How important are Save the Dates and Invites to you?

posted 1 year ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
6583 posts
Bee Keeper

I don’t judge anyone by their STD. They are super optional, and yes I think its really petty to judge how much someone spent on telling you the date of their wedding. 

Like they could have called or sent a text. It’s basically the same thing but you got a cute picture with it. 

Post # 4
6583 posts
Bee Keeper

While I can see that for INVITES I don’t think its fair to put that with an STD. 

My wedding was almost $500 pp and I used VP for invites. It just wasn’t a priority when I could actually make the guest experience better instead of a piece of paper (or 15 page glossy magazine) that gets thrown away. *shrug* if someone was disappointed in my STD and invite I’m sure the actual wedding more than made up for it. 

Post # 5
3311 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I feel like save the dates are only needed for out of town guests. I pretty much throw them away immediately so I don’t bat my eye if they aren’t fancy.

Post # 6
2811 posts
Sugar bee

I didn’t care about them at all, and I have a background in graphic design 😂. I think it’s a waste of money and paper to go too over the top with it.

Our save the dates were literally just to let people know about the date so they could plan around it – so we emailed it with one of our engagement photos. I put a bit more effort into the invite, but it was not a priority by any means. 

Post # 7
9588 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

i dont care much about the quality.  I just need them to serve a function–tell me when and where on the STD.  Tell me more details and how to rsvp on the invite.

I like evites; save on paper. 

Post # 8
1264 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Don’t care at all. I found the cheapest ones possible on vistaprint (using 50% coupons to boot!)

Thank you cards came from the dollar store.

Post # 9
1276 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t pay much attention. Might think “that’s pretty”. I throw invitation in the trash after the event so I don’t feel like that’s a thing to spend money on. I do kinda like a paper invite because everything is done electronically now but it’s not a necessity and I don’t think much of it. 

Post # 11
420 posts
Helper bee

I just sent mine by email to out of town guests. I didn’t think it was worth the money. I guess they can look nice, and its a way to use your engagement photos, but I personally just throw them out because my fridge isn’t magnetic.

Post # 12
1757 posts
Buzzing bee

The save the date was a 15 page printed glossy magazine complete with their engagement photos.

This is honestly one of the most ridiculous things I’ve read on this website. How can a couple be any more vain?

Post # 14
4663 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Didn’t do STD. And our invites were cheap. I would have loved glossy ones but to be honest they’re only going to go in the trash.

Post # 15
101 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

We won’t be doing save the dates, mostly because we are planning our wedding quite quickly.  But I’m not budgeting a ton of money for the invitations.  I have a few friends that keep them on their fridge forever, but I feel pretty confident at least 135 of the 150 we will send out are going in the trash, so I can’t bring myself to spend a fortune on them.  

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