(Closed) How hard is it to be a MOH?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1326 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

It depends how much you expect of her. I bought my MOH’s dress and only need to her come to rehearsal dinner and the wedding. I did DIY projects, but only alone, with my Fiance, and with my SIL (who wanted to and offered). As long as she is available your wedding day and rehearsal dinner, it shouldn’t be difficult. I was Maid/Matron of Honor to my Maid/Matron of Honor years ago, and I basically bought the dress, a gift, and showed up when she told me to. She did not want a bachelorette party or anything else.

Post # 4
3081 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It depends on the bride and her expectations. It sounds like you are pretty laid back about this so just explain that to your friend.

Post # 5
941 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I agree that it really depends on how much you’re expecting of them.  My Maid/Matron of Honor got married right before I did, and though I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man, I did a lot of planning with her, and now she is with me.  Though, for both we both put a lot of time and energy into help because we both had lots of fun with it.  And I think we’re both pretty laid back people, so we were able to have fun with it.

I think ultimately the challenge of it depends on the people involved.  

Post # 6
2114 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

She is probably worried that studying for her bar and being busy she may not be able to meet your expectations – if you tell her that is all you expect of her than perhaps she wont be so hesitant. Although if that is all you want – make sure you really only expect that and not get irritated down the road that she isnt fulfilling her Maid/Matron of Honor duties 

Post # 7
52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@MrsCoachBtoBee: I have been maid of honor two times and there were many occasions where a time commitment was expected of me (going with the bride to look for her dress, dress fittings, hair/make-up trial, etc). Also, planning and attending the bridal shower(s) and bachelorette party. These things usually occurred on weekends and really added up as far as days that I didn’t have free time for myself…so if your friend is in need of studying time then this might be something she’s afraid of. I’d explain to her that your not expecting much of her so she doesn’t need to worry….just be there for you on the day of! Maid/Matron of Honor is an honor and I can’t believe people would refuse! I hope she says yes!

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