Post # 1
Just curious. How important are Save the Dates and Invites to you? I mean the quality of them? I got invited for a destination wedding in Europe this summer and her save the dates and invite were the nicest ones I have ever received! The save the date was a 15 page printed glossy magazine complete with their engagement photos. It was beautiful but she must have spent a fortune.
On the other end of the spectrum, I am invited to a wedding this winter. Its not a destination but I have to fly because its on the other side of the country. I just got the save the date. It was an evite with a phone camera selfie of the couple. I hate to say it, but I was super disappointed. It just seemed like minimal effort. I don’t expect people to spend a lot of money and have the most expensive invites, but I think actually mailing the save the date and invite means something. Is this something other bees actually care about? Am I being petty?
Post # 2
I don’t judge anyone by their STD. They are super optional, and yes I think its really petty to judge how much someone spent on telling you the date of their wedding.
Like they could have called or sent a text. It’s basically the same thing but you got a cute picture with it.
Post # 3
jellybellynelly : Fair. Yes save the dates are optional but I do think they do, along with the invitations, set the tone of the event.
Post # 4
While I can see that for INVITES I don’t think its fair to put that with an STD.
My wedding was almost $500 pp and I used VP for invites. It just wasn’t a priority when I could actually make the guest experience better instead of a piece of paper (or 15 page glossy magazine) that gets thrown away. *shrug* if someone was disappointed in my STD and invite I’m sure the actual wedding more than made up for it.
Post # 5
I feel like save the dates are only needed for out of town guests. I pretty much throw them away immediately so I don’t bat my eye if they aren’t fancy.
Post # 6
I didn’t care about them at all, and I have a background in graphic design 😂. I think it’s a waste of money and paper to go too over the top with it.
Our save the dates were literally just to let people know about the date so they could plan around it – so we emailed it with one of our engagement photos. I put a bit more effort into the invite, but it was not a priority by any means.
Post # 7
i dont care much about the quality. I just need them to serve a function–tell me when and where on the STD. Tell me more details and how to rsvp on the invite.
I like evites; save on paper.
Post # 8
Don’t care at all. I found the cheapest ones possible on vistaprint (using 50% coupons to boot!)
Thank you cards came from the dollar store.
Post # 9
I don’t pay much attention. Might think “that’s pretty”. I throw invitation in the trash after the event so I don’t feel like that’s a thing to spend money on. I do kinda like a paper invite because everything is done electronically now but it’s not a necessity and I don’t think much of it.
Post # 10
Ok it appears to be only me who cares lol.
I actually save all of the wedding invites and save the dates I get. I know its just clutter, but I love weddings lol.
Post # 11
I just sent mine by email to out of town guests. I didn’t think it was worth the money. I guess they can look nice, and its a way to use your engagement photos, but I personally just throw them out because my fridge isn’t magnetic.
Post # 12
The save the date was a 15 page printed glossy magazine complete with their engagement photos.
This is honestly one of the most ridiculous things I’ve read on this website. How can a couple be any more vain?
Post # 13
kristin36890 : lmao. yes it was over the top.
But if you knew the couple, you wouldn’t expect anything less from them.
Post # 14
Didn’t do STD. And our invites were cheap. I would have loved glossy ones but to be honest they’re only going to go in the trash.
Post # 15
We won’t be doing save the dates, mostly because we are planning our wedding quite quickly. But I’m not budgeting a ton of money for the invitations. I have a few friends that keep them on their fridge forever, but I feel pretty confident at least 135 of the 150 we will send out are going in the trash, so I can’t bring myself to spend a fortune on them.