How important are Save the Dates and Invites to you?

posted 4 months ago in The Lounge
Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

everythingpink :  i personally love paper, so it was important to me that ours were nice. but i don’t hold others to that standard. (stds are optional, anyway.) the exception here is if you’re having a black tie wedding – i better be getting a letterpressed invite, or i’m showing up in cocktail attire (Because your event is NOt black tie). we recently got an evite to a “black tie” wedding. uhm, no. so much wrong with that wedding it warrants its own post

Post # 18
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

everythingpink :  

My Save-The-Date Cards were from eBay but like you I believe that the invitation is a ‘teaser’ and sets the tone however some people don’t think the same and to be honest I don’t give it much thought when I recieve VP invites or shop bought packs. I think everyone has different priories when it comes to weddings.  I LOVE stationary haha so my invites were important.  Mine were boxed 6 page booklets, with hand sketches of our venue. Each box was individual with a miniature of ‘your favourite tipple’ and my fav chocs.  Thought you would appreciate haha. All guests were local so we hand delivered. Our wedding is also small so I could splurge a little! 

Post # 21
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Blushing bee

They mattered to me!  Our paper goods weren’t over the top but I wanted everything to match.  I worked with a graphic designer to come up with our STD, invitation suite, menus, escort cards, etc… so that everything tied together.  I think it looks messy when you receive an initial STD with one vibe and then the invite is a completely different style but that’s just me being finicky.  

Post # 23
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

jenkat205 :  they sound just gorg! I’m doing something similar and I don’t care if I’m the only one that notices that they match haha 

Post # 24
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

everythingpink :  cute and unique! And I bet they love them 

Post # 25
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Blushing bee

I definitely appreciate nice paper goods and have received invitations and Save-The-Date Cards that are across the spectrum. I think when it comes down to it, a lot of people find that this is an easy place to save on budget and I don’t disagree. So as much as I admire the fancy ones I get, I don’t think any less of the others.

Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

everythingpink :  oh god, i could write a whole novel on this wedding. here are just a few of the highlights though:

-email invite for a “black tie optional” wedding. uhm, no. (but apparently paper invites existed, since they were on the shot list for the photographer..)

-it was a monday night wedding, on the west coast. 75% of the guests were from the east coast. not only was it on a monday, but this all meant it was necessary to take tuesday off from work, too, as there were no flights (not even red-eyes) that could get you back in time to work tuesday.

-wedding was 4:30 in the afternoon. in the US, a black tie affair must start no earlier than 6pm. to add insult to injury, the “invitation time” was 4:30 – but the couple didn’t even plan to start until 5 (husband was the best man and i saw the day of schedule). 

-the bride sent out an email to the groomsmen reminding them that all their dates should be in “long formal gowns!!!” again, no. black-tie optional permits women to wear a below-the-knee dressy cocktail dress. i don’t HAVE to wear a full length gown to your wedding.

-ceremony was outside on grass. wedding website said “no heels” for the ceremony, and then said “please bring a change of shoes for dancing.” 1) can’t be black tie if heels aren’t allowed. 2) if i’m not wearing heels to start with, why do i need to change my shoes for dancing…unless you want me to change INTO heels to dance? uh, no and no.

-on the wedding website it also said “Please remember that white and red and reserved for the bride only!!!” Ugh. Bride was Chinese, so I get both the white and red thing – but either all your guests get it too, or else if they don’t it would be helpful to supply the appropriate cultural context/explanation for it so you don’t just sound demanding. (There was no more explanation anywhere besides that statement). To top it all off – THE BRIDE NEVER WORE RED. She wore a white american wedding dress the whole night. I thought maybe she was going to change or something. Nope. Also, bridesmaids were never in red – flowers weren’t even red. No red anywhere in sight.

I could keep going…seriously..I was a very frustrating wedding that I would have gladly skipped except that husband was Best Man and groom is like family to him. So we kinda felt obligated to attend this thing.

ETA: I wore a pale blush knee-length beaded tulle cocktail dress with my white satin wedding wedges 😛 because i’m passive-aggressive like that sometimes and didn’t want spend $100 on a RTR gown for this thing.

Post # 28
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378 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I did care about our save the dates and invitations.

I hope people weren’t disappointed by our save the dates just because they were digital. We’d just finalized the date and it was like three months until the wedding, so I thought it made more sense to get the information to people ASAP than to make them wait on USPS. I loved our photo too, which was simply taken by my mom while we were dressed up for a formal event.

I also hope people didn’t think our wedding was less formal just because we didn’t have a bazillion pieces of glossy paper. We had a traditional formal invitation, namely a single white card of high-quality matte paper with traditional format (black script, centered) and wording (spelling out the date and time etc).

Mostly I like stationery stuff for the fonts. I tried so many fonts and when I finally found “the one” you’d best believe it was on every single paper thing associated with our wedding haha. It even came with a sick-ass “Thanks” glyph that I used to print our own thank you notes.

Post # 29
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Newbee

Paper invites (not necessarily the Save the Date cards) signify the formality of the event, in my opinion.

 

If you’re not super close to the couple to get the ins and outs of their planning process, the invite plus any wedding website, is kind of all you have to go by.

 

I usually base what I’m going to wear to the event based on time of year, location and the invitation. Wax seals and reception cards indicate a level of formality of an event. Or if the invitation has a rustic outdoor vibe I can kind of get an idea of what the event will be like and what I should wear as a guest.

 

Even things like whether or not you pick your entree can indicate buffet versus plated dinner, with the exception being when they take your order at the table.

Post # 30
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

everythingpink :  yeah i can see how if you save everything its something you would value!

I literally recycle everything, sometimes even before the wedding (once I have the wedding website what more do I need) so.. paperless is good.

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