- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2010
So I have what many guests told me was a beautiful wedding, but I can’t get over the fact that many details went wrong that they don’t know about.
I’m totally an anal retentive bride with an eye for design and detail but at the same time, I am super-sensitive about not being pushy or bossy so I was afraid to ask for a lot of things from other people. I wish I could have been my own coordinator because I seemed to do so well organizing and helping with details for other events. However I am told that I can not be the bride and coordinate at the same time. I don’t know about that. I have run my own events before, so why not my wedding?
Anyways, quite a number of things went wrong.
My wedding coordinator cried off and on thru out my day, messed up some things, caused me to lose my group shot opportunity, etc. Seriously, I should have been the one crying. I mean, isn’t that the bride’s job to cry when something goes wrong, not hers? 😛
I also just found out tonight that one of my girlfriends, whom I originally asked to be a bridesmaid but declined initially, would have liked to have been the 4th bridesmaid I so badly wanted! (I was particular about picking someone I liked and was close too and she fit the bill perfectly!) She declined initially because she had some concerns like she would too busy helping me coordinate or that she wouldn’t look right in my pics because she was bigger, etc. Well, I didn’t care about those things. She’s beautiful the way she is and I would have been so happpy to have her in so many more of my pics with me! Sigh, but she feared intruding afterwards and didn’t bring it up and I had feared pressuring her or others into doing what they didn’t want, so I didn’t ask twice. Gosh, if only I had been more persistent, if only she didn’t fear speaking up… if only… if only…
There were so many “if only’s”.
If only I had asked her again…
If only I had more time for pics with my groom…
If only I had spent more money and hired a better planner.
If only I had given myself another year to plan my wedding.
If only this and that…
What and how do other brides get over their wedding regrets?
I find myself sleepless and answering to posts on the weddingbee, trying to help other brides for the past two weeks following my wedding. It is slowly getting less painful to think about, but still, there’s a lot of sadness and regrets.
And it feels that no matter how much I try to help out other brides so that hopefully they’ll have a better wedding, I will never be able to redo my wedding.
There is no time machine. Why not?!!
I thought maybe I would do a photo session with my now-hubby to make up for some of the missed photo opportunities.
The 4th bridesmaid to be has offered to now get a dress and dress up for a day so we can have all the pictures together that we want and missed from her not being in my bridal party. I am going to go thru with this and make my wonderfully accommodating bridesmaids dress up again in the same outfit to help me relive the day for photos. It’s a cute idea and all, but still, I can’t help but be sad that it won’t be exactly the day of my wedding anymore and I won’t have the pics with the other friends. 🙁
How have other brides gotten over their missed photo and other opportunites from their wedding day? Could you all share a few words of encouragement? Thanks!