How important are Save the Dates and Invites to you?

posted 1 year ago in The Lounge
Post # 31
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737 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I love invites! Mine came from Vistaprint (both for save the dates and invites), but we upgraded the card stock, upgraded the colour on the reverse, and did a lot of personalising. Envelopes were an effort-splurge (rather than financial splurge). I made my own with green card, lined inside with maps of Italy (our tables are named after cities in Italy we’ve stayed in), sealed with wax seals, and hand calligraphed (a hobby of mine, so loads of fun!). We’ve had so many lovely comments from people who have appreciated them, and they looked so bright and cheery in the post. 

Post # 32
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4083 posts
Honey bee

everythingpink :  I started a related thread about what do people do with wedding invitiations and approximately 80% trash them after the wedding. About 15% said they keep some and throw some. And only 5% say they keep all of them. I am very sentimental so I keep each one I receive in a box. To most people, it’s just clutter.

Post # 33
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1116 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

everythingpink :  I’d rather they spend the money on better food and things that will make my day more enjoyable.

To be honest, it all goes to recycling. 

Post # 34
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948 posts
Busy bee

I’m all for DIY save the dates, but at least make them look like more than your typical facebook photo update.  

The invitations themselves should reflect the formality of the event. 

Post # 35
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1105 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

My save the date is a Facebook event. So zero. I care about the fanciness zero. Grandparents got a phone call and three friends who refuse the use Fb got a text message of a screenshot of the Fb event.

I see no reason to spend money on save the dates. They let out of town guests and guests with non traditional schedules make plans. Invites reflected the formality and were mailed.  

Post # 36
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1957 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Our save the dates were done by paperless post. Way cheaper and meant we could got people to reply with their postal address for the invites. I didn’t put much emphasis on invites but they had to reflect the formality of our wedding. 

Post # 37
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3832 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Save the Dates are optional and can be done as informally as word-of-mouth, so I don’t think the specifics of those are that important. I definitely judge the formally of the event a lot by the invites though. They don’t have to be expensive, but a nice cardstock and putting some thought into the layout and design so they look somewhat professional would be important to me. It’s exciting to receive a lovely swanky invite! Of course I would also be thrilled to get any type of invite, but if it’s a selfie-photo evite or a quick note printed on regular printer paper I would assume something way more lowkey type of event. 

Post # 38
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1142 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

If I got a 15 page glossy magazine I’d laugh my ass off. Talk about Vanity Fair.

Post # 39
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1073 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

We haven’t done wedding invites – but we used VistaPrint for our STD’s. We ordered 60x STD’s (magnets) and 100x engagement party invites for like $100 incl delivery. And they were amazing quality. 

We’ll be doing something a bit more extravagant for our wedding invites next year though, as we want to put accommodation/care hire/travel info in there as well (as FI’s family is east coast Australia)

Post # 40
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333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I cared enough to want them to be a cute design, but definitely wasn’t willing to put that much of the budget into something that most people throw out. I mean, I plan on keeping a blank set of my own wedding stationary, but I doubt any of our guests would feel the same way.

We used Vistaprint, and quality for price was amazing, save the date magnets were like $20 for 80 odd guests, and I saw them on most guest’s fridges that we visited prior to the wedding. So for us, the cost was worth the cuteness there. Invitations just had to look nice enough for the formality of the event, which I think they did, and I altered a lot of their stock design, but wasn’t willing to stress myself out too much on it.

Post # 41
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2657 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I didn’t want to do Save-The-Date Cards (my Mother-In-Law, step mum and grandmother talked me into them lol) so didn’t care about them in the slightest. We used Vistaprint – they looked nice but didn’t cost us a whole lot of money. We did mail them out, as evites aren’t really a thing where I’m from.

I love invitation suites, on the other hand, so I did splurge a little on our actual invites. We had a lot of comments about how nice they were – I know that most people won’t keep them, but I kept a copy as did our parents (and siblings I think) so that’s fine with me. I ordered our invitations from Wedding Paper Divas and had to get them shipped from the US (I’m in Australia).

Post # 42
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771 posts
Busy bee

They were more important to me than I expected. We’re having a fairly formal wedding – it won’t be black tie, but it’ll definitely be closer to it than most of the weddings I’m invited to that people try to pass off as black tie!

 

For Save the Dates, Fiance was cool with using paperless post, but I really wanted the first thing people received about the wedding to indicate like “this is a special occasion”. We ordered magnets from minted with a nice floral design and our engagement photos. I think we’ll use Minted for the invites as well, and they won’t be super OTT, but I do like the foil pressed ones. I just want there to be no confusion that our wedding will be nice and it’s an important keepsake for me!

 

for the record, I care very little about other peoples invites, but I do feel like I get invited to a lot of “black tie optional” weddings at 5pm that have a DJ lol. I rarely wear a long gown unless I’m in the wedding or super close to the bride and know it’s important to her. 

Post # 43
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Buzzing Beekeeper

everythingpink :  “The save the date was a 15 page printed glossy magazine complete with their engagement photos.” That’s absurdly vain. If this was typical of them, I probably wouldn’t be invited to their wedding anyway because I can’t see myself getting along with people who feel that the world needs a 15 page glossy magazine about themselves. If it wasn’t typical, I would be so second-hand embarrassed for them.

Post # 44
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206 posts
Helper bee

everythingpink :  I agree with you OP they absolutely set the tone of the event, the theme, level of care and formality. All weddings I have been to have completely matched their invites! I totally respect being eco or budget but you can still do it well. 

One of the very few things that my partner feels strongly about for Weddings is that the invites set the tone.

 

Post # 45
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1965 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

Save the dates weren’t important at all, we didn’t even have them. Our invitations and stationary were really important to me. I really wanted them to be classy, traditional and romantic so we splurged

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