(Closed) How Involved Is/Was Your FI/DH in planning the wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
Post # 33
293 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

FH hasn’t been too much involved but he gets involved when he wants to be because I consult him on decisions. I always try to keep him in the loop on everything but he really only cares about food, music, and how the groomsmen look

Post # 34
9947 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Mr TTR & I are both Encores.

He had SOME distinct ideas right from the moment he proposed in Myrtle Beach

For example, he knew he wanted to Elope to a Destination Wedding on the Christmas Holidays, with just the 2 of us saying our Vows ALONE to one another on a favourite Beach in a preferred Destination (it started out as MB, but eventually became The Florida Keys)

He DID NOT WANT… a BIG White Pouffy Family Wedding as we had both done that before

He knew he wanted our Marriage to be simple… he wanted our Honeymoon to be where we spent the bucks, lol

He wasn’t crazy about having any sort of thing with our Family or Friends, but I convinced him (well actually I guess they did too, when 3 couples told us flat out they wanted to celebrate with us, and were planning to “crash” our Wedding).

Lol, that was when he saw the light and agreed that having a Back Home Reception Party after our Honeymoon was the right thing to do for our nearest & dearest

Once we got the location figured out, he had a few specifics about time of day (sunset) and other such things (Reception Dinner for 2 at one of our favourite Restaurants over looking the Ocean)

We went WRing shopping just before Christmas for me.  And got his Wedding Watch at the same time.  (Little did I know he was buying me one as well, and that I’d get it on the Morning of our Wedding when we exchanged our Wedding Presents to one another)

We had to “make a date” to pick up our Wedding License in Florida, and that was a big day for the two of us.

He wasn’t too fussed on things like the Officiant (other than it had to be a Non-Denominational Ceremony) – Flowers – or Photography.  All things that I ended up coordinating.

I told him pretty early on that altho he saw our Wedding as being fairly casual (lol, “Can I wear my shorts ?”)… I saw it a bit more formal / traditional.  And that I would be buying a Destination Wedding Dress.  After I did that, he suddenly decided that he’d like to up his game, so we spent one day out shopping for his nifty looking Wedding attire c/o Tommy Bahama.

He was pretty vocal however about our entire Vacation Extravaganza (we were gone 5 weeks, and combined a bunch of stuff together to get so much time off… Christmas Vacation – Pre Wedding – Wedding – and Honeymoon).  He was very much involved in all that planning and has specific places he wanted to go to, and things he wanted to see.

He was very involved in the plans for our Accommodations… especially those that happened after we were married… our Honeymoon Hotel Suite in The Keys – our Airport Hotel in Miami – our Beachfront Resort in Old San Juan – and our fabulous Sunset Balcony on our Caribbean Cruise.

No disappointments in the whole lot !!

After our Honeymoon, he helped out with some of the details for the Reception Party… mostly the bigger stuff like the Hall Rental, Booze Order, Food & Cake.  He left me to work thru the Guest List, Invites, and DIY Projects.

Overall we were a good team.

Now if we could just get together and find some time to sort thru our Wedding & Honeymoon pics and agree on what we want to frame etc, married life would be perfect



Post # 36
1896 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

My Fiance said that as long as we were married he didn’t care anything I wanted was fine, the wedding was mainly for me.  When I got frustrated and said we should elope to Vegas it turned out that anything I wanted did not include Vegas.  He pitched a fit about Vegas.

Regrouping I settled on Disneyland (the Escape package).  He was ‘ehh’ about it and I put my foot down reminded him that it was anything I wanted (and it fit all the recquirements).  The other day he said that he thought Disneyland was a great idea and was glad that we had come up with it.  I have no idea where the ‘we’ came from, but I’ll take it!

As we get further into the planning process he’s taking a more active role and finding out that it can be a fun thing.

Post # 37
198 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

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@MissPine:  It works well – just make sure you like all three choices equally so it isn’t a guess the right answer game.  I’ve made that mistake once and the conversation afterwards wasn’t fun 🙁

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