(Closed) How have you handled an unresponsive/rude bridesmaid?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
2512 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I cut my Maid/Matron of Honor from my wedding a few months after getting engaged.

When I first got engaged she seemed really happy. Then she started kind of not caring. Basically the same unresponsiveness you mentioned. Then the last straw was when I told her I was looking at different options for Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses and she said that it was “fucking stupid” that I wanted everyone to have the same dress. So I cut her.


Do I regret it? Yes.

Why? Because she is still my friend. Instead of just cutting her I should have just asked her straight up what the issue was and why she was acting all messed up. We talked it out after the damage had been done and she said she was just stressed out because she was in her cousin’s wedding and her cousin was being really demanding of her. So we both apologized. If I would have just asked her in the first place we could have talked it out and things would have been alright in the end. So I regret not having her next to me on my big day.


So my suggestion is be straight up and honest with her. Ask her why she is acting like that and see if you guys can resolve it before cutting her. If things don’t work out then cut away.

Good luck (sorry it was so long) 

Post # 4
148 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m with PP. Ask her to lunch, and have an open, honest talk. Ask her if anything is bothering her because she hasn’t seemed like herself lately. She might say she doesn’t want to be in the wedding, she has a lot of stressful things going on, or something else. You won’t know unless you ask her, though, and you need to know what’s making her seem so distant before you jump to cutting her. 

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