(Closed) How important is attraction once you're married?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How important is attraction once you're married?
    It's the MAIN priority. : (1 votes)
    2 %
    It's one of the top ones. : (38 votes)
    83 %
    It's not important anymore. : (3 votes)
    7 %
    I have no clue. : (4 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
    3774 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I guess I don’t understand how one would “lose” attraction to their mate. I’ve been with FH for almost 4 years and he still turns my head the way he did on our first date. He feels the same about me. I would be quite concerned if he was no longer “attracted” to me.

    Post # 4
    3170 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    It is important but I wouldn’t say it’s a priority. My husband and I have both agreed that we will always stay healthy and take care of ourselves. But other things are much more important to a marriage.

    Post # 5
    239 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I’ve been with my SO for 5 years and there are many moments I catch myself staring or thinking WOW. I’d be worried if that changed. 

    Post # 6
    9118 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Physical attraction is second on my important list.

    Emotional/mental attraction is the most important. If we’re not attracted to each other intellectually, we’re not going to get along anymore.

    Post # 7
    3368 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I still think it’s important. I never have understood why women let themselves go after marriage and stop taking care of themselves. However, if Darling Husband starts to gain weight I would be more worried about his health versus the fact that he looks different. I still work out every day, as does he. I don’t think that’ll ever change. 

    We’ve been together 3 years and I still find myself looking at him thinking, “Wow, I really am the luckiest woman to have someone who’s both incredibly handsome and is just an all around wonderful man.” If that ever changed, I’d be worried.  

    Post # 8
    5271 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I agree that physical attraction isn’t the top priority, but it is most definitely a priority. I just couldn’t be married to someone who I didn’t think was attractive. 

    And for me, my husband’s personality, and humor, only add to his attractiveness – so I find him more attractive year after year. And his cute face is getting better with age too. 😉  


    Post # 9
    9181 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    I think part of being a good partner for life is staying relatively fit and healthy, both to help ensure a long and healthy life together, but also to maintain physical attraction with your spouse.

    @s2bmrscook:  I’ve been with my guy for 13 years.  If one of you gets quite a bit overweight, you better believe that physical attraction can be affected, even if the love and mental/emotion attraction you feel is still the same….


    Post # 10
    1540 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    If you still want a sex life, it’s important

    Post # 13
    688 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Just imagine this: You find out your husband is no longer attracted to you. AS much as you want to say that attraction isn’t important, how would that make you feel?

    Attraction is important, and part of that means maintaining a healthy lifestyle physically and mentally, which is good for the individual and the relationship.

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