(Closed) How involved is your MOH with your planning?

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

his sister. 5 years younger than me (shes 25). 7 hours away. hasn’t helped with anything.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper

my Maid/Matron of Honor and all but one of my BMs were not involved in my planning at all. the one that was involved was a new friend from my internship who i only made an honorary Bridesmaid or Best Man because she was so helpful. she could not come to my wedding though.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

My Maid/Matron of Honor is my best friend of 13 years, but she lives across the country. She’s coordinating my BMs (only three total)… making sure they’re on schedule with their dresses, their accomodations for the wedding, etc… Her interest varies, though. She flew across the country to go dress shopping with me. She’s also having jewelry made by her mom’s friend for the bridal party, too. But, with the distance, I won’t have a bridal shower, and I’m sort of planning the bachlorette– I used to live where we’re having the wedding, and she knows nothing about the area. It wouldn’t be fair to ask her to plan it. She was really excited to find her wedding shoes, too. Hm… looks like I’m pretty lucky. Frankly, I’m not asking much of anyone, really. She’s like my sister, and I’m truly just thrilled she’s able to stand by my side.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My Maid/Matron of Honor is 1,000 miles away so she hasn’t been able to help too much.  She does give opinions on a lot of things and helps keep me on task and organized.  But the thing I appreciate most is that she will here on the day of and the days leading up to my wedding to keep me calm, cool and collective.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

my Maid/Matron of Honor is 5000 plus k’s away, try talking to her about the wedding and she starts going on about how she will organise this and organise that…

Yeah so far ive had to pay and book a room for 1 night for 4 girls, ive pretty much organised the whole wedding by myself no help from her. I helped her a bit with her wedding last year, made her invitations for her hens/bridal party paid for it all and nothing… I have given up contacting her via email, text or calls as she cant seem to find 5 mins to see how its all going. Bridesmaid or Best Man is just as bad, text message asking when the wedding is as she needs to plan her social life around the wedding argg and shes going to be my SIL.

Glad im not the only one that is going through this pain…..

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

My Maid/Matron of Honor lives really far away too, so she hasn’t really helped with anything. My other bridesmaid (i only have 2 girls total) has helped with some things, like picking out their dresses and wedding dress shopping with me. I’ve been doing most stuff on my own though.

I think my Maid/Matron of Honor might be planning my bachelorette party though.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I wouldn’t say that my MOH/BM are involved in the planning, but if I ask for help to DIY anything, shop, anything like that they’ve been great. They also helped plan a fantastic shower, and two upcoming bachelorette parties for me (one this weekend, can’t wait!).

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think I’m pretty lucky in that my Maid/Matron of Honor has been ridiculously helpful.  She’s my best friend and got married last year, so prior to my wedding planning, we did her wedding planning.  🙂  so we were well seasoned.

A lot of planning has been through conversations/email/skype (it would be more fun for it to be in person).  Though, she’s been really awesome.   It’s just part of her personality to be that way though 🙂

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t have a Maid/Matron of Honor, since all three of my bridesmaids are really close best friends of mine. But my main Bridesmaid, the one that will be standing right next to me, I would say is the most invovled, which still isn’t a whole lot. She listens when I need to talk, and she is really interested in what planning I have gotten done etc, where as my other BM’s don’t care to ask, or care to listen. I guess when I thought of having bridesmiads I also thought that I would get a lot more help, but to my surprise I’m doing mostly everything by myself, without help from even family, which stinks =/ But the ones that ARE there for me, I’m greatful for. And as far as my bridesmaids goes, I know they have their own lives, but it still does stink that they aren’t there like I though and would like them to be.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My Maid/Matron of Honor is a newly graduated doctor and is getting married 2 months after we are. Needless to say she is not doing anything for our wedding except showing up. And that is all I want from her!

🙂

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Mine has been great.  She lives about 2 hours away, but came up dress shopping and then bridesmaide dress shopping.  Also, I am on my computer pretty much all day, so she has been awesome looking at ideas I find on line and responding right away!  Recently her husband’s mom was diagnosed with terminal cancer, so that has kind of taken her away from being able to come up and do things, but she still giving me her opinions and planning showers and my bachelorette party with the help of some great BMs.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I don’t have a Maid/Matron of Honor, but I have 2 bridesmaids:

Bridesmaid or Best Man1 is my cousin and lives about 3 hours away and has 2 toddlers.  She brought the games to my shower that my mom hosted but other than that, hasn’t been too involved, other than getting a dress and having her girls practice being our flower girls.   They will all be arriving Friday morning so we can do our rehearsal and rehearsal dinner.

Bridesmaid or Best Man2 is a friend from college that I’ve known for 14 years and really should have known better than to count on her.  She lives about 3 hours away as well.  She did not attend my shower, nor rsvp to that or the wedding.  She told me for 2 monnths she had a dress, when she actually didn’t.   She finally bought one in the only fabric i asked her not to.  She won’t be coming until a few hours before the ceremony.

For all the DIY and other wedding projects and planning I had… I did them on my own.

Not exactly what I expected to do.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

My sister was my Maid/Matron of Honor, and she lived in another state so I didn’t expect much. She did offer to help with things like programs, etc (after seeing a wedding show and realizing that many bridesmaids help with these things and then feeling bad that she wasn’t) but I told her that was silly, she lives far away and it just doesn’t make sense.

She did do a lot for me though. She planned an amazing surprise bachelorette party trip, she helped with my shower, she would surprise me with things like hair clips for all the bridesmaids, and she was a big help the day before and day of, even going out of her way to make sure I was eating and drinking lots of water. I just hope I can be as good of a Maid/Matron of Honor for her… which I worry about b/c she’ll probably be getting married when I have a newborn.

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I didn’t know the Maid/Matron of Honor had to help with planning. My Maid/Matron of Honor lives about 10 minutes away and I vent to her about stuff, but I don’t ask her to help with anything. I showed her a photo of a DIY project I want to start on next month and she said she wanted to help.

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