(Closed) How involved is your FI ?

posted 6 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: How involed is he?
    Very! He's turning into a Groomzilla! : (16 votes)
    12 %
    He helps with the big stuff, everything else is up to me! : (71 votes)
    52 %
    If there's not a big game on, he'll put his two cents in. : (24 votes)
    18 %
    Groom? What groom? I feel like I'm the only one getting married! : (26 votes)
    19 %
  • Post # 3
    1425 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center

    Mine has quite a few opinions.  I think we each have different visions, he sees a much more formal affair, while I see something more fun and us.  We really need to sit down and hash out what we want the day to be, but I’m interested in how much he’ll be involved with later!  We’ve only barely begun planning!

    Post # 4
    3771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    He has come to all our vendor meetings and gives his input in those areas.  I also share with him all of my ideas and he will throw in some opinions or suggestions which has been really great for diy stuff!  For the most part, though, he lets me drive… 🙂

    Post # 5
    269 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Mine told me that I either have him helping the entire time, or his mom, who has made our save the dates, invitations, and every craft known to man…I chose his mom! He was [slightly] kidding, he helps with big decisions but basically I can do whatever I want.

    Post # 6
    2335 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    Mine is definitely in the ‘If there’s not a big game on he’ll put his two cents in’ category, ha ha.

    I’ve been trying from the beginning to get involved (I actually REALLY do want his opinions), but he just seems to think his job is to show up in a suit on the day-of. He’s been getting better about this as time passes- I think visiting venues/making vendor appointments has helped coax some opinions out of him.

    He is oddly adamant that our cake not have round tiers, though. How random is that? He’s also requested that our florist work in bells of Ireland lol.

    Post # 7
    1722 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    My Fiance is very helpfull, he’s the artistic one and were doing a lot of DIY.  Our joke is that I start an idea and he finishes it.  All ideas end up being 10 times better then I thought they would be.  I think we make a good team 🙂

    Post # 8
    1425 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center

    @rachelmichelle:  It’s hilarious the things that are randomly important to them!  Mine said he likes the “short veils with big holes” (birdcage, I believe, is what he is referring to) and also said we couldn’t have more than 2 bright colors, preferably 1.  I can’t wait to hear what he has to say next!

    Post # 9
    926 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Lol, mine totally didn’t care, until he realized he did have an opinion.  Take colors for example.  He told me 15 times that he didn’t care about colors, but when i finally showed him an idea for a purple/turquoise color scheme he was all “OH MY GOD PURPLE?! REALLY?!  I CAN’T STAND PURPLE!!!”


    He totally cared. 

    Post # 10
    3625 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    OMG, mine wants to be involved in everything. For example, he dictated what the flowers would look like, down to the vase and the size of the arrangements. I was just like, “Um, yeah, whatever he wants…” He comes to all of the vendor meetings. I usually narrow down the choices and then he gets to choose which one. Sometimes I wish I had one of those FIs that just go, “Point me to the x on the ground.”

    Post # 11
    399 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Haha, the options just don’t match up for me. I’ve never once caught my fiance watching a sports game on tv! Lol! Anyways, he helps with the big decisions and has come up with a few ideas on his own (he even discovered a grooms wedding website!) but is hands off for the most part. I have a feeling that as the wedding date nears and we actually have to start making things, he will pitch in a ton. Probably it will be 60% me planning and 40% him.

    Post # 12
    1627 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I have to say I’m pretty lucky.  Fiance will help with whatever I ask, but other than that he’s pretty happy with what I decide.  If I ask for his opinion (which I do all the time) he gives input, and if I’m dead set on something, then he’s fine with it.  Man, I love that kid. 😉

    However, I was really set on an adult-only reception, but he pulled rank on that.  He has a close family and 8 neices/nephews.  So, we compromised and immediate family member kids are invited.

    Post # 13
    1068 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Mine hasnt’ done anything. Then, the other night, he suddenly asked if we were going to have a cake topper. I told him I’d picked one out adn would he like to see it. He said, Yes! And jumped off the couch to look. Then he spent an hour looking at cake toppers and decided eventually that the one I picked was his favorite. So random.

    Edit: I shouldn’t say hasn’t done ANYTHING… he did buy his tux. And he went with me to look at the reception venue. He signed the contract and sent the deposit.  He also commanded that we have STD’s (but I had to design them) and further commanded that they be magnets, because magnets are neat.  That was the extent of his contribution until this cake topper incident.

    Post # 14
    4606 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    FH hasn’t been interested in much. He just told me that he didn’t want our colors to have pink or orange in them and that he wanted Doctor Who cake toppers. He also said he likes the venue I want.

    We still have a ways to go but I know he’s going to be interested in the food and the music so he’ll pitch in with that.

    Post # 15
    705 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    There are a few things that are important to him and the rest of it, he’d like to have a say but does not want to do research or anything like that and is happy to let me research and shop to my little heart’s content.  He will totally do something if I ask him to, he’s excited about going to tastings and wants to help with other things, I am just happy to do most of it.  

    Post # 16
    111 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    If it is something he really cares about he will let me know but mostly lets me pick and choose!! When he does pipe in, though, I am sure to make note of it and try to make it happen because  it isn’t very often that he gets super super excited!!


    He is also super helpful with DIY! (I never would have guessed!!) If I need help, he is right there to help!! 

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