(Closed) How have you honored deceased relatives?

posted 9 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
1230 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

We honored two of our deceased family members at our wedding with memory candles and by adding a personal note about them in our programs.

I had a friend who lost her father before her wedding.  Her mother walked her down the aisle and carried a beautiful candle/lantern sort of thing to represent her father walking with her.  It was beautiful and they noted it in the program so all the guests would know what it meant.  Then the candle/lantern was placed on the seat where her father would have been.

Just an idea.

Post # 4
818 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

We’re going to do a memorial table at the ceremony/reception (haven’t decided which) with an engraved vase of his favorite flowers, a framed poem, and my brother is going to draw a picture of him.

Post # 6
1205 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’m working on the same issue, although I have a deceased grandmother and uncle. I am going to have the officiant say a few words after he welcomes everyone to our wedding that will include those people as well as those who couldn’t make the journey. I’m a little worried about tearing up at this part — as I have done at a recent wedding — but I think it’ll be worth it to have something said.

It’ll go like, "the couple wants to thank each of you for being with them today. They’d also like to acknowledge those family members who were unable to join them, the grandparents XYZ as well as others who couldn’t join us in our location." You get the gist. I like the idea of a memorial table for your dad, though. 

Post # 7
14183 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m making a note in my programs to honor deceased members of our immediate family. If i see anything too intense, i’ll probably start bawling since i lost my brother only a year and 2 months ago. But, we are having acoustic guitar music in his honor and I know he’d appreciate that because he always said he’d play at my wedding.

Post # 9
61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

We are doing a memory table that will have photos of loved ones that have past away. We are incorporating this into our ceremony. Our Junior Bridesmaids will be carrying (escorting) framed photos of our loved ones down the aisle and will set up the photos on the table.

During the ceremony, the Jr. BMs are going to ready poem dedicated to our loved ones that passed on and then will be lighting a candle that, in theory, will stay lit during the whole wedding.

In addition, one of my BMs passed away at the end of February and I am still listing her on my program as one of the BMs and will be putting a footnote about her passing.

Post # 10
2433 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We’re doing a memorial table for my maternal grandmother, a person who was very special to both of us. There will be a single Bird of Paradise in a vase on a memorial table close to the altar in the church, along with a framed photograph of her and I.

I am also wearing a 5-strand crystal necklace which once belonged to her to keep her close to my heart throughout the day and we’re setting up a standing mirror I inherited from her in the dressing area of the church so that the first time I see myself fully dressed, I am in her mirror.

She absolutely loved weddings and it hurts to know that she isn’t going to be there. But I think symbolic items throughout the day make their memory specialand reminds you to keep them in your heart throughout the day.

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