Post # 1
I was adding some things to my giant wedding binder and I came across my collection of torn-out wedding magazine page inspirations. It was interesting to see because so much of what I liked when we first got engaged is not going to be incorporated at all into our wedding!
We’ve changed our colors, our invitations (about 10 times!), our decor ideas, and especially our budget…we had no idea what things we wanted cost!
Our original vision (which we thought would be under $12,000):
- White and silver as colors
- Winter wonderland theme with crystal tree centerpieces
- Paper flowers for bouquets and kissing balls
- Close-fitting Lace Wedding Dress
- Buffet Dinner
- 150 people max
- Fancy silver winter-themed invitations, programs, place cards, etc
- Open Bar
I think the only things that stayed the same were having a band, the open bar, and our venue! What we’re actually doing, for closer to $16,000:
- Black and white as main colors with red accents
- Real flowers (from Sam’s Club) for bouquets and centerpieces
- Submerged rose centerpieces
- Colored uplighting
- Sit-down dinner
- Four-Tier Cake
- Tafetta Ballgown
- Candy Buffet
- We’ve already invited 225 people, so our original estimate is long gone!
- DIY Invitation and program kits from Michael’s (probably…we’ve changed this idea about a million times!)
- Open Bar
How has your vision changed since you started planning? What stayed the same or changed?
Post # 3
The overall idea and look of it hasn’t changed much, but there’s definitely things I was considering at first that I got rid of pretty quickly, like brooch bouquets for the bridesmaids. I’m really glad for this reason that I didn’t buy many “detail” type things toward the beginning of planning because I know I’d be looking at them now and wondering why I ever thought I’d want them.
Post # 4
At first we thought we were going to jump on the orange+aqua train of 2008-9 (we’ve been quasi-planning for a loooooong time) sit down supper, big bright punches of colour, ‘traditional’ flower options & arrangements, black tuxes, evening reception, loads of liquor, modern with manzita branches and tea lights kind of deal.
But as we got closer to actually setting things in stone and making concrete decisions, we took a big left turn to a more muted ‘vision’ including grey suits, lots of greens, blues and wood, more rustic decor, burlap, mid afternoon reception, a buffet style tea/lunch instead of a plated meal, no dancing (until the after party), dry reception (but open bar for the smaller group attending the after party), wildflowers/home grown & DIY bouquets and a bajillion paper details that no one but me will remember.
It is a biiiiiiiiig difference but I am actually really really happy we strayed from our initial ideas, because more and more I see what I dislike/what is not ‘us’ in that original ‘plan’.
Post # 5
We’ve changed a few things. The date was the big one. Then I changed my idea for the bridesmaids dresses, because I’d originally wanted sundresses, but no one was finding sundresses that were modest enough and long enough in a similar style and in the right colors. I started nixing that when my sister started looking at party dresses and asked them all to go with my dressmaker who could custom make dresses for $100.
We changed the groomsmen’s colors. We went from tuxes to dress shirts, slacks, and ties. We went more casual for me, as well, though my dress is still like a fairy tale dress. We added an arch with roses, which took a away a bit of the casual feel. We took away the flower girl and ring bearer and added a bell ringer.
We changed from a potluck reception to a dinner-on-the-grounds reception hosted by an anonymous benefactor. We changed from the idea of a traditional cake to cupcakes, which our friend is doing for us for our wedding gift. We changed from Bible bouquets to small pageant bouquets with Christian symbols on our ribbons. 1/2 off flowers at Hobby Lobby.
Quite a bit, we changed. Apparently this has made us criminal in the eyes of my sister. Anyone else have this issue with family? We are still keeping the cost down. So far, our wedding has cost us about $1300 dollars. All we have left to take care of are my shoes, my hair, and my makeup. But I suppose I will need to add in the cost of our rehearsal dinner ($30-60), and the hotel rooms my dad wants to spring for so that we can all be close by to each other on the wedding day ($700 roughly). Still not too shabby.
Post # 6
I originally thought I wanted casual when I was in the quasi planning stages. Then we got engaged this past St. Patty’s day, and I decided whimsical. After actually ordering my wedding dress and picking out the bm dresses, I’m officially elegant and formal-which I vowed no to be as I always thought of myself as nontraditional. Oh well.
Post # 7
Only a bit as we were originally looking at having a marquee for the reception.
I toyed with different ideas but went back to the original plan.
Post # 8
YES like ten times! Im glad others do this as well…I was starting to feel like the most indecisive person in the world!
Post # 9
Our one major change is our venue. At first we were going ahead with meetings with the coordinator at a big downtown hotel, but we’ve since changed to a historic venue in a neighboring town. I also thought I wanted matching bridesmaids dresses at the beginning, but I just can’t bring myself to do that now.
Post # 10
Alot of things changed during the course of planning, some due to budget restraints and some because we got a better deal thane expected or just changed our minds
- Venue: originally were trying to stay under $5500 we were going to use a community hall for the reception site and we actually put a $100 deposit on it. we later found a nice banquet hall for a reasonable price so we switched
- Guest list was around 250 and upwards but new venue has a max of 175
- Dress originally wanted an A line, ended up with a mermaid
- Centerpieces – wanted candles, mirror and colored water, decided to go with wooden letter, petals on ceramic tile
- Cake-originally wanted cupcakes- ended up with 3 tier chocolate cake
- Limo- originally wanted a chrysler 300 but we ended up booking a lincoln navigator stretch
- Chair covers– wanted self tie chair covers no sash. end up with regular chair covers with tulle sash.
The list goes on and on…
Post # 11
Nope. Once we decided on what we wanted, it was pretty much set from the beginning. The only thing I kept redoing was the invites. (What? I’m a perfectionist when it comes to my art!) Other than that, everything else has been dead-on for colors, theme, and scheme.
And this from someone who changes her mind CONSTANTLY! go figure! LOL!
Post # 12
@Mrs.Elivs: I’m really glad to see someone else say this, because I’ve been feeling like this! Starting off, I loved the idea of being sort of informal or non-traditional, but after everything and with all of the input from our families, our wedding is veering far more toward elegant and formal also. I love all of what we’ve picked though, so I may just need to admit to myself that I’m more traditional than I thought I was!
Post # 13
@twobecomeone: Wow! Way to go! And don’t let your sister get to you. She’ll get over herself eventually.
Post # 14
I’d say my overall vision hasn’t changed a whole lot, but just about everything else has. Once we decided on the date for our fall wedding, I loved the idea of having traditional fall colors – deep, rich reds, pumpkin oranges, and golden yellows. I wanted a lot of color to go along with ivory, because explosions of white sort of make me sick (personally) to my stomach. That much hasn’t changed, and some of the inspiration photos have still made it into our details. But otherwise I’ve found myself going with things different than I thought I wanted originally – wedding dress, actually having a veil, a white bouquet when I thought I wanted a colorful one, cake design, centerpieces…you name it.
What I’m glad about is that all of my indecisiveness has eventually led to what I think fits us better and is more of what I wanted all along. I just got sidetracked with all the possibilities out there! The only sad thing is the realization of how much stuff costs.