(Closed) How important is sex in your marriage/relationship

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 2
13 posts
  • Wedding: November 2014

Extremely! But I also value many other things and could not just make it on great sexual intimacy.

Post # 3
9089 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

It isn’t number 1, but it is definitely in my top three.

Post # 4
2425 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I think it is very important. I wouldn’t date a guy if I wasn’t sexually attracted to that person. 

Post # 5
257 posts
Helper bee

It’s important. Love without sex is friendship and a marriage should go above and beyond that. 

Post # 6
334 posts
Helper bee

incredibly important. If the sex in my marriage disapeared I would probably want to look for it somewhere else. Considering I abhor cheating, it would probably end my marriage.

I couldn’t  live without a fulfilling sex life . 

Post # 7
119 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2047

Ap2010:  Extremely important! People cheat/leave if they are not sexually fulfilled. There has to be that chemistry… 😉

Post # 8
118 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Pretty important, I’d go crazy without it.

Post # 9
1624 posts
Bumble bee

It’s definitely important, but it goes in phases as a top priority in our relationship. My husband works 14+ hours/ day at a hospital with some on-call and overnight shifts and I work a regular 9-5 job, so there are weeks when we physically don’t see each other very often. Emotional intimacy and keeping up communication are more important to me at those times, which leads to more sex when we have more time together.

Post # 10
677 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - SPRING VALLEY COUNTRY CLUB

Hyperventilate:  yup! top three for sure! 

I can turn really really mean if it’s been too long

Post # 11
129 posts
Blushing bee

Top five for me and it’s probably the SOs number one or two. We both view it as a way to communicate love and affection. Neither of us could be in a relationship without someone who had it as a priority. 

Post # 12
7006 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Extremely important.  I’ve question my future with a couple guys because it was bad, too infrequent, and/or he was selfish in the bedroom.

Post # 13
14 posts
  • Wedding: October 2016

Very important. You know how old couples are sometimes still really into each other even though they’re all wrinkly? My theory is that it’s because they never stopped having sex. Sex (and especially orgasms) are a powerful reward mechanism. When you experienence that reward, repeatedly, in response to the same stimuli (the other person’s body), you start to associate the two things. And as people’s bodies slowly start to change, the ‘reward’ of sexual pleasure starts to become associated with their new (old) body. That is, as long as they keep having sex on the regular.

This could also explain why some couples become more attracted to each other, the longer they’ve been together. I’m still young(ish), but I experienced this towards my SO. Basically, it’s like Pavlov’s dog, starting to salivate when he hears the bell. When you see your partner dressed a certain way, or doing certain things, it makes you aroused because of the positive associations.


  • This reply was modified 5 years, 3 months ago by  shadowysewist.
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Post # 14
176 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: dont know

I’d say fairly important.  It seems to be one of those things that doesn’t get any attention unless there is something wrong like one partner being selfish, not getting enough, sexual dysfunction but when the two people are happy with how much they have and the quality is good they are much happier.  But it shouldn’t rule peoples live and relationships either, like if one person wants it all the time for the wrong reasons (selfish getting off, power, doing things that knowingly make the other person uncomforable) the other person shouldnt have to be made to accomodate them.  I think if both people have the same goals with sex they’ll have perfect harmony in most other things in the relationship but if they are completely mismatched the rest of their relationship may suffer.

Post # 15
370 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Surrey, BC, Canada

Honestly it’s really not important to me at all. But I know it is for my FH, and obviously it’s fun, so I do make it a priority. To me though, while it’s fun, it doesn’t influence how I see my partner or what I feel for him. It’s just not how I feel loved, I am more of a thoughtful actions/saying I Love You type of person and physical affection is not important to me. 

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