(Closed) How involved is your fiancee in the wedding planning and diys?

posted 10 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

None, zil, nada …  You are not alone girl! Maybe assign him straigtforward tasks.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yeah. "Call this person about X." "Cut X pieces of this." He might respond better to more explicit direction…

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country

Non.

He’s taking care of tuxes, picking out his mother/son dance song, providing moral support (as in, "do you like this?!?!"  and he says "Yes, thats cute") and showing up at the altar.

 Like PP’s said, my Fiance really likes specific tasks/lists.  Dont just in passing say "I wish you would help out more"…just say:

I’d like you to do this, this this and this.  Please.  By next week.

 I usually e mail my Fiance (even if he’s sitting right next to me haha) lists and he gets them done…unless its written on a post it, or e mailed to him a couple times, it doesnt get done.

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

i email my Fiance lists too penguin!  haha, he doesn’t like them, but he is good about getting most things on the list done by the "deadline" i set for him.  he’s been pretty involved with the whole process, meeting and choosing different vendors, and doing the diy projects.  the only thing he hasn’t been involved in is the girly stuff, like wedding gown shopping, picking out bridesmaid dresses, etc.  otherwise, he’s been such a big help!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

I had to give my hubby lists. After about flipping out on him the 80th time…. I knew I had to do something to get through to him. And I always kept two copies… one in my planning notebook and one for him… so he knew I couldn’t say that I didn’t give him that task to do.

He helped with invitation assembly. He ran errands (go pay this deposit, pick this thing up. etc) the two weeks prior to the wedding. But seriously.

I did most of everything & procrastinated on some stuff & didn’t even get everything done.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I tried giving mine lists — they just sat there.  He paid for the honeymoon, but I did all of the research on it.  The only thing he seems remotely interested in is the music, but after giving me his ideas, I have to put it all together.  We are 90 days out and he hasn’t looked at tuxes, wedding bands, or anything else. Ugh.

 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

He’s been surprisingly helpful, for he wants to help try to keep my stress at a managable level πŸ™‚ I’m so grateful for him!

I have found that asking him to do specific tasks, asking his opinion on various things and bringing him to vendor meetings has helped keep him interested. I’ve also found that if I natter about weddings ALL the time, then he’s less likely to be interested. It’s good to balance both of your interests πŸ™‚

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2008

My Fiance has been very very very helpful, and has done anything & everything to keep me from being stressed (we’re building a house at the same time AND im taking 4 online classes while working fulltime and planning the wedding lol) he has been AMAZING.

He was the first one to ask me about flowers and colors and whatnot. and told me what he likes and what he doesnt like. I dont know what I would have done if he wasnt helping so much! I’d go crazy! lol

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

My Fiance has been involved in probably 99% of all the wedding planning/decisions.  The only thing I refused to let him be involved in was my wedding dress.  He designed and assembled probably 70% of the invitations.  He designed our table lanterns that has the table number and menus in english and chinese and assembled about 50% of them.  Pretty much he is soooo involved that sometimes I wish I could make one decision without some input from him.  πŸ™‚  Granted his comments do normally make sense.  πŸ™  But I guess I’d rather have him involved than totally not involved.  Yes, I know i’m lucky!  hehehe

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

My Fiance has been really involved.  He is pretty picky about a lot of things (as am I, good thing we generally agree about what we like) and so has helped choose fonts, colors, paper, candles, flowers, menu, wines, cake…  He is not terribly crafty, but is really meticulous about the things he does, and so has helped with quite a bit of our DIY.  We clear off the dining room table, get out all the bits and pieces, and once I show him how it goes he does a great job.  He’s not fast, but everything he assembles is absolutely perfect.  And he’s having loads of fun with our projects, which makes it all more fun for me.  We put DMB on the stereo, pour a little wine, and have a great time.  I’m going crazy this weekend because all the bits and pieces of the invitations have arrived from the printer, and he’s away at his bachelor party golf weekend, but he was horrified that I would even think of assembling them without him…  so I have to wait until Monday night!

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

We’re in it together. He does a lot of research, and he is taking the lead on the vows and music. I couldn’t get the wedding together without him.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

My guy is there every step of the way.  He wants everything to be perfect and is absolutely amazing!  We made our invites together, we are arranging the music for the wedding together, we are making the programs together, we are arranging the candy buffet together – it’s definitly a partnership with us.  We share it all!  The only part that he didn’t get to be a part of was the dress – he’ll have to wait until the wedding day to see that. πŸ™‚

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

My fiance is pretty involved.  Sometimes I have to ask… tonight we printed out our invitations and you could tell her was really excited and fed the printer 200 pieces of cardstock individually.  It was cute.

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