Post # 1
I don’t know why this is such a huge deal to me! I’m feeling a little slighted as my shower is tomorrow & out of 50 people invited, MAYBE 20 will show up. And those that are showing up are almost all family. I’m having a hard time swallowing the fact that my supposed “best friend” of 18 years is not bothering to come, a cousin’s wife (who has had 3 baby showers, countless parties & makes a huge deal of every event in her/husband’s/kid’s lives…not to mention her & cousin got married twice) will not be there, as well as other family friends. I just want to know, is this supposed to be a fairly big event? I feel it is & I know I sure as hell would not miss something like this were it the other way around. I try to remind myself that those that are there are most important because they’re making the effort. But it’s hard not to feel hurt over others…I really truly thought these people would step up to the plate. I know it will be fabulous whether it was w/ 6 people or 60, and I’m still VERY much looking forward to tomorrow. Am I being a cry-baby or is my anger valid?
Post # 3
Half of my bridal party didn’t come to my shower, and neither did any of my family. And of the 20 people invited, 5 showed up. I see other people’s shower pictures with this massive group of women, and it’s disheartening. Don’t get me wrong – I’m thrilled that the people who came were able to make it. But it’s disappointing to think about all of the people who couldn’t be bothered.
Post # 4
I didn’t realize how bothered I’d be with the guests who either didn’t make it or cancelled at the last minute…. and then I realized that for some people, showers are a chore and it’s all about them and not about you. I tried to focus on the people who WERE there and that did make the effort (including the hosts) and that made me feel TONS better.
Post # 5
I was a little sad about people who weren’t able to come but I was very thankful for the people who WERE there. And for some who chose to make the trip for the wedding instead of the shower (especially those who were a plane flight away) I completely understood.
Post # 6
I have never been to a bridal shower so I really have no idea what to expect. My sister sounds like your cousin. She had baby shower, designation wedding, bachelorette party, reception (i missed the shower…ect) so I really don’t want to people to be sick of me by the time my wedding rolls around. I don’t get what a shower is for if I’m having a bachelorette party. 50 people seem like a lot to invite. That’s a mini wedding right there. If I were you I would be little bothered about your cousin and your best friend but I think you should just enjoy the day no matter what.
Post # 7
I don’t think it’s personal. This is a really busy time of year. My shower is this weekend as well and a lot of friends already had plans to go out of town, with it being one of the last weekends of summer.
Post # 8
My shower was really important to me. I only had one and it was great. We had around 20-30 people which was a good size and what we expected. You have every right to be upset but do you know their reasons for not coming? They could have had prior obligations and sometimes it is harder for people to make it to an afternoon event.
We had some people come for the 1st half or stop by for 20 min or so. And it was sweet to see them make time to be there even if it was short. Some people don’t see the shower as a big even like they would the wedding. Don’t let it bring you down– focus on having a wonderful time with those who are coming to celebrate with you.
Post # 9
And you can’t let the # of people bother you — wether it is a shower or the wedding. Its not quantity it’s quality!!!
Post # 10
You are all right. I know I shouldn’t let it bother me. I am very thankful for those who are making the effort. And like I said, I know I will have a great time! It’s just a little disheartening that people I was CERTAIN would come through (the bestfriend!) don’t make the effort. Like @Allyser: said I would even appreciate the 20 or 30 minutes. It’s just frustrating is all.