(Closed) How involved were you in picking out your ring?

posted 5 years ago in Rings
  • poll: How involved were you in picking a ring?

    Not at all

    I told him my preferences (metal or setting style, etc) and he picked one out

    I told him a few I'd love and he picked

    we worked together and decided on one

    I decided and he wrote a check

    other (please share)

  • Post # 16
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    We got engaged before having a ring. The next day he took me to Birks and I was able to pick out whatever I liked. Then he wrote the cheque lol.

    Post # 17
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I’m very picky and Fiance and I have different tastes (he thinks diamonds are boring) we went shopping together and I narrowed it down to two and let him have final say

    Post # 18
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I didn’t have a clue it was coming. He bought a simple, modest ring which perfectly suits me.   ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 19
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I picked other. We decided to get married before we had a ring.

    After we decided to be married I chose to use my Grandmother’s (who passed away many years ago) cluster diamond ring as my engagement ring. I suppose it is considered an “unpopular” engagement ring choice as it is a cluster ring and many would consider it a dinner ring but I love it and all the beautiful significance it holds.

    My Grandmother and Grandfather were quite poor and so she had a very simple band with no diamonds as her wedding ring. Many years later, when they had a little more money, my Grandfather bought my Grandmother this diamond ring and she adored it. I feel very lucky to be able to wear it on my hand everyday and have it as a symbol of my marriage and honor my Grandparents who had a beautiful relationship ๐Ÿ™‚

     

    Post # 20
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

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    DelaneyRose:  I e-mailed him a link to the exact ring that I wanted two years before he proposed lol. He had mentioned how nice someones ring on FB was and I hated it! So I was a bit concerned I wouldn’t get the ring I wanted so I figured this way it took all the pressure off of him to find me the perfect ring! I couldn’t be happier with the decision!

    Post # 22
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    Blushing bee

    A few months before we started shopping, I researched online a lot. I showed him what I was liking, asked his opinions, and he asked questions. He was pretty involved in the research phase, of both the setting and the stone.

    We went to a few jewelers together to look at settings and stones. He was asking questions and making suggestions, but I lead the appointments. I decided to custom make my ring with his approval. He was at all but one of the appointments of me designing/trying on molds/revising, including when I signed off on the ring to be made. He was very in the loop in the designing phase, as we talked about each little detail together (maybe more than he wanted to!). 

    I let him pick it up from the jeweler without me so it would still be a “surprise” at the proposal. I have no regrets over how we handled the process. I don’t think he does either, as I got exactly what I wanted with no pressure on him to pick something out to suit my picky tastes!

    Post # 23
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    He asked what I wanted. So I showed him a couple I liked from brilliant earth. He looked and found a style he liked better and checked if I liked it (and I loved it). We split the difference on the stone. I wanted like .3 and he wanted to get me a full carat but went with .54 when told him I didn’t like the look of big stones and wanted to be able to wear it at work

    Post # 24
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

    I’ve showed him several options and we’ve discussed both our preferences and his budget and he will make the final decision.

    Post # 25
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    Buzzing bee

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    DelaneyRose:  husband said at the time … Please PLEASE don’t make me choose the ring. LOL. He was terrified of choosing something I wouldn’t like. Especially because I wanted a colored gemstone, very particular about it and that made it even more complicated for him.  And being the practical man he is, he asked if I minded choosing what I wanted or at least giving him like three rings I’d love. I ended designing my ring with his help and inout and both of us choosing the stone together ๐Ÿ™‚ 

     

    Post # 26
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    Helper bee

    Mine was pretty much a surprise! We had gone to jewelery stores to try some on. But when it came down to it he went to 8 different stores on his own and without me knowing in search for the perfect ring! He was so nervous after he bought it that he ended up telling me what it looked like anyway!

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    Post # 27
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    my fiancé and I had been talking about marriage for a long tine but tbh I didn’t thnk he’d be proposing for another 6 months when he popped the question. 

    I like my ring, but its not what I would’ve chosen. It’s a split shank square halo with a round center diamond, and it has pave diamonds halfway down the shank. It’s very pretty but is much flashier than I would have gone for. I have long, thin fingers (4.25 and it spins around my finger constantly) so I do kinda wish it was more delicate and less top-heavy sometimes.. But he picked it out for me, and I know he is quite proud of it. so I love it for that, and I  don’t really think I’ll ever change it. Finding a wedding band to go with it is a PITA though…

    Post # 28
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I did a lot of research and gave my fiancé many ideas. In the end he felt overwhelmed and proposed with a solitaire, with instructions to get it set however I wanted. I got quotes from several local jewelers and got a custom set that I love.  In the end we’re both happy with how everything worked out ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 29
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    T fiancé and I went to a lot of stores looking at Rings. We chose the stone and the setting together. It was important for both of us to get what we wanted! Can’t wait to wear my set! 3.5 months left!

    Post # 30
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    Well my SO hasnt bought the ring yet, but he and I have been shopping at different stores to find something we both like. I told him I don’t want to have the final say, so I expect that he will decide on diamond. He is so worried about me getting something I like, and he finds jewellers and all the 4c’s and pressure super overwhelming!

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