Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
When I was younger, I envisioned myself having a much grander wedding than we’re planning now. But I’m getting married a week before my 36th birthday and now all I want is something simple and romantic.
Did your vision of your wedding change as you got older, or are you having the wedding you’ve dreamed of as a child?
Post # 3
My vision changed, too. We’re getting married in less than 8 weeks and I just turned 37. To me, the most important thing is that we have a wedding that suits our taste, our style, and our vision, without giving in to the pressure that seems to come from all possible angles.
I had an idea of what my wedding might look like, but since we’ve been engaged and I’ve been embroiled in planning, I’m able to make choices that I never really knew were options, since the industry is fairly skilled at highlighting trends, and the most expensive ones at that. So, knowing that I can be beautiful without a strapless ball gown, that we can find a venue that isn’t gaudy — among other things — really makes me enjoy the process.
Thanks for posting this! It’s always good to remember to stay focused on your vision.
Post # 4
I never really thought about it when I was younger. But if I had gotten married at 25 instead of 35, I think I would have wound up having a larger and more traditional wedding. Now we’re planning a relatively small one (50-75 people), my dress is shorter and less poufy than I probably would have picked ten years ago, and we’re trying to keep it low key and casual (including a hike after the ceremony). Sadly, because of the location, we’re forgoing a taco truck–something I think would be perfect at any age! 🙂
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
@WeeBirdy – I love the idea of a hike after the ceremony. how cool! I would also LOOOOOOVE a taco truck!
Post # 6
Without a doubt…If I had been married in my 20s (I am 34), I would have worn a poofier dress- (I used to dream of Vera Wang), I would have more bridesmaids, and definitely more than the 70 people we are inviting. I am so happy that I am 30+ bride..I feel more prepared than I would have been a decade ago. 🙂
Post # 7
I agree with all of you–and I think I’d like to be a guest at your weddings!
Thanks, Danadelphia! We’re getting married in Yosemite–the ceremony’s in the morning on top of a mountain and the reception is at night in the Valley below. We thought a 5-mile hike down the mountain sounded perfect. (Optional, of course. I have no idea if any one but the two of us will want to get dragged down a mountain, but at least it’s better than UP the mountain.) We will bribe people with some snacks and champagne on the way down. I’m hoping that will make up for the missing taco truck.
I hope you’re all having a good week!
Post # 8
So funny, I think I may be the opposite in someways – as a 20-something – I never thought about a wedding and if any one had asked me, I would have said something like – simple, low-key, small. Now, at 34, I’m getting married and keep surprising myself – I have a fairly ornate dress (lots of bead work), a larger guest list (150), and a much more formal even than I would have planned earlier in life. I laugh at myself nearly everyday.
Post # 9
I am definitely surprised about how my wedding vision has changed! I am definitely with the rest of you who say the wedding is smaller, and more laid back. We also can’t justify spending all that money for one day. So we’ve decided to rent an AMAZING house for a week, have our wedding party stay with us (it has 10 bedrooms), and have the wedding right there with our small group of 60. If this was 10 years ago, it would have been twice as big, twice the cost, and about 1/4 of the time!
Post # 10
I feel like the odd one since my wedding visions never changed, though I’m not lucky enough to get the wedding of my dreams (I wanted a destination wedding… FH wanted the big white wedding, so between him and pressure from my family i get the big white wedding…sigh.. though in some weird way, i’m starting to enjoy it).
I do think, though, in my 20s I’d have had a better chance in convincing everyone that destination was the way to go 😉
Post # 11
It’s hard to say this in a nice way, but I’ve been surprised how who attends the wedding doesn’t matter to me. The wedding is going to small anyway, but I’m at a point where if the required participants are there, anyone else is icing on the cake. I certainly have more money to pay for the wedding now versus 10 years ago, but sometimes that doesn’t help so much!
Post # 12
My vision has totally changed over the years and I’m not even quite 30 yet (getting close, 6 months away). No train or frou-frou dress, no big bridal party, no registering for china, a lot of things. I’m the one who used to love all things wedding and now that I’m the bride, I’m just not that into being bride-y. Go figure!
I’m also inviting my bosses to the wedding and the image of me walking down the aisle in a big poufy dress where they could see me kinda makes my stomach churn.
Post # 13
How funny! Mine has changed since I’ve been engaged and started looking at the costs (all of which we will pay for) and the people who are going to be there and the people I really WANT there and I knew I was NOT going to pay $30+ a person to feed 150 of my “closest” friends.
We are now going to get married in the club house of a friend’s complex and we have a grad total of 55 people on the guest list – and 5 of those are my sister’s 5 kids!
I actually LOVE that it will be small and intimate and that it will only be our close friends and family.
Sometimes being “old” has positive moments!
Post # 14
I acutally was married in my 20’s (23 to be exact) and I went for the poofy dress, cheap food, silly shoes and the wrong husband! 🙂 Now that I’m 30 (I’ll be 31 on my wedding day) I took the time to think about the kind of wedding I REALLY wanted and now that I’m getting married for the right reasons I think that is what has made the difference. No poofy white dress, an ivory satin sheeth instead. Spending money where we want to and not trying to go cheap, and (opposite to others here) this wedding is nearly 3 times as big. We wanted to truly celebrate with all friends and family and not exclude anyone to reduce costs. After doing that in my first wedding I really regretted it. Overall, I’m more relaxed about the whole thing and am really focusing on the ceremony and the meaning behind all this. Because, now that i”m in my 30’s, I realized that there is a purpose! Funny what nearly 10 yeras does (and again the RIGHT man!)
Post # 15
I am getting married in four months and my vison has changed. I am 34 and i am having a court wedding bc my fiance lives in Argentina and i live in NY. its trhe only option to get him here. Anyway i went from planning a 330 person wedding which i cancelled to a courtroom marriage. But im in love so anything is good right now!!
Post # 16
honestly, mine is pretyy darn close to what i envisioned. i’d say the main difference is i expected it to be on an ocean beach and instead it’s in a field next to a forest. otherwise, casual, barefeet, linen dress, flowers in my hair and a man by my side that loves me for my quirks (instead of inspite of!). =D