(Closed) How involved is/was your FI during the planning process?

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: How involved is/was your FI during the planning process?
    Not involved at all: all decisions were mine, he pretty much just showed up! : (8 votes)
    15 %
    Somewhat involved: most decisions were mine but I ran everything by him : (20 votes)
    36 %
    Involved: voiced his own ideas and discussed things with eachother : (22 votes)
    40 %
    Extremely involved: could not make a move without his say : (5 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    He wanted invovlement but didn’t have the patience for hours of research on every little thing. So on each decision – napkins, cake style, favors, etc. – I’d pick 3 to 5 that I’d be happy with and he’d make a final choice from those. Worked perfectly. And then he was totally in charge of transportation and DJ. 

    Post # 5
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    119 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I actually had to ask my Fiance to slow down the planning so I could help with more if it, lol.

    Post # 6
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    3771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I had to keep asking Fiance his opinion… which he didn’t really have much of… so he didn’t really do any of the planning

    Post # 7
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    3000 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    He really only helped decide on the venue (plus food choices), tuxes, groomsman gifts, and honeymoon. I did all the rest and he just showed up 🙂

    Post # 8
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    6345 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    He’s been pretty involved in the big things: I did all the leg-work with the venue, but he came round to the one’s I’d short-listed where possible, and we chose the venue together, as it was very important to both of us. We’ve also decided on the guest-list together, will be picking the photographer together (again, he’ll trust me to do the leg-work, but we will make the decision together), decided on music/entertainment together, etc. I was largely responsible for choosing the menu, but did run things by him. He will also be picking his own suit, though we’ve agreed on colour and style (not a fan of tails/morning coats, cravats, etc). He also insisted on a 3 or 4 tiered cake (I was considering cupcakes), but isn’t too fussed about the style.

    He’s not fussed about things like the flowers, stationary etc; though TBH neither am I. I imagine I’ll be dealing with these things, but don’t plan on spending hours agonising over them.

    The way I see it is that it’s OUR wedding, not MY wedding. I’m glad he’s taken an interest, and that we’ve made decisions together for the most part.

    Post # 9
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    1577 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Very involved. I chose option #4.

    My Fiance has waited a long time to get married, and it’s something he has always wanted; so right from the beginning he has had a really clear vision of how the big day will go.

    It’s been an adventure: taking two opinions on everything, and definitely caused us some grief mame every decision together: but with our day fast approaching I have to say I am REALLY excited, and thrilled that is so much “us”. So many things have turned out 300% better because we both had equal input.

    Post # 10
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    10453 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    He ok’d the when, said yes to the where over email and he wants steak/salmon and to wear a black suit.

    That’s it. I love having free rein and I never would force him to be involved in such a girls thing.

    Post # 11
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    22 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    my guy is very involved, which is fantastic because I’ve had a ton of overseas work travel this year. There are several areas where we’ve divided tasks according to interest/skill (he’s renting the tables, I’m working on the decorations) but for stuff like catering and the ceremony we are equally involved. Even though it might seem easier to just take over and make all the decisions, it has been a very good lesson on how much a good marriage depends on conversation and compromise – a good lesson for both of us 🙂

    Post # 12
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    1975 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    he WAnts to help, but doesnt hav the time or patience. but like PP i pick a few things and give him the final pick

    Post # 13
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    9482 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Fiance is really involved.  I’m loving it.  Only thing I just made a decision on without him is our first dance.  =)

    Post # 14
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    31 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We usually split up projects/planning.  We split it up by who was more interested in the matter.  Like Invitations were really important to me where as the layout of location seemed more his thing.  We did seek advice/input and feelings with the descions from eachother too.  He has been super helpful, couldn’t have done it without him!

    Post # 15
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    159 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Im terrible with decisions….I narrow everything to 2 choices and make him pick one. ha

    Post # 16
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    9737 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    My Fiance has been involved to the perfect level for me.  We discuss everything reasonably and we’ve accomplished all wedding-related tasks together, so things have been relatively stress-free for us. 

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