Post # 1
Hi Bees! I’m getting married next April. Orginially we weren’t going to have a “theme,” but people kept asking us what our theme was and how we would decorate without one, so finally we just picked a “springtime” theme (basically I’m just decorating with a lot of flowers). Our colors are royal purple and navy blue, which doesn’t really fit the theme, but that’s okay. Picking colors was the very first thing we did after getting engaged.
Anyways, I’ve been looking at floral invites and several different sites, and they are all too girly or over the top. The best ones I’ve seen are on Wedding Paper Divas, but still none of them are speaking to us. We finally found this invite (http://www.weddingpaperdivas.com/product/14675/signature_foil_wedding_invitations_modish_marriage.html#color/05/pid/14675) in Navy blue with foil-stamped gold. It basically has nothing to do with spring, and gold isn’t even one of our colors. We were planning on using silver accents, including silver shoes for the bridesmaids.
So, my question is, should I suck it up and keep looking for something else? Will people care that are invites are totally different than the theme we picked, and don’t even use the right colors? I’m so confused
Post # 2
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
Doesn’t matter. Pick what makes you happy!
Post # 3
spydezra: Those are so pretty! I love them! FWIW, I’m kind of over the idea that every wedding has to have a theme and that said theme has to flow through every aspect of the wedding with absolute perfection. We’ve got gold on our invites and save the dates. Gold isn’t a color that we will be using anywhere else. It doesn’t make a difference to me.
Your invitation should really just set the tone for the wedding and provide your guests with necessary information (start time of ceremony, where the ceremony is held, etc.)
Post # 4
spydezra: Personally, I don’t think it’s important at all. Guests usually hardly remember these things!
That said, there are two things I’d consider: the invitation is a cue as to how formal/informal the event is. So you’d want to make sure the invitation roughly matches the formality of the event. Also, some women pick up on the colors of the invitation as a cue to the wedding colors and try to avoid those so as not to look like they match the bridesmaids (though apparently not that many – I recently went to a wedding where the color was navy and prominently on the invite, and there were a ton of women in navy dresses!)
Post # 5
spydezra: I really like them. They’re simple, but elegant. I would use them. While it doesn’t exactly match the theme, it doesn’t not match it either. I think they are nice. I doubt most people will remember what the invite looks like anyways. And NO ONE will be offended if your invite ‘theme’ isn’t reflected in the ceremony.
Post # 6
Thanks everybody! Makes me so happy that you’re all in agreement cause I really love those invites! Haha. I think it matches the formality we’re going for pretty well — it’ll be a 4 p.m. start with buffet-style dinner and semi-open bar (beer and wine free).
Post # 7
spydezra: I say pick whatever makes you happy. The only time I would caution anyone against selecting a certain invite is if you chose an obvious “beachy” invite and are having a Gatsby-themed wedding…The two so obviously don’t go, but at the end of the day, who cares? Honestly, no one but you (and possibly your FI) will be as excited and pleased with your choice as you are. Hardly anyone really remembers the invite. I personally think the ones you chose are so elegant and pretty. I think they are “Simple” enough that they don’t suggest any theme and are neutral enough to go with almost any theme.
Post # 8
Our theme is “us”. We like the invitation, therefore it fits the theme 😛
Post # 9
spydezra: as long as one of the colours in the invite is the main colour of the wedding. Generally i assume the invite colour is the one that bridal party is wearing so i make sure to NOT wear that colour lol.
Post # 10
Like other PPs have said… do what you like! I spent MONTHS trying to find the perfect inviation, and even fell in love with these from WPD (but not the price),:
They only “went” with the blue color of my Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, and even that was a stretch since they’re closer to navy than this light blue. I ended up getting these invites from Vistaprint:
Our wedding is in 3 weeks, and although I was somewhat looking for a “Fall theme” invite – nothing I liked worked with what I wanted to do… so these did. I do have some orange/red in my bouquets/flowers… but that is it. I did what I want!
Post # 11
That’s why I didn’t have a theme, I didn’t want to feel like I couldn’t have something that I liked. In the end just get what you want, that’s the most important thing!
Post # 12
I LOVE those invitations! No, I don’t think invitations have to match your theme, but I prefer invitations that are more formal for weddings (less formal ones look like birthday party or shower invitaitons to me).
Post # 13
Invitations do not need to match your theme – they only need to match your formality level. The invitation is the first (and sometimes only) hint to the guests as to whether they should be wearing a sundress, a cocktail dress, or something in between.
Post # 14
Kacie209: Your invite is so cute! It definitely has a “fall” feel to it. The dots remind me of falling leaves 🙂
MrsTywinLannister: Thanks! I agree with how you feel about less-formal invites. I tried to toe the line between flippant and overly fancy/dramatic so people don’t get the wrong idea.
CaroBee: That’s what I thought too; I just wanted my theme to be “wedding” but people (not just regular guests, but bridal party/family) gave me blank stares when I said that haha. I caved!