- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
I posed a few days ago about my so called best friend/bridesmaid who has suddenly been rude to me and blowing me off. We have a long history and I was there for her (as MOH) in her wedding…but honestly I don’t need to put up with someone, ANYONE stressing me out and bringing me down right now. She’s like family, but I’m sick of her crap. I’m also feeling very betrayed bc I was there for her and she’s not being there for me.
She hasn’t responded to emails or texts. (I haven’t demanded anything of them, just sharing news) My sis (MOH) is trying to arrange a Bridesmaid or Best Man lunch and shopping day – she’s been cold and non responsive to her too. She didn’t respond to me when I told her I found my wedding dress and sent me some snarky text days later about responding to things ‘in priority’. After I called her upset, she left me a cold and formal email and I haven’t heard from her since. I can’t believe she is being like this and I have no idea why.
She SHOULD be in my wedding. It would be really weird if she wasn’t, including for all my guests who associate us together.
I’m normally a very forgiving patient person but right now I’m losing tolerance for the position she is putting me in – not rsponding, not apologizing for being rude and hurting my feelings, and leaving me hanging and waiting on her. I’m feeling very cut-throat because I deserve better from her, especially for this. If it were any other time I’d let it pass but I can’t afford to do that now, I have to feel supported and like I can make decisions with the people I’ve chosen to stand up with me. And time goes fast!
My other major concern is that I can’t continue to worry about this happening again as I keep moving forward, I have a long time right now but I don’t want to leave decisions to the last minute causing more stress, and if we make up now – I already feel like she let me down and was a bad friend (recently)…I don’t know how to forget about that. What if she pulls this selfish act again later?
I haven’t been talking about the wedding non stop. In fact I’ve barely talked to her since we got engaged, she’s never available. She was super excited when I asked her and then it stopped.
How do you move forward in making plans with someone who just won’t respond or seems to not care or is just too busy for you? What to do??
Have any of you regretted cutting a bridesmaid? Will this get better or worse as we get closer and busier?