Post # 1
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Bumble bee
Some of you may know that I’m waiting on my engagment ring, and I’ve been looking at tons of pictures on here of beautiful rings. I keep reading from bees about how certain rings look too big on their fingers and/or about how certain styles don’t look nice on their hands. Is this really that important?
I guess my main fear is that since my fingers are HUGE (size 10) that I will only look good with a big carat weight. Ummm, hello, can’t really afford a 2 or 3 carat ring!!!! My guy’s budget is only $1,000, and that really won’t buy a substantial sized ring. So if we find the PERFECT ring, both in beauty and price, and it happens to be a little dainty compared to my sausage fingers……could I still rock it and not worry about it not looking proportional to my hand?
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
i understand ur dilemma…i have a size 11 finger! have u ever considered moissanite? you could get a 2 carat solitaire for $935…http://www.moissaniteco.com/6prong-round-moissanite-tiffany-solitaire-w-matching-band-p-8234.html
Post # 4
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Blushing bee
I had that same fear. But i soon realized the problem was just solitare settings. Once i tried on rings with a more substantial setting the diamond in the center still looked huge despite having “chubby” fingers.
Here is a pic of my ring and wedding band so you can see what im talking about[attachment=1275362,162419]
Here is a pic on my hand that isn’t too clear but you can see the proportion [attachment=1275362,162420]
Post # 5
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Helper bee
I honestly don’t think that’s true at all. I have a really tiny finger (size 3 3/4th) and the size of my diamond didn’t matter.. like a huge diamond didn’t look really insanely huge on my finger or disproportionate nor did a little speck diamond look too tiny.. sooo.. I think your fine 🙂
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
Me and Mr.PapaBear were JUST talking about this. In the Martha Stewart Weddings magazines, there are pictures of the sizes of diamonds. I wear a size 9.5 so I told him I need a carat (or more) b/c anything else will look tiny.LMAO
Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
I really don’t get the whole ring proportion thing. I think that you get used to whatever you have (probably informed by how you feel about what you have). If everyone you know has a 2ct ring and that seems normal to you, you could have a size 4 finger and easily think that a 2ct ring looks perfect. Similarly if everyone you know wears .25 ct and that looks normal to you, you could rock it on your size 11 and feel it looks perfect as well 🙂 Just get what you love and what you can afford and don’t worry about what looks “right.”
Post # 8
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Busy bee
If you are concerned about costs and getting the most for your money, this may be an option. I read an article about i do now i don’t on glamour.com. This is a website where people sell engagement rings that they do not want anymore. If i recall correctly, the rings are all checked to verify that they are in fact diamonds before the buyer receives it. You can get a bigger diamond this way at a better cost. Just figured I would toss it out :-). Below is the glamour article and the i do now i don’t website.
http://www.glamour.com/weddings/blogs/save-the-date/2010/05/would-you-wear-a-previously-ow.html
http://www.idonowidont.com/
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
@zalonia: On another bee’s recommendation I checked out some moissanite rings, and there was a style I fell in love with, but unfortunately it was more than twice our budget.
@nanettenicole: Your ring is absolutely GORGEOUS and totally my style! And it looks great on your finger (which doesn’t look chubby at all, IMO). Can I ask what carat weight your center stone is? I’ve found a couple rings that are 1/2 carat in the middle with a halo around making them look larger. I think that’s the best way to go, and they’re so pretty!
@Corykru: Thanks for that information, I’ll definitely be looking at those sites.
By The Way: does anybody know some good exercises to lose weight in your fingers, lol????
Post # 10
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Helper bee
I hope this helps — but I think you are probably the only person who will notice your fingers instead of the ring. During my engagement, I’ve had fingernails fall off (no joke, slammed in car doors…and no manicures to cover it), I’ve sliced the finger next to it with a knife — and overall, i’ve kept my hands in pretty bad shape. I’m as positive as I can be about other people’s thoughts —- but I’m positive other people didn’t notice unless i said “i’m so embarrassed by my fingernails!!”.
I think you should a ring that you think is pretty and doesn’t leave you in debt:-), and shouldn’t worry about your fingers!!
@Corgitales — I think you’re absolutely right. I think something is “small” not compared to your fingers, but maybe compared to what you’re used to seeing on other people in your area. So no matter what, I think it’s silly to ever think something is “big” or “small”…it’s whether it works for you!!
Post # 11
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Bumble bee
you should look at some halo settings, as they can make the center stone look bigger by surrounding it with a circle of more diamonds.
Post # 12
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Blushing bee
definitely look at halo settings. i have a half carat center diamond with a bigger halo setting and it totally does the trick 🙂 looks big and right within our budget. and they are just SO beautiful 🙂 i love the halo setting and i feel you can’t go wrong with one. but most importantly, go with what you absolutely love and something that won’t break the bank 🙂
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Post # 13
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Bumble bee
@Kaitlin: your ring is very beautiful! I love how big the setting is, and it would look good on my fat finger (you have very slender ones by the way, lol) I think.
I guess I’m just jealous over the women who have tiny hands and can make a 1/2 carat look HUMONGOUS, do you know what I mean? I’m not complaining about our budget and wanting a gigantic diamond, that’s not the point of my post. I’ve just heard so many bees say your ring needs to be in proportion with your fingers, and it’s making me dwell on and worry about an issue I had never thought of before. I personally know I will still love my future ring and think it’s absolutely PERFECT…..but I will unfortunately always view my fingers as being too fat and ugly, lol. I hope that doesn’t take away from the joy of my engagement ring! 
Post # 14
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Blushing bee
@AudzinLuv: thanks girl! and i don’t think they are that slender … i’m a size 6. i think my fingers are just in the middle 🙂 and i definitely am also jealous of the girls with tiny size 4 or 5 fingers who can pull off anything and make it look big. and no matter when the time comes, you will love your ring so much and you will be so happy that you are finally marrying the love of your life 🙂
Post # 15
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Honey bee
- Wedding: December 2010 - Savannah, GA
I don’t think you need to worry. When you go to the select your ring, just make sure the salesperson knows your budget.
One thing I have noticed about my ring is that when I got it I thought it looked huge, but I think it might be shrinking, because it keeps looking smaller and smaller. haha!
Post # 16
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Honey bee
- Wedding: December 2010 - Savannah, GA
@kaitlinandjason: I know what you mean. I’m a size 6 too, and I don’t think they’re slender either. One thing nice about being size 6 though is that it is an average size, so a lot of the rings in jewelry stores fit without having to be sized!