Post # 1
So, I’m just wondering how involved the FI’s are in the wedding planning process. Mine checked out the venues, interviewed DJ’s, and came to the catering appointment (which is the only thing that was really important to him–food lol).
Tomorrow we have a meeting with our wedding planners (which he hasn’t met yet) and we will be going over the design of the reception and basically checking our progress. I asked him to come and he WILL, but he doesn’t seem thrilled. Then it got me thinking… does he really HAVE to go? I know he could care less about the design, but I just don’t want it to seem like he doesn’t care because I know he wants to get married (obviously), but I know the only thing he is worried about in regards to the wedding reception is having a good time.
I just don’t know how involved men “normally” are with the planning and what is “expected”.
Post # 3
My Fiance is very involved. Even on things I’d rather just take care of myself, he wants to have a say. It’s his wedding too, so I’m okay with it, but it sure would seem easier if he’d just let me decide.
Post # 4
Mine was very involved in the venue selection and food selection, and he is totally responsible for our music and his/the guys’ attire. Other than that its on me 🙂
Post # 5
Too involved! He’s an almost-groomzilla and we’ve barely gotten our feet wet. :/ haha. He has an opinion on EVERYTHING – we had to have several discussions to even agree on a date and colors!
Post # 6
fi has been involved in everything except flowers and my dress. we don’t really have vendor appointments though since we’re Out of Town. he met with our venue coordinator once because we were both in town, and i’ve met with her twice. he definitely didn’t need to attend those meetings.
he was REALLY involved in our save the dates and invitations!
Post # 7
I have the most laid-back dude on the planet. If I tell him to be involved in something, he will. If I don’t ask his opinion, he’s totally fine with that, too! He just says that he trusts me and he knows we have similar tastes. 🙂
I met with and picked out our DJ, although he had gone to 2 other meetings with me before I found the ONE. He’s going to have most of the say in his groomsmen’s attire but I’ll kind of guide him to what I think. He went to wedding venues with me and helped pick that out, but everything else I’m kind of just doing on my own!
Post # 8
My Fiance has been involved somewhat. He came to all the meetings with florist, dj, catering, etc but it was mostly to just be there and give an opinion when asked. Other than that, I will assign him a task once in a while, but he isn’t overly excited to help. I think he just wants to stay out of the way and let me do what I want. His thinking is that the wedding is all about what the bride wants.
Post # 10
@AmeliaBedelia: I got one of those! LOL Seriously, he has been very involved and I’m glad. He is the one who wanted the large wedding. Although I’ve basically planned everything, he had to put his stamp of approval and have a say.
We talk about everything, so I guess it is a great thing for our relationship.
Post # 11
We’re doing a destination wedding to Maine because he used to spend all his summers in Maine and his mom now lives there, so he’s very involved.
So far we’ve collaborated on:
Caterer (his godmother)
Linens (that one surprised me)
Save-The-Date Cards and Invitations
He’s taken care of:
I’m very happy that he’s involved.