(Closed) How involved are your bridesmaids?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: How many of your bridesmaids are supportive
    all of them : (21 votes)
    26 %
    none of them : (18 votes)
    22 %
    some of them : (40 votes)
    49 %
    I'm not having any bridesmaids : (2 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    1046 posts
    Bumble bee

    Neither one of my girls really did much until the day of… but boy was I happy to have them there helping on the big day! It got on my nerves while it was going on, but I finally just admitted to myself that they are busy ladies who have a lot on their plates!

    Post # 4
    154 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    @SweetRose2011:mine are doing nothing at all. I’m not dissing them here- they are all great! I think the blame actually falls on me because i have nO experience with weddings and therefore do not know what the “job” of a bridesmaid is other than to help the bride on her big day. Frankly im flattered that these girls are willing to do that much and buy a dress they may (secretly) dislike. I actually would like some help..but yeah..dont know what im doing lol

    Post # 5
    8353 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    My ladies are very supportive, but they can’t do much because they don’t live near me. How much notice are you giving the one that wants to help but is always unavailable? Your wedding isn’t until next November, so I am sure your girls will get more involved, once your date gets closer.

    Post # 7
    2280 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I have six bridesmaids, and the only one that’s really involved at this point is my older, married sister. She’s not the Maid/Matron of Honor, but she loves weddings and will chat with me about mine, impart nuggets of wisdom, etc. The other five bridesmaids are away at college/grad school, as well as working. They just don’t have the time. *shrugs* I’m totally fine with it. Apparently a wedding shower/bachelorette party are in the works, and they’re willing to pay for their outfits, so I don’t have anything to complain about.

    Post # 8
    1602 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    So far, none of my Bridesmaid or Best Man are really helpful. I have a bunch of ‘if you need anything, let me know!’, but then of course everytime I suggest something, they’re always busy.

    That being said, I didn’t expect much from them. To me, a Bridesmaid or Best Man duty is simply to show up and support with love. I am sure my Bridesmaid or Best Man will provide the traditional bridal shower/bachelorette, and if I specifically ask one for something, they’ll assist, but that’s not on my agenda yet.

    Post # 9
    1020 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    two of mine are super involved, and the other 4 aren’t that involved–they do exactly what i need them to do (buy dress & shoes) and might help a little with the bachelorette party (one of the super invovled girls has taken charge though). however, i consider everything other than buying the dress and showing up optional.

    your wedding is still over a year away..it might just be hard for them to get “into” planning so far in advance.

    Post # 10
    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    My girls have all been great. Although to be honest I don’t really expect them to be calling me every week to check in on wedding plans or anything like that so it might be a function of expectations. 

    My Maid/Matron of Honor has been amazing. She’s not local but we talk every day anyways and she is also planning a wedding so we do wedding talk daily and that is super fun. She has also taken charge to plan my wedding shower with my mom and she’s organizing the girls to do a bachelorette. Basically perfect 🙂 

    My local Bridesmaid or Best Man and I don’t see each other that often but when I talk to her about wedding stuff she listens and is supportive. She helped me with one of my DIY projects and went Bridesmaid or Best Man dress shopping with me. She plans to attend both my shower and bachelorette party. 

    My non-local Bridesmaid or Best Man and I hardly ever see each other and we don’t really talk that much either (she’s the kind of friend you can go months without talking to and pick right back up when you see each other again). Every few months she checks in on wedding stuff and she came here to shop for Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. She has also offered to come in a few days early before the wedding to help me with making favors. And she’ll come to both the shower and the bachelorette. 


    So basically I feel very lucky that all my girls rock. 🙂 

    Post # 12
    4546 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    My Maid/Matron of Honor and one Bridesmaid or Best Man were super involved. They picked out their dresses and mine with me, basically planned the shower and bachelorette, took me to the beach for a weekend, bought me lingerie, got Team Bride shirts for everyone. My Maid/Matron of Honor went with me to try on my dress, for my hair and makeup trial, to my bridal shoot, etc. One Bridesmaid or Best Man came to the shower and the bachelorette. One Bridesmaid or Best Man only made it to the rehearsal dinner and wedding and didn’t help the other BMs at all with anything, and wouldn’t even communicate with them at all. It was really telling of who my closest friends were. Especially since the one Bridesmaid or Best Man who was so involved lived halfway across the country, was super busy, and strapped for cash, yet managed to do so much and it meant so much to me.

    Post # 13
    114 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    By some, I mean one!!! Very frustrating,  but hopefully they will pull through when the big day comes!!!!

    Post # 14
    82 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    My girls can’t/haven’t done a lot.  That isn’t really through fault of their own.  One is 3 hours away and the other two are still in college.  Plus, I wouldn’t even know what to tell them to do to help.  Therefore, I’m kind of doing it alone.  Thank goodness for Moms!!

    Post # 15
    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Mine aren’t very involved but that’s because I haven’t asked them to be. I haven’t really needed much help.

    Post # 16
    289 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Mine didn’t do much. All were in college or HS (our 2 sisters), and were busy. I had 2 MOHs, one was really busy and the other was studying in France the semester before I got married. They helped when they could, and that was fine with me

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