Post # 1
Let’s face it. Most of the time, us waiting bees are calm, cool, and collected women. But once in awhile, we’ll see someone else getting engaged, and our little green monster pops out, and wants to just behave like a petulant 3 year old in the cookie aisle at the grocery store. We do what we can to control it, but every once in a while, speaking for myself, our LGM just pops out, even if for a split second for our SO to see. Have any waiting bees found that this has had any affect on your relationship with your SO? If so, how?
I know mine is pretty minor. I’ve been guilty of a few bouts of the LGM, but now it seems if I ever say anything not totally positive related to someone else’s wedding or engagement, my SO thinks its LGM coming out to play. For example, I have one female cousin that I had always thought I was pretty close to, despite living on opposite sides of the country, who just got engaged to her on again off again boyfriend. I had sent her a message of congratulations on her engagement, and 2 weeks later, haven’t heard anything from her. I understand she may be busy, but even a quick thanks would have been appreciated. I had always pictured her in my bridal party, but know I feel like maybe she doesn’t see us as close as I have seen her, so I mentioned this to my SO that I didn’t think I could see her as a bridesmaid anymore whenever we get engaged. He automatically thought it was jealousy because she got engaged first. I finally got him to realize it wasn’t, I was just a little put off by her ignoring me. (Side note – it was a Facebook message as her e-mail kept bouncing back, so it did show that she read the message about an hour after I sent it).
How has your LGM affected you?
Post # 3
I usually try to hide it around the SO and complain mostly to my mom (poor gal). But sometimes the LGM does rear it’s ugly head infront of SO. Especially if they newly engaged couple has been together less time than us. #1. I know that is illogical because everyone is on their own timeline and it’s not a competition, and #2. it’s not really hard to do since SO and I have been together so long.
Outwardly he’s supportive when I get jealous, reminding how great our relationship is no matter what other people are doing. But I’m sure deep down he’s annoyed lol.
I mentioned to him once something along the lines of “You know how every girl gets that jealous feeling at first when a friend gets engaged” and he was so *shocked* by it!! Like he had no idea girls would be jealous of their friends even for a second. Don’t get me wrong, I’m very happy for my friends. But I can’t believe he wasn’t even aware of that girly competition stuff.
I think in that moment it made me look a little pathetic to him so I try not to show any jealousy of other engagements around him.
Post # 4
“Most of the time, us waiting bees are calm, cool, and collected women.” That’s a good one, tell me another: I’m pretty much always (at least internally) in 3 year old mode.
This is going to sound really stupid, but reality tv always brings out some version of my Green Eyed Monster. Despite knowing beyond a shadow of a doubt that every second is scripted, reality tv engagements and weddings are my kryptonite…and we have several shows we watch together:
Say Yes To The Dress (bridesmaids, bugets or the others): I mean, duh. Girls getting to pick dresses because someone proposed to them. It was on a loop yesterday afternoon and we were watching it for a couple hours.
My Big Fat American Gypsy Wedding: I’m obsessed with the “over-the-top” factor. This, too, was on yesterday and around the 2nd episode was when my whining started: “I REALLY want a Sondra Celli dress SOOO bad.” This actually played out well for me, though, as Boyfriend or Best Friend responded “I told you to email her, didnt you do that yet?” Oh. Well, shit. Boyfriend or Best Friend even said “…is there anything of mine she can bling so we match at the wedding?” It took a couple minutes of feeling him out to determine he was 100% serious.
and perhaps most embarrassing Welcome To Myrtle Manor. Next week it looks like one of the characters proposes to his Girlfriend in front of her trailor.
I’m sure a psychologist could explain why these are the people I get jealous of, but I sure cannot. I think BF just lets it roll because it’s so strange.