(Closed) How helpful is your FI in wedding planning?

posted 5 years ago in Beehive
  • poll: How helpful is your FI in wedding planning? Which option applies the best?
    I wrote our wedding date in his calendar, but he just isn't that interested in wedding things! : (4 votes)
    8 %
    He doesn't much of opinion about most things, but cares tremendously about a couple things : (23 votes)
    48 %
    He cares about some things, but mostly because he knows how important it is to me : (7 votes)
    15 %
    We split the work evenly and both have opinions and compromise to accommodate each other : (12 votes)
    25 %
    He wrote the date in my calendar, I plan on showing up! : (1 votes)
    2 %
    other (explain) : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 16
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    182 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    Mine hasnt really “helped” with much per se. He went with me to check out the venue (I already mentally had most of our wedding planned when we got engaged bc we had been together so long and go to a lot of wedding because we have huge families) He said it was fine so then that was all set, and he went with me to meet the photographer and dj (they work together) that I love, and thats it. Thankfully my Maid/Matron of Honor, mom and aunts are awesome and have gone with me to everything else! I tell him all the choices and the decisions that I’ve made and he says ok and that it. The only thing he really wants to be involved with is the tuxes and thats good

    Post # 17
    Member
    416 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2015 - Historic house and gardens

    If it wasn’t for him, I don’t know that there would be a wedding. He is extremely good at the details, and really loving organising things for our big day. He’s the same way with the honeymoon. He thinks so much bigger than I do, that I am getting a truly dream-like wedding and honeymoon without even asking. I would definitely have been happy with less and am very pleasantly surprised with just how much better it all is than expected.

    Post # 18
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    1181 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    My Darling Husband did a lot, he designed the invites, menus, & programs. We did our engagement shoot ourselves, but he put together the guest album using our engagement pics, he picked out the tuxes, he got the dj, picked the venue, & helped with the placement cards. I did the ceremony, & Picked the ceremony music, we pick our first dance song together.

    Post # 19
    Member
    182 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    I have picked out most ideas and vendors, but he has gone with me to every vendor meeting and shares his opinion. I have given him a few tasks though, he arranged the DJ (and llights/photobooth) and hotel room blocks.

    Post # 20
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    1612 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    He has an opinion on most things but I’m in charge lol. When it came to picking vendors, I did the contacting and research and then confered before doing the selection. The only exception there was the DJ. My fiance worked in the radio industry for years as a Music Director and then Program Director and wanted to make sure the DJ played good music (and wasn’t a microphone hog). He did the research there and we confered. Both of use went to all vendor meetings.

    He was compeltely useless when I was putting the invites together recently. I did all the work and he was moral support lol.

    Post # 21
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    4892 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    My Fiance has been helpful with what he needs to do, or feels like he needs to do. I do keep him in the loop with a lot of the ideas I’ve had, just to make sure he’s OK with them. This wedding is for the both of us, so I don’t want it to seem like everything was being done because that is how I wanted it to be done.

    I haven’t really put him in charge of anything specific, but have asked for his help with various things. I know once it gets lcoser, we’ll sit down and figure out the music for all of the wedding party dances, and then music to play in between the band breaks. I want to make sure he’s OK with it all before I make some playlists with what I think will be good times.

    We’re coming up on the 2-month mark and more stuff will need to be done between now and then, like meeting with the photographer, reception venue, officiant, band, and cake options – so he’ll definitely be involved in all of those meetings.

    I guess I should say that he did a great job helping with invitations… made the process of stamping and putting the RSVP numbers on them a much easier process (my mm actually stuffed them, so that also made our job easier). He also created an awesome map for the ceremony venue. My mom thought we needed one, so he got it put together in one night and it’s great – I am proud.

    • This reply was modified 5 years, 2 months ago by  Kacie209.
    Post # 22
    Member
    4524 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I do more of the leg work when it comes to researching ideas, but he’s very involved in making the final decisions.

    Post # 23
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    1341 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2019

    I pretty much do all the research and will run all of my ideas by him, but he lets me have the final say. I’ve tried to press him for what he wants and I would say about 80% of the time he just says,”Whatever you want is what I want. How much is it?” That doesn’t help meeee, lol.

    But he is very particular about some things. He insists that my dress be white(ish) and long (and it is), that he get to look like James Bond for his day of attire, and that we absolutely must have shrimp cocktail and coconut shrimp at the reception.

    I don’t want to take over the whole thing, though, and I try to include him where I can. I find that the key is to let him know what he needs to do so he can do it. Right now his only tasks are to formally ask his groomsmen and pick out music for his half of the reception playlist. He can do that I’m sure. 😉

    Post # 25
    Member
    594 posts
    Busy bee

    He’s waaaaaay more into it than I am! I pretty much only care about the marriage license, ha – I’d be happy just going to city hall tomorrow and signing the papers.

    He had the idea to elope in Vegas, and I could not be happier with our plan! He’s going to be the one choosing what hotel we stay at and where we do it (I’ll be happy as long as there’s an Elvis involved)! I picked out my dress (an antique red evening gown that I paid $40 for and tailored myself), and that’s the extent of my input. I’ve never been one to swoon over floral arrangements and wedding favors, so his solution is perfect for us.

    Post # 26
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    198 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Mine was no help whatsoever except for arguing over wedding colors. it seemed like that was the only thing he cared about and it is such a weird thing for a guy to make a big deal about!

    Post # 27
    Member
    416 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2015 - Historic house and gardens

    imhisoneandonly:  Mine is also really interested in the colours, although he is interested in most things to do with the wedding. Our colour scheme was his choice, I probably would have gone for something a little different. Strange what they find important..lol.

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