(Closed) How involved should I be in helping with my Bridal shower?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
4275 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Leave it be. They insisted on doing everything themselves, but I ended up showing up early the day of to help set up.

Post # 4
5662 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

You really need to let them do what they want to do for you and trust that they know you. The point is that people come to celebrate you and spend some time with you. It’s not really up to you what kind of invitations they send or if they give favors etc… if you want to do anything, plan to give each of the ladies that are nice enough to do this for you a little gift to say thank you. I get that its hard to just stand back and let them take care of it, but, try really hard not to butt in, you have enough to worry about with the wedding! πŸ™‚

Post # 7
1433 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

My showers the same day, and is a double bride shower too! Lol. 

I really want them to do favours, but I’m not even sure they have organized a cake.  

I’m trying to sit back and let it all happen but its certainly difficult isn’t it? 

Post # 8
4193 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I understand how hard it is to step back, but you need to.:) I told my bridesmaids early on that I wanted games at the shower (FI and I play card and board games a LOT), and gave suggestions for places to hold it (since they live one and three hours away), but that’s really all I could and should have done. You’ve already told them what you wanted- hopefully they’ve taken that into consideration, and they also may have some great ideas of their own!

Everyone will know that you’re not the host-you’re certainly not responsible for the favors. Get your thank yous ready (I had most of mine addressed beforehand) and send them out promptly- I think that’s really all you need to do- a heartfelt thank you from the bride will be much more appreciated than a bag of candy.

Enjoy the fact that’s the one aspect of the wedding you only have to show up for! πŸ™‚

Post # 10
715 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

In my family, all showers are suprises, so I have zero input.  It’s driving me mad!  I keep telling my mom and cousin/MOH about stuff that I’d like or good ideas and they both look at me with completely innocent faces and go “What shower?”  They refuse to even acknoweldge that they are planning something (and I know they’re planning something!)

I’m trying to take a step back and just let them do their thing, but I know how hard it is!

Post # 11
2589 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If they don’t do favors, or even if they do, getting a nice, personal, hand written Thank You note in a reasonable amount of time is a) even more meaningful I think, and b) completley in your control.




Post # 12
1866 posts
Buzzing bee

OP, just let them plan it. πŸ™‚  I know it’s hard to sit back (trust me I know, I am such a huge planner!) but you don’t want to be overbearing.  Especially since they’re (presumably) paying for it, just let them handle it.  I do not think it will reflect poorly on you if something negative occurs b/c everyone knows the bride doesn’t plan her own shower!

Post # 13
2692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I would offer any help, like helping to decorate the day of, etc.  Also you can drop hints too.

I get how hard it is to step back and let someone else do all the planning but you’ll be so thankful to not have to deal with another wedding related party and be spoiled and pampered for a change. I am looking forward to it.

That said, I am offering suggestions to my bm’s and luckily she has been asking for my imput.  The rest is up to her.

Post # 14
4485 posts
Honey bee

As the bride, the only thing you get to do is show up. You don’t decide the guest list, the venue, or anything else.

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