Post # 1
So, thus far, first, I sent individual Facebook messages to people asking for email addresses, phone numbers, and physical addresses- and waited a couple weeks for responses.
Then, I sent out an email STD to everyone I had emails for- it asked receipents to shoot me an email with their address and phone number- and waited a couple weeks for responses.
Then, I sent out ANOTHER email asking for addresses and phone numbers- and I’ve waited a week.
We STILL have about 10 people who received all the messages / emails and haven’t responded! WTF?!? I know I’m supposed to “track them down,” but did you ever just “give up” after awhile- I guess I will start calling people this week.
Once gentleman, in particular, received 2 Facebook messages from me (I don’t have a current phone number or email for him) but hasn’t responded (I think he is bad with technology). Do I track him down or just give up?
What did you do?
In our social circle of friends / community, FB and email are the preferred method of communication, so it isn’t uncommon to not have a current phone number.
Post # 3
if its only 10 people, I would track them down… like call them and ask. Or call an immediate family member of theirs and ask.
For a couple of my cousins who wouldnt answer messages, I had to ask my aunt, or grandma. Chances are, someone has their address.
Post # 4
I did as many as I could… then gave lists to my mother and FI’s mother, and asked them to track those down. Fiance had to track down his friends. I’m still waiting on about 5-6 addresses for the save the dates…
I’m in the same boat as you…trying to contact via facebook because I don’t have addresses or phone numbers. Ugh! Good luck…
Post # 5
Track them down. Also, many people dont’ check their facebook messages… I know I don’t, and most people I know don’t either. See if you can get that person’s phone number or email from someone else.
We didn’t have trouble at all… when we emailed and texted people, we got responses almost immediately because they knew what it was for.
Post # 6
I emailed most of my friends through facebook and got addresses. There were a few including a cousin, that I haven’t heard back from or weren’t on Facebook. I had my Fiance get me addresses for friends or family on his side that I couldn’t find. I also got a few addresses from my parents. Contact them for sure.
Post # 7
I was able to get a lot of extended family and family friends’ addresses from a few key aunts (they are always hubs of family correspondence). Whitepages.com and Yellowpages.com can be useful for finding physical addresses of people who have landline phones (i.e. our parents’ generation and up, for the most part).
Post # 8
We were really lucky and everyone was prompt in getting back to us. Within three or four days. We messaged individually on Facebook and a few via e-mail. We’re still waiting on three people to get back to us. But, three out of more than 30 poeple…we’re OK with the three. We’ll track them down…hopefully. We’ll have to start contacting people we know who knows the three we’re missing. I also got a few addresses from Yellowpages.com. I’m sorry you’re having such problems!
Post # 9
same! One of FI’s aunts was incredible – so well organized & informed.
But for the most part I used reverse lookups and directories… I felt like a total creepy stalker, but I got everything hassle-free in an afternoon.
Only a few of our overseas friends did we have to call or cantact through email/facebook for their particulars.
Post # 10
That’s such a pain. We’ve been lucky: most of the people who would be hard to track down were in either my mom’s address book or FMIL’s. I’ve got one friend who I haven’t heard back from, but worst case scenario, I can send it to her parents’ house.
But Whitepages.com was surprisingly helpful once I remembered it existed!
Post # 11
Yep I’m with you on this one… We’ve been waiting/hunting people down for months! FI’s grandma gave him a list of addresses for people which we thought would be helpful. Unfortunately most of the addresses were only partial and nobody seemed to have the rest of it. We’d have the street names, but no numbers. He also has three cousins with the same name (slightly derrived like Christine/Christina) and he couldn’t figure out who went with what address because she left off their last names.
I’m still waiting on 10 people for addresses. My Fiance likes to make the process more challenging by deleting text/facebook messages from people before I get a chance to write them down. I had about 5 in the phone last night that I had to hunt down again today.
Post # 12
@nerdysarah: Do you have any relatives you can get the info from (assuming they are family members)?
We were lucky because my soon to be SIL got married a couple months ago, so FI’s mom had all of his family and friends’ addresses from her wedding. My mom is one of the few people I know that still keeps a rolodex of names/addresses, so I borrowed it from her one weekend.
Our friends’ addresses we either had or texted/called/facebooked. Pain in the butt but it was only about 10 people or so. Some people needed to be asked a few times.
One thing I made sure I did was write them all down, in an old school address book. Just so I’d have them in the future.
Oh the joys of wedding planning! Good luck!
Post # 13
I got nowhere using FB, I had to straight up text people, call them or even write on their wall.
I think when people get PM messages on FB they think “oh, I’ll deal with that later”…and then later never comes.
Post # 14
I used whitepages.com for most addresses. If I couldn’t find them on there, then I FB messaged the person. For people that I don’t know (distant relatives that “have” to be invited) I gave a list to my parents and they took care of it. Future Mother-In-Law also gave me a list of people, some without addresses. I tried looking them up, but I had no luck. I’ve been asking her for these addresses for about 2 years now (long engagement) and I still don’t have them. Invitations are going out in a month and I told Fiance that if I don’t have addresses for her people, they aren’t getting an invitation.
Aside from the Future Mother-In-Law issue, getting addresses wasn’t very hard. You just need to be creative in how you go about getting the info.
Post # 15
I hit whitepages like a champ…. they give house phone numbers, if there is one, and addresses
Post # 16
I didn’t really have trouble other than people asking “what do you need it for?” like I was going to stalk their house or something. I wanted to be like “Uh, I just got engaged! What do you think?!”