Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2013 - Lake Taghkanic State Park
My mom didn’t change her name when she was married so I was a child with a hyphenated last name. I definitely do not want to add on to that. lol. I really have no aversions to changing my name, I always planned on changing it when I got married… But for some reason with my wedding 10 months away I’m finding myself a little nervous about the change!
I think one of the things that I find weird about it is when I think of, lets call them “The VonSchnauzers” for anominity, I just don’t think of us. I think of my FI’s parents or his extended family. It feels weird to think of us as “The VonSchnauzers”. How long did it take before you got used to the new name and started feeling like you and your SO were your own family?
Also just the fact that I’ve had the same name for 25 years… and now I have to get used to a new signature, I need to get a new license (I’ve been meaning to get my picture retaken anyway), I’m assuming you also need a new social security card? It just seems like such a huge change! I know it’s going to take some getting used to… I’m excited but I’m also just have some nerves about it.
Was is difficult/scary/exciting/weird for anyone else who changed their last name?
Post # 3
I’m getting married in about a year, and I’m taking my husband’s last name. We’ve lived together for almost 8 years, so we already feel like our own ‘family’. I think the biggest change will be just signing a new name on everything.
The only thing that I’m hesitant about is that I’m one of the last three grandchildren with my last name. Unfortunately, my brother is severely disabled and will probably not be having children, so he won’t be passing it on. My sister said she will probably change her last name when she gets married too. I could hyphenate, but hyphenating two Polish last names is going to look like and sound like alphabet soup.
p.s. I’m getting married in Upstate, NY, too! 🙂
Post # 4
The name change was a big adjustment for me at first – and a bit emotional too. I was so excited to have my new husband’s last name, but a bit emotional about losing my family name. I also teach, so hearing my students call me by his last name was really strange at first. I am mostly adjusted now, it just took some time.
Post # 5
I’m really reluctant to change my name. It’s been three months and I haven’t done it yet. When people call me Mrs. Hislastname I think they’re talking to someone else. I just really like my last name, but we have Dirty Delete and are TTC #2 and I do want to have the same last name as the rest of the family.
Post # 6
I’m not changing my last name. I mulled over the decision a lot, and ultimately decided not changing was the best personal choice for me. Even though I’m relatively young–21–and it would be an easy time in my life to change my last name, my name is very tied to my identity and so many other things in my life are going to change (in positive ways!), but I wanted my name to be one thing that would remain the same. Our children will have my name likely as a second middle name.
Post # 7
So I am not married yet, but I have had to start using FI’s name on documents at work. I deal with acquisitions and started planning for summer of 2013 last May. I am writing up documents now that will be signed durring our honeymoon. It is far easier to put my new name then to go back and change everything during our busy season. The first time I saw Myfirst hislast on a work document I asked– who is that? My coworkers laughed so hard, but it is so strange! I am guessing it is going to take a while to get used to, espeically because I will be going by my maiden name at work (except for when I am signing contractual documents). My coworkers who have done this same thing all say it is so strange at first, but everyone gets used to it.
Post # 8
I’m not married yet, but I already use my new name socially. Everybody knows who I am and who I’m marrying and that I was very adament about changing it, so I’m pretty much used to it. I don’t think it will be totally real until it’s on my SS card/drivers license, though. 🙂
Post # 9
Both names started with the same letter, so it wasn’t too big of a deal, plus I loved the way it sounded and looked written down.
Post # 10
It took me about 6 months to really get used to my new last name. I am a teacher so my last name is more like my first name most of the time, so it was extra difficult I think…especially because many of the kids were hell-bent on sticking to what they were used to. I still have some kids who call me by my maiden name, but most are calling me by my married name now so it’s a lot easier.
As for the great name change…there are a lot of things to change, but if you stay organized and keep all of your papers together, it’s really not hard.Get a really big envelope.
I got online and found out what things I needed to bring with me to each place…if I needed to make an appt, then I did.
I brought my Driver’s license, SS card, birth certificate, passport, and marriage certificate with me to every place regardless of whether I needed them and that helped me feel secure…like if they asked me for any important document, I’d have it on hand.
Post # 11
I didn’t change mine, and Darling Husband actually took my last name and I am SO happy about it. I was the last family member with my last name, so I feel it is a great way to honor my family, and my last grandparent that passed this summer :'( Darling Husband – it was his idea, and he is really happy about it. He is extremely secure, so he doesn’t bat an eye if some “idiot” (as he puts it) gives him a look about it.
Post # 12
I’m excited. My last name is embarrassing… Like REALLY bad; even some adults laugh at me when they hear it (seriously grow up!) anyway I’m excited lol 🙂
Post # 13
Changing the name didn’t bother me. The paperwork is a hassle!
About the signature… I got my name changed with Social Security, then went to the DMV and … signed the wrong name. lol Since it’s all digital now she just had me resign below it and used that on the ID. It was pretty funny tho.
Post # 14
I am getting married in a little over a year but I see myself with the new last name all the time so i think it will be a quick transition!
Post # 15
For me, it will be very easy getting used to my new name. I already use it sometimes (My main e-mail is under that name… I wanted to snatch it up before someone else did lol!) and it sounds like it should be my name, if that make sense. It just flows nicely with my first name. It will definitely be a pain in the ass to get all my documents changed though.
Oh and you will need a new SS card. In fact, that’s the first thing you need to get before you can change other things such as your Driver’s License and stuff. 🙂
ETA: Oh and I also have a hyphenated name. It is long and both names are common, so I am not too sad about changing it.
Post # 16
@cbee: That is so sweet of him. Few men seem to be secure enough to go with that. And why the hell not! Especially if you have the nicer/rarer name