Post # 1
I will be getting engaged in a few days now and I am so excited to start planning a wedding. My parents will be footing the majority of the bill and my Mom, Aunt and I are just getting really excited to start planning.
I have a feeling that my soon to be Fiance will be difficult when it comes to making decisions. I’m pretty sure he wants to be very involved in all aspects.
I’m hoping we will get along and be able to agree on things.
Question to you: How involved is/was your Fiance during the planning process?
Post # 3
He wanted invovlement but didn’t have the patience for hours of research on every little thing. So on each decision – napkins, cake style, favors, etc. – I’d pick 3 to 5 that I’d be happy with and he’d make a final choice from those. Worked perfectly. And then he was totally in charge of transportation and DJ.
Post # 4
@ProfessorGirl: Ohhh that’s a great idea!! Letting him choose from my choices!
Post # 5
I actually had to ask my Fiance to slow down the planning so I could help with more if it, lol.
Post # 6
I had to keep asking Fiance his opinion… which he didn’t really have much of… so he didn’t really do any of the planning
Post # 7
He really only helped decide on the venue (plus food choices), tuxes, groomsman gifts, and honeymoon. I did all the rest and he just showed up 🙂
Post # 8
He’s been pretty involved in the big things: I did all the leg-work with the venue, but he came round to the one’s I’d short-listed where possible, and we chose the venue together, as it was very important to both of us. We’ve also decided on the guest-list together, will be picking the photographer together (again, he’ll trust me to do the leg-work, but we will make the decision together), decided on music/entertainment together, etc. I was largely responsible for choosing the menu, but did run things by him. He will also be picking his own suit, though we’ve agreed on colour and style (not a fan of tails/morning coats, cravats, etc). He also insisted on a 3 or 4 tiered cake (I was considering cupcakes), but isn’t too fussed about the style.
He’s not fussed about things like the flowers, stationary etc; though TBH neither am I. I imagine I’ll be dealing with these things, but don’t plan on spending hours agonising over them.
The way I see it is that it’s OUR wedding, not MY wedding. I’m glad he’s taken an interest, and that we’ve made decisions together for the most part.
Post # 9
Very involved. I chose option #4.
My Fiance has waited a long time to get married, and it’s something he has always wanted; so right from the beginning he has had a really clear vision of how the big day will go.
It’s been an adventure: taking two opinions on everything, and definitely caused us some grief mame every decision together: but with our day fast approaching I have to say I am REALLY excited, and thrilled that is so much “us”. So many things have turned out 300% better because we both had equal input.
Post # 10
He ok’d the when, said yes to the where over email and he wants steak/salmon and to wear a black suit.
That’s it. I love having free rein and I never would force him to be involved in such a girls thing.
Post # 11
my guy is very involved, which is fantastic because I’ve had a ton of overseas work travel this year. There are several areas where we’ve divided tasks according to interest/skill (he’s renting the tables, I’m working on the decorations) but for stuff like catering and the ceremony we are equally involved. Even though it might seem easier to just take over and make all the decisions, it has been a very good lesson on how much a good marriage depends on conversation and compromise – a good lesson for both of us 🙂
Post # 12
he WAnts to help, but doesnt hav the time or patience. but like PP i pick a few things and give him the final pick
Post # 13
Fiance is really involved. I’m loving it. Only thing I just made a decision on without him is our first dance. =)
Post # 14
We usually split up projects/planning. We split it up by who was more interested in the matter. Like Invitations were really important to me where as the layout of location seemed more his thing. We did seek advice/input and feelings with the descions from eachother too. He has been super helpful, couldn’t have done it without him!
Post # 15
Im terrible with decisions….I narrow everything to 2 choices and make him pick one. ha
Post # 16
My Fiance has been involved to the perfect level for me. We discuss everything reasonably and we’ve accomplished all wedding-related tasks together, so things have been relatively stress-free for us.