- 2 weeks ago
- Wedding: September 2020
Hi Bees! I see a lot of serious and sad posts on here about waiting a lot of the time and I thought this could be a funny story for people to enjoy.
I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now, living together for 1, and for the past couple of months we have been talking about marriage and our future together so I guess I’m ‘waiting’. We haven’t set any sort of timeline because I don’t feel like that’s necessary in our relationship. He knows I would say yes if he asked me, he wants to marry me, and I’m happy to leave it at that until he is ready to officially ask me.
Now my birthday is December 22nd and for a month before my birthday my Boyfriend or Best Friend had been talking about how he planned a whole special day for me and how excited he is to surprise me. I suspected he was going to propose. He’s not one to plan surprises normally and the fact that he was putting in so much work made me think it was for a proposal.
Reasons I thought he would propose:
1. He bought a ring (didn’t know I knew)
2. My brother was talking about getting him a “first (my last name) Christmas” ornament for Christmas and I said why? My sister literally bought him that last year, and he said “last year you guys were serious and stuff but this year he’s my brother in law” which I thought was a strange thing to say. Also my SO and brother are very close so if anyone would know my SOs plans it would be him
3. His mom came over and was talking about how she would’ve just given my SO her ring but thought it was bad luck because she’s divorced
4. His dad kept talking about how my SOs planning to get engaged when they are talking on the phone (my SO would always look at me and mouth “in the future” which I thought was to throw me off)
5. My SO kept talking about how perfect and special my birthday is going to be and how I’ll remember it forever
6. My SO said he was nervous for one aspect of what was planned for my birthday
There are even more things honestly but those are the big hints I took from the month before my birthday! I built it up in my head, prepared myself, and honestly was expecting it to happen.
So! Now it’s my birthday, the night before my SO keeps secretly packing stuff and I assume it’s the ring, he keeps telling me how excited he is for the next day (same!). Morning of he wakes me up at 8 and drives me to our first activity which is my first professional massage. It was amazing, he is friends with the owner of the spa and they opened early for us so we had a private couples massage before they opened. Also I can’t believe I’ve been missing out on massages my whole life like what a waste of my benefits!
Now I’m getting more pumped as the day goes on, we go to brunch, it was lovely, at brunch he asks me about how long I would want to wait after getting engaged to get married, we talked about it. At this point I can see he’s starting to wonder if I’m thinking that he’ll propose and he mentions it will be a surprise and not for a while. I should have believed him. Next we go shopping and he buys me a new pair of shoes. At this point I’m starting to think “shoot I might have been wrong, maybe it won’t happen today” but instead of going with that I just get confused. Mostly because I had convinced myself it was going to happen.
Then we go to a movie which was great, run out of the theatre as soon as credits roll and start driving to the next activity. He blind folds me when we arrive at the next place and leads me into a beautiful hotel in Toronto where he booked us a nights stay! It was amazing but at this point I’m starting to get sad and I think he could tell. Then he orders a car to take us to this really cute winter festival that’s being held in Toronto. By the time we get there I realize it’s not happening today and I start crying. His reaction was “omg you were expecting a proposal I didn’t even realize!” And he got pretty upset. He started talking about how he wanted this day to be perfect and he felt like it was ruined because I was upset. He asked me why I was expecting a proposal and I told him all of the reasons above. He welled up a little and admitted that he had bought the ring but he had wanted it to be a complete surprise. He was sad that I knew about it but I told him the proposal can still be a surprise and I’m ok knowing that he has the ring! We’ve talked about marriage and knowing we’ll get married one day is kind of like knowing he has the ring. He told me his family told him he should have proposed on my birthday as well but he wanted it to be a separate event. Because my birthday is so close to Christmas he wanted to make sure I had an actually birthday that wasn’t overshadowed by anything else and a special proposal day that wasn’t overshadowed by anything else.
I stopped crying (I was crying out of guilt for not appreciating what he had done for my birthday) and we both ended up laughing about it. He said he didn’t even think about the fact that I could’ve misinterpreted anything that’s been said as “he’s going to propose now” because he knew when he was planning to do it.
We then went skating and had a wonderful dinner and stayed at the hotel and honestly the rest of the night was amazing. The whole day was actually that much more special since he didn’t propose because he did all of this awesome stuff just for my birthday!
Anyways I kind of ruined my birthday (only kind of we totally brought it back) and now I’m officially waiting. I feel like the luckiest person ever though to be with someone so sweet and caring.