(Closed) Do you care if you fit in at work/socialize with work people outside of work?

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 46
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Blushing bee

I leave it at work. Don’t need the drama. Even when referring friends to open positions, I tell them that I only get them the interview, nothing else is guaranteed. 

Post # 47
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

He’ll to the no. I’m friendly, but I hate 99% of the people I work with. I’m 21 and am  planning on climbing the ladder. Work is work and I’m a private person. 

Post # 48
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I really don’t care. Work is work & I like to leave it there. 

Post # 49
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’m a high school teacher and nope. I’m not friends with people outside of school. We all have different lunches (there are four total lunches, so there are only like 20 teachers at lunch at a time, and there are three staff lounges so there are only like 6 that eat in my staff lounge and I don’t like them) plus there’s a huge age gap between me and my coworkers. I’m really young for a teacher and I hate being talked down to. I also hate the negativity that breeds when teachers are in a room together. It might just be my school culture though. I eat lunch by myself in my room and have some quiet time. I like it better that way.

Post # 50
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

For the most part, I don’t have work friends. There are two women that I work with that I occasionally see outside of work, but not often. I’m friendly with everyone, but not interested in cultivating life long friendships with anyone. When my coworkers get together after work, it’s always at a bar and it goes until the early morning hours (we work in a restaurant that closes at midnight or later). Frankly, when I’m done cleaning my bar, the last thing I want to do is race to another for drinks. 

Post # 51
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Helper bee

I don’t care to hang out with work people outside of work.  I enjoy socializing with them at work, but outside of that, I like to keep my personal life to myself.  I am always friendly if I run into them outside of work, but I don’t do drinks or dinners or get-togethers with them.  I don’t really like this one girl in my office and she schmoozes everyone and is a huge liar and hangs out with the other ladies outside of work, so that’s why I don’t care to do anything with them on personal time.  No thanks.

Post # 52
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

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summerbride2016:  I do and I don’t. I want to get along with colleagues so that sitting in the staff room isn’t weird and awkward, but I’m not a fan of the after work socialising stuff. After work I am only interested in going home and sitting in my tracksuit pants watching trashy TV. I get home about an hour before Fiance most nights, so after work is my ‘me time’ and I go nuts without it. 

If I happen to meet a co-worker who I really click with as people, and not just ‘we do the same job’, then I will treat them as a friend rather than a co-worker and socialise with them on weekends/holidays.

Post # 53
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

For the most part I’m friendly and socialable with my colleagues, but I’m not actually personal-life friends with them (except for one or two). 

My job is a little different though in that early in my position I was working on proejcts that would last up to 6 months which required living “in the field” with my project colleagues under difficult conditions, high stress, and 15+ hr work days without days off. So yeah, we became unbelieveably close. With those colleagues I am still extremely close, although all but 2 have moved on to new organizations.

The rest of my department, we small talk, have departmental coffee breaks together, and once a month a group will go out for a work-funded beer together — which I’m happy to join if I’m available (I mean come on…it’s free). It doesn’t really go beyond that though and I’m perfectly fine with it. I’m not against work friends, and if I really click with a colleague I’m happy to let it organically develop into “real” friendship, but I don’t need to be friends with my colleagues to enjoy work. 

Post # 54
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Bumble bee

I consider my coworkers my friends, but friends I only wanna see at the office lol. I work with them 8 hours every day; I don’t need to see them outside work. 

Post # 55
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Helper bee

Different situation I guess but I am a retail store manager and am not allowed to hang out with my associates, including my assistant managers. However we do all get along at work and many of my associates do hang out with each other. I’m glad to create a team oriented environment where we all get along and feel like family. I can however hang out with other store managers and am very close to 1 of the other 10 in my district. I am not bothered by not being as close to the others though they are all great people.

Post # 56
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Bumble bee

It’s important to me to have friends. I’ve found that work is much more fun for me and easier to drag myself to if I have friends. If I have s job I love I can live without, but it also mAkes a job I hate bearable. 

Post # 57
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I am lucky to work somewhere that is super friendly and has minimal drama, so I don’t feel like there are “office politics” going on or anything. I LOVE my small department and have invited all of them to my wedding (including my boss). We don’t typically hang out outside of work but we’ll text each other a cute cat photo or something like that. I do have one girl I’ve become close friends with from another department so we spend most of our lunches together/talk lots outside of work/go to each other’s parties and etc. I had no friends at my last job but I was also the youngest by ~15 years so there wasn’t really the opportunity. It’s nice to at least feel friendly IN the office, but I have plenty of friends outside of that so I’m not desperate to make new ones or anything.

Post # 58
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

For me personally it isn’t a big deal at all. I go to work to do a job and get paid. I don’t go to make friends, I have my own friendship group and don’t really feel the need to extend it further. Thats not to say I haven’t gotten friendly with co workers, but I don’t go hanging out with them outside of work. 

Post # 59
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Helper bee

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ana2017:  Yes, I am! 🙂 Introverts unite! But only for a little bit, then I need my space HAHAHA 😉

Post # 60
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

I genuinely do not care as long as we all get along well at work. But I’m also decades younger than my coworkers…

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