How high should I set engagement ring?

posted 2 months ago in Rings
Post # 2
2876 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2006

That’s reeeeeeally tall. Average is probably 6-7mm for a smaller center stone. Even lower depending on the stone size and the setting. Maybe 7-8mm for your size? 

If you want it to stand out, it definitely will! Can they do a plastic model of the setting before it’s cast in gold? 

Post # 3
5892 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

I guess it depends on the setting and how it is measured. Is the 9 mm distance from the table to your finger? If so, it isn’t unreasonable, IMO, because the band alone will likely be slightly over 1 mm high, then the basket meeting the band would account for another mm, and a distance of 1 mm between the bottom of your stone and the basket/bottom of the prongs is also realistic. So add 3 mm to the stone’s height of almost 6 mm, and that accounts for everything. 

For reference, mine is a classic cathedral setting, neither overly low nor overly high. But you can see that from my finger to the table of the stone there is the band, the prongs meeting the band and the slight space below the stone. Because my stone is a 1.71 ct it isn’t as tall as a larger ct weight, but for a 5.9 mm stone, a 9 mm setting is just not overly high.

Post # 4
6022 posts
Bee Keeper

A 3.3 in’t going to look small no matter how low you set it. personally I would go for as low as possible while still making cleaning possible. This is a great setting to show how low you can go and it is still huge, gorgeous and easy to wear

eta – here is a thread that shows a really high set (temp) and the much lower custom setting

Post # 5
6138 posts
Bee Keeper

My ring from the bottom of my finger to the top of the ring is almost half an inch.  And I love it.  I really couldn’t imagine it any shorter in height.

Post # 6
2814 posts
Sugar bee

Lol. The third time you slam it into something you will regret setting it so high.

— owner of two 3.2ct diamonds.

Post # 7
9444 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

I would honestly set it as low as possible, but IDK if that defeats the “cathedral look” (it probably does). A 3+ ct diamond is going to pop no matter what you set it in! The important thing is that it is secure in it’s setting so it doesn’t get cracked or come loose.

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