(Closed) How involved is your FI with the wedding planning?

posted 7 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: On a scale of 1-5 how involved is your FI with the wedding planning? (5 being most involved)
    1 : (20 votes)
    15 %
    2 : (33 votes)
    24 %
    3 : (32 votes)
    24 %
    4 : (33 votes)
    24 %
    5 : (17 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 32
    Member
    679 posts
    Busy bee

    He’s pretty involved so far. I was not feeling well yesterday so he went and checked out some venues without me since we need to book soon – he took pictures and notes and everything. 

    He’s constantly making suggestions for things, too. 

    I think he’ll be heavily involved in everything except for my dress and possibly the details of the decor. 

    Post # 33
    Member
    815 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    He actually wanted to be more involved, but a friend of his said, you might want to back down a little. When you were a little boy, did you play with barbies & dress them up as brides and plan your wedding? Have you been dreaming about this day since you were a little boy? So he took that to heart & has let my mom and I have a lot more say. Now we do most things together and there are just a few things he is making the main decision on, like his suit, etc. But I always ask his opinion and if we don’t agree, he usually let’s me have the final say.

    The good thing is, we have agreed 100% on the major things like the venue & caterer. That has made life a lot easier! And the things we don’t agree on are not too far off. I can also tell it’s getting to be a lot for him and he’s starting to get to the point of “yeah sure, whatever you pick”. He also has a creative mind but he’s not so good at planning! What he is good at is budget and negotiating so he is always there when that time comes!!

    Post # 34
    Member
    677 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    After my husband suggested minature towns and people for centerpieces he is lucky I let him pick out his tux, and he didnt get to do it himself, I went to make sure he didnt do anything crazy. It depends on each couple, I am someone who loves planning events and I am a control freak about it, I didnt hire a planner because I would never have trusted them. My husband was happy to sit back and let me handle everything.

    Post # 35
    Member
    8439 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I guess it’s just more fun to plan everything with my best friend, so my Fiance helps out a ton.  We made all of our invites together, aisle decorations, programs, and basically all of our DIY projects.  He’s not the creative type, so I come up with the designs, show him how to put things together and we work on it as our shared hobby.  He’s helped me pick out my dress, shoes and veil (he has GREAT taste).  We discuss everything and I usually get my way because we have the same tastes. 

    Post # 36
    Member
    31 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Not at all…it’s all left to me…my Fiance is fine with just going to the courthouse …lol

    Post # 37
    Member
    11381 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    My husband was in the know of everything while planning. He came with me to pick out the cake, decor, table wear, ect! 🙂 He let me pick everything but I was still glad he was there & involved!

    Post # 38
    Member
    34 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think that my fiancée was relieved that I thought of and brought up everything because, frankly, he never envisioned all the work a wedding entails. He was married before and it was rather minimalist, from what I know. But he did whatever I requested and he was happy and proud to pay for it. So I know that he cared about our wedding, just not the exact same way I did. And I love the fact that I gave him a great wedding! 

    Post # 39
    Member
    2776 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Hes involved.  I tell him things because I figure its his wedding too but he usually just throws a monkey wrench in it and says its probably better if I don’t ask him.  So have worked out were I tell him about something that could potentially affect him and he makes an awful pain in the ass suggestion I tell him what it would take to make that happen and he steps down.

    Its not fun.  Hes had a few okay ideas but mostly no.  It doesn’t work when I ask for his input.  Things like what about this photographer um no that one is 4K, and then whines about the price of photos, or when we were talking about having it at the house and he said we could build a bridge over the pond for me to walk down the aisle too.  Um no…

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