(Closed) How has TTC changed things for you?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Although we haven’t started TCC yet (you know my situation from my post yesterday but that wasn’t planned.) i think a lot depends on what your hubby likes or what you can remember he used to like. some of my own ideas are:

sexy outfits. lingere is great ut you can kick it up a notch further with sexy costumes like a nurde or a french maid or an apron with nothing on underneath.

 

new locations, not just the house: try getting a room somewhere for a night or going camping or once in a while. can’t afford that everytime but it would mix things up.

 

the thrid suggestion i am gonna make is not for everyone i know but it supposedly will mix things up: watch por together. preferably the old school ones. i read this in teresa strassers book eploiting my baby. she is 38 and got pregs the 3rd month doing this. i guess it brings out the mans competetive nature to see another man getting frisky. that can lead to a powerful “ending” if ya know what i mean. taking dirty is also an option or role play but i know many shy more conservative types can’t go that way. i do think that this is the one area where making it about sex sometimes and not just love and babies could spice things up. once you have that baby you might not have the chance to be kinky so it might be a fun thing to experiment with.

babydust to you no matter how you go about it! 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I agree with PP. Darling Husband and I “christened” the couch (uh yeah, we’ve been in our house over 3 years, isn’t that sad it took so long?!). We have done a lot of special dinners (light so I don’t feel bloated afterward!) with a nice glass bottle of wine, I have a little nighty I wear that helps me feel better. It covers my belly when I’m having a fat day 😉

GOOD LUCK!!!!!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I would love to be able to throw caution to the wind, and not track what my body’s doing – opks, cm, etc…But, I cannot.

So, while we still have a very active sex life, it is much more *sexy* or *hot* when we are not “babydancing.”  Darling Husband actually banned “babydancing” from our vocabulary.  So we just try to be as into it as possible, even though – myself included – we’re both aware that this is almost a business transaction:)  And I think the way we deal with that, is how we deal with everything – we just laugh about it:)  He’s my buddy, and he cracks me up, and we kind of just laugh our way through the process.  I don’t think I could handle putting that pressure on myself, feeling like it had to be *superhot* sex when it’s my fertile time…So we took the pressure off by kind of joking our way through that period. 

I wish I had more advice!  My Darling Husband actually doesn’t care for lingerie, so I always find it a waste of money because I only get to wear it for 4 seconds!  Sometimes I’ve actually told him I was keeping it on just to get my money’s worth out of it! So I don’t have anything there…I think my main advice would be to not put the pressure on you to make it just as hot as “non-bd” sex…The rest of the month – go for it! No pressure!

I will say that as a *birthday gift to ME* (yeah right) Darling Husband bought a Liberator.  That thing’s pretty cool.  But we only use it when we jam:)  That’s what we call sex – lol.  Not when we BD.

I take that back – the small triangle part of the Liberator, looks like a little ramp – Darling Husband puts that under my butt when we’re done so my hips and butt stay propped up:)  I don’t think that’s what the Liberator people meant it to be used for!

On Wed. morning before my Darling Husband left for work offshore, I knew we had X amt of time to get ready, BD, and get him to the airport.  So when I caught him in our backyard casually using some Roundup on the weeds around the pool, I scolded him that we were on a time frame, and he had more important things to do!  So I told him to quit squirting weeds and get upstairs:)  So I went upstairs, put the preseed in (sorry tmi) and layed in the bed – then he wandered in a few mins later.  He brushed his teeth (very sweet of him), and then I felt guilty because I hadn’t brushed mine, but I couldn’t get up or all the Preseed would leak out of me!  I told him this, and he just laughed and said, “I can tell what time of the month it is – I can’t even get a Courtesy Brush before we jam!”  I thought that was funny:)  So true! 

Sorry for the novel…I just really thought about your question…You are not alone MapleBecky!  Babydancing *gets* us all:)

ETA:  Here is the link to the liberator..I’m posting it from the CVS website, because the direct link to the liberator’s home page had a lot of nakedness on it, so here is a vanilla link to it:)

http://www.cvs.com/CVSApp/catalog/shop_product_detail.jsp?skuId=728043&productId=728043′ defer=’defer

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

TTC made me insane. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@lemondrop:  I wish there was a “like” button:)

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

LOL- it does crazy things to your brain (but then again, so does pregnancy, so I guess it is good practice!).  My poor husband put up with 10 months of temping and analyzing everything (it made me feel more in control, it drove him up the wall). 

I guess the real thing we did to make it fun was go on vacation for our anniversary, we relaxed, got some sun, had some drinks, and we brought home a souvenier that is kicking the heck out of my ribs right now. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We just started TTC….the only thing I am doing differently right now is putting a pillow under my butt for 15 minutes after sex….lol.

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