(Closed) How have you changed?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
3421 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

My Hunnie Bear is the so wonderful to me and we have an amazing life and home together. I cannot wait to be his wife. Though I will wait patiently until the end of the year. After V-day…I may not be so nice. But here are the awesome parts about being US.

How I’ve changed (for the better) while dating my SO:

  • I know what it means to have a calm, peaceful home.
  • I’m less hyper. Much more calm
  • I know the differences in levels of intimacy. Not everything is about vulgar sex.
  • I feel much more balanced.
  • Comprimise is a wonderful thing.
  • I have learned how to let go and enjoy the moment. not every second needs to be planned to a T.
  • It is not all about me.

How he’s changed with me:

  • He’s much more expressive and affectionate.
  • He enjoys rising to the occation and pulling his weight, now that he has a stable home.
  • He’s better with money now! Woot!
  • He’s very self assured. But thats because of maturity.
  • He is less repressed.

I do feel great about my SO. He’s the one I want rocking chairs with.

Post # 4
366 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I have changed by: cursing less, being  more religious, perfecting my speech in our second language, cooking more, more aware of money management

He’s changed by: being more understanding of women’s bodies, being goofier, being more ambitious


Should there be a how I changed in a negative way list? lol


Post # 6
366 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@SoobySays:  Good point, staying positive is probably a better gameplan for waiting lol. I started looking at that “You know you’ve been waiting too long when…” post and it cracked me up! It totally was making more anxious though, had to look away 😀

Post # 7
647 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

i am now more laid back and relaxed, he can calm me down with one word. i know now what it is not only to “play house” (i lived with my ex for one year, terrible experience), but plan a family and gladly look into the future with someone you love to death. i’ve also become much more goofy, sweet, romantic and truly happy with him.

can say all of the above about him, too. 🙂

Post # 9
1358 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Well…my Fiance and I started dating when we were 15 and 17 (minus a semester we dated other people in college), so I’d say we’ve changed a lot in 8 years, since we went from teenagers to adults.

When I first started dating my Fiance, he had low self esteem and was sure he wanted kids in his early 20’s. Now, he’s much more ambitious, and we’ve decided we don’t want kids. He’s also more aware of the fact that his father’s kind of a biggot (not blatantly, but he makes a lot of racist/sexist jokes that Fiance knows make me uncomfortable) and separates himself from that attitude.

I’m also incredibly stubborn, and with him, I’ve learned to become much less of an argumentative know-it-all, Hermione-type, and I don’t interrupt as much (except with my family, which is essential if you’re going to get a word in edgewise!).

Post # 10
5065 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’m totally at peace with myself. I love our life together. I’m excited to build a home together.

Post # 11
1358 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@SoobySays:  Haha, we have our own weird language things, too. I find it nearly impossible to pronounce certain things properly without pausing first now. For example, I find it very difficult to say “sandwich” now instead of “sammich”, or “coupon” instead of “coopin.”

I also like that we stop to whisper to each other “I like you” or “I think you’re cute” in public. It’s a little first-grader, but it always gets a smirk out of me.

Post # 12
8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@SoobySays:  Good idea for a post!

How I’ve changed (for the better) while dating my SO:

  • I am more financially secure, less stupid with money
  • I am more goal oriented. I always was a planner but he helps me be even more organized
  • I think I’m a bit less selfish
  • I am better at handling difficult situations – his advice really helps me
  • I am more secure in a lot of ways – he doesn’t belittle me like my ex did
  • I am more wordly
  • I am now much more traveled!
  • I am less paranoid

How he’s changed with me:

This is kind of a tough one because I guess I didn’t know him well before we got into a relationship!

  • He has fun. His previous marriage lacked that!
  • I think he’s a little less rigid than he was before. We both like structure and planning but he is more spontaneous in a fun kind of way
  • I think that he’s less stressed out and work focused
  • Basically he enjoys life more, gets more out of life, has more hope for the future etc

Post # 13
640 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

How I’ve changed (for the better) while dating my SO:

  • I have more confidence to take risks and follow my heart
  • ( had to steal this one!)I eat better because he’s a great cook!
  • He gave me the strength to stand up to a friend who was treating me badly for years
  • I believe more that everything truly happens for a reason and we all have a destiny!

How he’s changed with me:

  • He doesn’t let people walk all over him
  • He has made large strides toward his dream career
  • He is happier than ever for many reasons but one big one because my family have embraced him with open arms which is something he didn’t have with his
  • His confidence in himself has grown ten fold in so many ways
  • He dresses MUCH better and cuts his hair to an appropriate length ( when I met him he has this long hair which just wasn’t workin’!)


Post # 14
1979 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

How I’ve changed (for the better) while dating my SO:

  • I am punctual!! (I used to be late for everything, ALWAYS- my friends even comment on how I’m always on time or EARLY now!)
  • I stole this one too- I eat better because he’s a great cook! (he went to culinary school and used to work in a restaurant but he makes more money as an engineer… so I eat REALLY well!)
  • I got back into running (I ran in highschool, but I hadn’t done it in YEARS) and this year we ran a 5K and 2 Half Marathons together
  • I don’t wear makeup or do my hair every day

How he’s changed with me:

  • He swears less
  • He talks to his family more
  • His road rage is a bit better
  • His confidence in himself has grown ten fold in so many ways
  • He went back to school so he can do something he is passionate about
  • He is more social (I’m really outgoing and he is an introvert)
  • He celebrates holidays!!! I LOVE holidays!!!
  • He got more into running and is now training for the Boston Marathon and hopes to do the Big 5 Marathons one day: Boston, New York, London, Berlin, and another one I can’t remember at the moment

It’s nice to have a positice thread!! Helps make the waiting worth it!  🙂

Post # 15
1541 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@HeartsandSparkles:  Haha how did he make you punctual?? This is probably one of the most common arguments with my SO and me. I am super on time and he is ALWAYS late! In 5 years, nothing has changed. I can’t get him to understand that time matters! hahaha

Aside from that, when I first started dating my SO, I had extreme anxiety. He’s totally helped me over come that better than any medication or doctor has. I probably wouldn’t have been as successful in school if it wasn’t for him. He’s totally helped me calm down.

Plus, now I can look toward the future and actually get excited!

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