(Closed) How important is ring-to-hand proportion?

posted 10 years ago in Rings
Post # 32
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Helper bee

There’s a couple “ethical” issues:  (1) the conflict diamond issue (while some people say this isn’t a problem anymore, I just don’t feel 100% that this is true) and (2) the fact that diamonds are so ridiculously overpriced because one company dominates the market.

I think my ring has a unique setting (that you can’t really tell from this particular picture…the prongs have a kind of swoop design), and I love the cushion cut stone.  I think when I get the wedding band to go with it, I may have them customize it a bit more by adding pave set stones…maybe.

I don’t have a picture of my actual ring (for some reason, I cannot take a decent picture of the ring on my hand without it getting all washed out), but this is the stock photo from the website:

 

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Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t think that it’s so much the size of the stone, but my concern was and still is the width of the band…my ring size is 8 1/2–but the distance between my knuckles is TINY! So, it’s uncomfortable to wear some rings because they are so wide–I can’t imagine wearing two rings! So, when we went ring shopping, I made sure that we looked at rings that were very dainty and narrow–I also wanted something with a fairly small diamond (in most people’s opinon), and the setting we ended up choosing actually detracted from my sausage fingers! I say–go and do LOTS and LOTS of shopping, even he doesn’t want to–because my guy def. didn’t want to…he was totally against it, but I knew (from being previously engaged, and not being in love with my ring) that the ring could be an issue if it wasn’t the right setting for my hand. Try on lots and lots of settings until you find something that is comfortable for you, and then look for the stone

Post # 35
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010 - Savannah, GA

@buttontoes:  Here is a link that gives great instruction for taking fantastic pictures of your ring. A friend sent it to me when I was trying to take a good picture but not succeeding. Once I followed the instructions, I haven’t had any problems at all getting a good picture.

How to Take Amazing Engagement Ring Photos

 

Post # 36
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Helper bee

Thanks, Loribeth.  I’ll check that out!  FMIL has been bugging me for a pic of the ring on my hand.

Post # 37
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My husband picked my diamond size based on how it looked on his pinky finger, lol. My ring finger is the same size as his pinky. My hands can’t handle big jewelry, especially because my pinky is suppppper tiny. Seriously people joke about it all the time. My ring is perfect πŸ™‚ But I have a feeling it would have been no matter what size it was.

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I know that Im a little late on the party, but I have size 10 hands too, and I have a 1/2 carat (and I got to pick my ring.) I really really love it. Pic attached so you can see. 

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Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My wedding band is about half as thick as the rest of the ring and is white gold that follows the curve of the engagment ring. I actually think that the engagement ring on it’s own maybe a little too thin, but I like how thick both rings are together and that’ll be on my hand for longer!

My biggest suggestion is to consider ordering your ring in already sized rather than having the store size it. My band doesn’t match up quite with the e-ring because the jeweller didn’t size it skillfully – and going from a six to a ten with a thin band isn’t easy. I’m going to have to get the back of my ring rebuilt because it is so thin. So be careful with that!

 

Post # 41
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I had the SAME PROBLEM (and budget) as you!… and I’m a size 11!

Here was my solution: http://mystiquegems.com/

Yes, they are cz’s but they are FABULOUS! My boyfriend and I went to the store and we could NOT tell the difference between them and a diamond! The BEST part was it came with all the same guarantees a diamond does: If the gems fall out they will replace them… or if they ever chip or get cloudy they will replace them (which they aren’t supposed to since they are made from the toughest kind of simulant).

The people there are SUPER nice.  They DEFINITELY have rings for under 1,000 and others hover around there. They will customize your ring if you don’t want such a LARGE diamond in the center. That’s what me and my boyfriend are doing (We decided I would show him EXACTLY what I like BEFORE he asked, especialy since I have such a large ring size).

They will also give you a free estimate if you see one you like and want changes.

I’m telling you… you will stay on your budget, get a FABULOUS ring, and no one will no know the difference!

Oh… and halo’s ARE the way to go! It makes a smaller carat look bigger for sure… and covers more of the finger (which is nice for us!). Here is the ring I chose (its a more expensive one):

http://www.mystiquegems.com/carat-cushion-emerald-with-rounds-designer-inspired-ring-p-851.html

Except I asked them to make it a 1.5 carat and a clear stone, not yellow, in a size 11.

They have even more at the store! There was a 1.5 carat oval with halo for $495 when I was there. I think 1.5 is about the right size carat for your finger… well at least it is for MINE.

What I did was go to a really expensive jeweler and say, show me a diamond ring in THIS carat… tell them you don’t care about cost (and yes… they will ASK). Then they will show you what you want. I went without my boyfriend so they couldnt “pressure” him into trying to buy what he couldnt affort anyhow… and they never pressure the to-be bride. I felt a little guilty, but that’s the best way to find out what a carat size looks next to your finger (and yes, I say next, because ALL the rings at the store will NOT fit on your ring finger. Bummer.)

Hope that all helps!

Post # 42
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I can honestly say that this did matter to us (more-so FI). I wear a size 9 and I found that smaller rings kind of dissapeared on my hand. I agree with some of the PP’s, try to look for a ring with a thicker band and more detail. I tried on some solitaires and 3 stone rings and they didn’t do anything for my hand (even though they were very pretty). We ended up getting a cluster ring with a thick band that had tons of detail. The cluster is in the shape of a flower which I absolutely love. I’m posting this on my phone right now so I can’t upload a pic but when I get to my computer, I will.

Post # 43
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Helper bee

I have slim fingers, and actually was a size 4 or so when I got married, and while I think if you have bigger fingers, a larger size ring looks better, there are ways you can make your ring(s) look bigger on your hand but it depends on if you like certain styles. 

I originally had a family ring (edwardian) as my e-ring and didn’t have bands that would really match it so had two simple bands soldered on each side (it’s the square edwardian ring with bands, closest to my fingertips).  I then got a 3 stone anniversary ring and found (on rubylane.com) a beautiful art deco style simple diamond band (for $100) that i love.  i wear all 3 and while most people wouldn’t like my style at all, I love it and it looks like my “ring” is really big.  so…you could always have bands soldered on to make it look bigger (wider bands) or just wear wider bands or layer it with other rings.  Just a thought. 

Oh yeah, and I wouldn’t worry about it not looking proportionate if you find a ring you love!  It’s what makes you happy!  πŸ™‚
 

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Post # 44
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Helper bee

I get your concern – my ring size is 10.5, and I worried that my just over 1.1 carat diamond wouldn’t look nice on my big ol fingers!  But honestly, it does, and people comment all the time on how sparkly and beautiful it is.  Also, I don’t worry as much walking around alone at night, because I figure from a distance my ring doesn’t look as pricey as it is.

I’m super happy with my ring; the longer I have it the more I love it, even with my giant fingers lol.

Post # 46
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Helper bee

@AudzinLuv:

OMG…you think your ring might not fit your ring size?!  It looks GORGEOUS!!!  It doesn’t look too small at all!  I was thinking you were talking about something like the ring I wear on my right hand, my mom’s teeny (.25) solitaire diamond ring!  πŸ™‚  I LOVE your ring!  Beautiful!!! 

It’s comfortable for me but up until this past year, I only wore my original e-ring and the two soldered bands.  I got the 3 stone anniversary band (long story but the diamonds came from a necklace a client gave my mom…an old lady who loves jewelry…and I made it into a ring) and then found the other little band online and loved it.  So…it’s only been recent since I’ve worn all 3 rings.  I just LOVE the look of lots of sparkles but this was the only way I could afford it!

I think whatever you choose will look fabulous.  Your ring is fantastic and looks gorgeous on your hand!  πŸ™‚

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