(Closed) How involved is your fiance with the wedding planning?

posted 7 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
5655 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

We’ve decided everything but the venue together, but only b/c I knew I wanted it years before we were together.

He’s pretty much taken care of the guy side of things, was incredibly involved with the 1st dance song and has supported all of my ideas… and actually LIKES them too! lol

I read in a book earlier that wedding planning with your SO (actually WITH him) is a GREAT way to build what going to be needed in the other really BIG decisions in life…. I think I agree, especially since starting this venture w/ money, families, and “etiquette”, the idea of weddings is becoming to sound alot more like Hell on Earth. lol

Post # 4
586 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@runsyellowlites: Hmm…what book would that be? I’m gonna need to go ahead and buy it for my Fiance =)

Post # 5
7296 posts
Busy Beekeeper

my Fiance told me when we got engaged that everything was up to me. and i was happy to comply. however, along the way, i have often asked for his opinions and when he gives me sincere and thoughtful ones, i usually go with what he said, because i want his ideas in there too!  he hasn’t really come up with own ideas, but he has had his spontaneous moments of input and help and i always love and appreciate it.  he has been great especially at the computer stuff like Save-The-Date Cards, menu cards, that kind of stuff when i needed help formatting, but then he ends putting his designer opinion into it as well.  and he came up with the idea to name our tables after our first dates! (we had more than one and we only needed 3 tables, so it worked) – that was my fave idea of his to date!  before that i was thinking movies, cities, the usual boring stuff.  oh and when i was having the ultimate agony deciding between 2 dresses, he gave an incredibly thoughful and insightful opinion on what each dress “means”  and with that i made my decision and never looked back!

Post # 6
86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Mine is as involved as I am, but we’re both pretty lazy about the whole planning thing, LOL. Need to focus!

Post # 7
6065 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I ask my Fiance for input all the time and he helps me make decisions, especially about the music that will be played at the wedding. It’s fun discussing all the details together! Although he is sick of hearing about flowers…

Post # 8
851 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I involver my Fiance in everything! He is quite happy with giving his opinion and making some of the decisions. We meet all vendors together and picked the colour scheme together.

Post # 9
39 posts
  • Wedding: May 2012

my fi is involved 100% including dress shopping..yes he saw it!  I couldn’t decide without knowing if he loved it or not. He even helped with bm dresses! I love how much he is involved with everything, I couldn’t do it alone

Post # 10
130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

My Fiance has been pretty quiet with the decision making.  There were a few things he wanted to have a say in (location, food, and cake tasting – go figure!)  As for everything else when I ask him his opinions he says “Whatever you want dear!”  And I say – OKAY!

Post # 11
4109 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Fiance has helped with decisions he actually cares about making- when we chose the venue local, guest list, honeymoon spot & cake filling flavor, lol. But all that was decided in the beginning, so he’s basically done 🙂 I’m organizing decor, obsessing over colors, etc., but basically all he has to do now is buy his day of outfit & show up! 

Post # 12
325 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My fiance is sort of laid back about it all. I show him ideas and he nods or says “okay” and thats about it lol

He doesn’t care about the colours, the flowers, the venue or the girls dresses but he wanted to be part of choosing my gown (I said no because our tastes are very different) and he will be part of choosing the restraurant. I have to do ALL the leg work though and give him the options.

Post # 13
1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

He basically gets veto power (except for my outfit!) on anything, and I run everything by him anyways. He’s also made compromises on his end too.

Post # 14
2053 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My fiance and I are involved equally. We’re both great planners and are extremely creative. There are some things that one of us cares about handling more, in which case we delegate who is in charge of this or that. For instance, I am more passionate about our photographer, while he used to work in advertising and has an eye for print, making him in charge of invitations. It evens out nicely so one of us isn’t piled with too much at once. He was great at the beginning, asking me how involved I’d want him to be, and I said I welcomed his input and help all along the way. I warned him that there may be something I’m completely adamant about doing or having and I may not even know why, in which case he’s given me veto power hehe but so far we’re skimming along nicely and in full agreement. *knocks on wood for good luck*

Post # 15
135 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My Fiance was super involved when we first starting planning. Picking vendors was very important to both of us. But now that we’re just 6 months away from the big date and the only things on my To-Do list are minor DIY things he’s kind of checked out. I can pin him down for about 20 minutes at a time to get some decisions made but anything more than that and he gets cranky. He is very helpful when I just give him direction and don’t bug him, like helping with invitation assembly. 

Post # 16
188 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

My Fiancee is very involved and my opinion on his involvement varies from day to day. Sometimes I find myself getting a bit frustrated with his ideas, especially since most of them involve spending extra money, whereas I am trying to really cut down the costs. Although, considering that I don’t have any family members to help me out, I would be very lonely making the decision by myself and I do appreciate him coming to meet with the vendors and tolerating all of my wedding talk.  

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