(Closed) How I got over myself and learned to love my ring

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Great post!! I love my ring but it isn’t traditional… I have 2 micro bands one is diamond and one is amethyst… I love it but sometimes I feel weird cause people grab my hand and are looking for something more traditional for an engagement ring(s)…

NE way, welcome to the hive…This place is seriously addicting πŸ™‚

Post # 17
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Busy Beekeeper

woo hoo, i have 0.25 carat ring as well! and its heart shaped and i love it! i was like you in that i didnt want anything big or crazy, plus i knew he couldnt afford. but i did want a say in it and when i discovered heart shape, i was sold! however, we had decided on 1/3 carat and long story short, he had to get 1/4.   the only time i am not head over heels for my ring is when i spend too much time oggling over bigger diamonds on weddingbee! then i have days when i just look at my gorgeous ring and wonder why did i ever question it, its exactly what i want!

and i want to see a pic of yours!

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think it’s great that you’re sharing your story. It isn’t always to admit negative feelings towards something that means so much. I know because I was one of them. I was unhappy with my ring but it had nothing to do with the size, it was the style.  The ring meant a lot to me from the moment it was presented afterall it represented his love for me and knowing he chose ME to spend the rest of his life with. It doesn’t get any sweeter than that. YET it’s a ring and one I will wear for the rest of my life and I wanted to love the ring as much as I loved him.

When I first confronted my feelings about it I couldn’t have imagined trading it for something different because he chose it. After much discussion between him and I he told me it wasn’t about the ring, he wanted me to be his wife with that ring or any other, it didn’t change how he felt about me. In the end, he wanted me to be happy when I look at the ring.

We opted to trade it because I felt it meant more to me to keep the ring we were married with so the time was now and I’m over the moon in love with the new ring that STILL means he chose me to be his wife.

I’m sooo happy that you have come to love your ring and I’m sure it will help others to know that they’re not alone in their feelings. I tried to do the same and went through quite the ordeal trying to make it what I loved. To each his own. Some people don’t feel it’s right to change your e-ring but for me I don’t quite get upgrading after marriage. I don’t ever want a different ring and after all we have gone through with the ring, it almost feels even more special.

Congrats on loving your ring…every bride should!

Post # 20
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711 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

lol it looks exactly like my ring – which I love!!

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

@MissTillie: I love your ring!

and I know exactly how you feel. I actually loved my ring from the beginning, but when I saw all these gorgeous rings in wedding bee, I started to get a little envious and was plotting a way to ask my man if I could upgrade to a moissanite – I wanted it to be bigger and a different cut, but not more expensive!

so anyway, I was having it appraised and I was without it for 2 weeks. in the interim, I wore a fairly nice quality (as in, it wasn’t totally fake looking) big CZ ring that was the exact size and cut I had alway wished for. at first, I stared at it all the time and wished it was my official ring. but after 1 week or so, I started to feel self-conscious about how big it was and I once took it off before I went to a party– I didn’t want my friends to think it was real! when I finally got my ring back, I was so happy to put it on!

Post # 22
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Your ring is absolutely GORGEOUS! I personally think it is the perfect size for your hand. I have the same size finger and I am eventually going to be getting around the same size diamond as you have (when my SO pops the question.) lol I know exactly how you felt when you forgot your ring at home. My SO bought me a promise ring a few months ago and when I found out it was just three very tiny diamonds set in sterling silver I was disappointed. In my mind I was thinking “Oh no! If this is the promise ring that he wants to give the love of his life I can only imagine what the e-ring is going to be…” It was very wrong of me to think that but I let my greediness get the best of me. But then one day I completely forgot to put it on. I felt the way you did when you didn’t have yours on. Since that day I have never looked back and I could care less what he spent, or what it is set in. Its the thought that matters and the meaning. I couldn’t be happier and couldn’t ask for a better man. I smile everytime I look at it! =)

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I love this post! πŸ™‚ And just noticed we are wedding day twins!

My fiance took me ring shopping and I found my ring that day! It was staged with a huge diamond (that’s not my personality). I laughed and stated I wanted a much smaller one. Needless to say, we found the one. He and my Future Mother-In-Law chose a 3/4 carat diamond that was perfect for my small finger. I began to feel insecure when people would call it “dainty, cute, delicate, nice, pretty, adorable….” But then I realized it matched me, my fiance and our lifestyle. I realized I LOVE those words and that’s exactly what I wanted my ring to express! I love it more each day…

Anyway, I love what you all posted.

Post # 26
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310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I absolutely love your ring! I have the opposite occur to me! He went bigger than what I wanted. It took some time to feel comfortable with it too. I’m glad you fell in love with it. 

I can’t wait to see what band you choose with it. Smile

Post # 27
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think your ring is gorgeous & soo glad you love it now! πŸ™‚ Such a great story to share, hopefully other bee’s who don’t love their ring will take this story and fall in love with their ring as well. My ring is 1/5 carat solitaire on a size 7 finger & I love it!!!!!! πŸ™‚ 

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

What a great story. So happy for you!  And also, I think the ring looks perfect on your finger!

Post # 29
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

First off, welcome! πŸ™‚

Secondly, thank you so much for posting this story!  I too found myself in this situation every so often.  While I love my ring and my fiance, I can’t help but obsess over the negatives of my ring.  It’s a stunning piece of jewelry, but it’s a 3-stone, which could look cluttered.  The center stone is a little over 1/2 a carat and when I see people with .75 or more, I turn green with envy.  However, when I step back and really think about my ring and admire the amazing sparkle, I realize the meaning is what’s important, as well as quality of both the ring and the relationship.  The quality of my ring is amazing in comparison to other engagement rings of lesser quality for a greater price.

Because of the intense love I have for my future husband, he could have proposed to me with an onion ring and I would have said yes, despite the fact that I hate onions!

So again, thank you for posting because now I don’t feel like a terrible bride-to-be for originally feeling the same way.

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

This is a bit late, I apologize, but I stumbled upon it. I appreciate it a lot and thanks for posting! I second guess everything I do and had some say in my type of ring. I find myself wishing for something very often, like a different setting or size stone, etc.

However, I do love it so much. In the beginning changed the setting twice and felt so badly each time because of sentimental reasons. Some days it seems impossible not to obsess because there are sooo many rings out there to love. However my Fiance spent a portion of her childhood savings after not even dating me very long, and the ring is amazing. So what more could someone ask for? That’s what its all about. Thanks again for sharing! Ring OCD sucks and its great to love without it!

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