru emotional upheaval or indecision in relationships that are not healthy are helpful… it is soooo much easier overall to walk away from a Dating Relationship or an Engagement that isn’t working than it is to leave a Marriage and be able to move on without a lot of other issues / baggage.

And obviously the longer one is married, the harder it is to move forward with any sort of momentum.

• atreyu547
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

I dunno, I’ve never thought of the future plus I’m only twenty so my future is still ahead of me, but im content 🙂

• Truffle-hunter
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: May 2018

@sillysillybee:  same. when I was a teenager (probably from about 13) I struggled with depression, right up until my early 20s. my depression was tied up with a very low self-esteem and I had kind of a nihilistic, bleak outlook on modern life and what it was like to be a woman in particular. But then I really got going with university, had some important relationships with men and established myself in my professional field. It all really really dramatically changed everything for me. Then, the cherry on top was meeting my FH and worlds opened up -babies, marriage, planning for the future together – and that brings me to now… I spend time consciously being grateful for what I have in my life. I know this feeling can’t last forever but man, it is sweet. I want to acknowledge it while I have it. I strongly believe that is an important part of happiness. 

• nineteen87
• 4 years ago

I’m pretty far behind in school, but when I graduated high school I didn’t even want to go to college, I did think I’d be more well-traveled by now, but school and work have taken priority. I also wanted to have purchased a house by now, which is kind of ridiculous, I would never buy a house while dating someone that I finance almost completely alone. I am happy, just not as happy as I would have planned. 

• arathella
• 4 years ago

• Income: low

• Assets owned: 1/2 of whatever fits in a single-room apartment

• Career/Education: almost finished my (useless, job-wise) bachelor’s

• Goals accomplished: few

• Marital status: not married

• Having children: none

• Owning a home vs. renting: rent

Response: HAPPY. 

• Splodge2003
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: April 2016 - Gorse Hill, Surrey, UK

I’m 26 still living with my parents with no hope of even renting, it’s just so expensive! Even with two people it’s stretching beyond what is comfortable and money is the route of most arguments and stress. That said I have a job I don’t mind, a few nice things I own and a good partner. I didn’t go to university so my career will have to come from working my way up the ladder rather than a degree, but seeing as I still have no idea what I want to do who knows where I’ll end up! I’ve done a fair bit of travelling and that makes me happy. Over all I’d say I’m content, but I feel like I should be further along than I am now

• sostobe
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: February 2015

-Loved up

– professionally challenged and successful 

– I have great friends and family

– I live in a fantastic city 

– I’ve had the opportunity to travel and see the world 

– and there’s even more good stuff coming down the pipe. 

I’m stupidly happy!