(Closed) How involved is your FI…

posted 7 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
1843 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My Fiance is very involved.  Even on things I’d rather just take care of myself, he wants to have a say.  It’s his wedding too, so I’m okay with it, but it sure would seem easier if he’d just let me decide. 

Post # 4
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Mine was very involved in the venue selection and food selection, and he is totally responsible for our music and his/the guys’ attire. Other than that its on me 🙂

Post # 5
6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Too involved! He’s an almost-groomzilla and we’ve barely gotten our feet wet. :/ haha. He has an opinion on EVERYTHING – we had to have several discussions to even agree on a date and colors!

Post # 6
4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

fi has been involved in everything except flowers and my dress. we don’t really have vendor appointments though since we’re Out of Town. he met with our venue coordinator once because we were both in town, and i’ve met with her twice. he definitely didn’t need to attend those meetings.

he was REALLY involved in our save the dates and invitations!

Post # 7
817 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I have the most laid-back dude on the planet. If I tell him to be involved in something, he will. If I don’t ask his opinion, he’s totally fine with that, too! He just says that he trusts me and he knows we have similar tastes. 🙂

I met with and picked out our DJ, although he had gone to 2 other meetings with me before I found the ONE. He’s going to have most of the say in his groomsmen’s attire but I’ll kind of guide him to what I think. He went to wedding venues with me and helped pick that out, but everything else I’m kind of just doing on my own!

Post # 8
17 posts
  • Wedding: June 2011

My Fiance has been involved somewhat. He came to all the meetings with florist, dj, catering, etc but it was mostly to just be there and give an opinion when asked. Other than that, I will assign him a task once in a while, but he isn’t overly excited to help. I think he just wants to stay out of the way and let me do what I want. His thinking is that the wedding is all about what the bride wants.

Post # 9
4770 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999
Post # 10
572 posts
Busy bee

@AmeliaBedelia: I got one of those! LOL Seriously, he has been very involved and I’m glad. He is the one who wanted the large wedding. Although I’ve basically planned everything, he had to put his stamp of approval and have a say.

We talk about everything, so I guess it is a great thing for our relationship.

Post # 11
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

We’re doing a destination wedding to Maine because he used to spend all his summers in Maine and his mom now lives there, so he’s very involved.

So far we’ve collaborated on:

Caterer (his godmother)


Linens (that one surprised me)

Save-The-Date Cards and Invitations

He’s taken care of:



Hotel Block


I’m very happy that he’s involved.

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