(Closed) How involved were you in picking out your ring?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
  • poll: How involved were you in picking a ring?
    Not at all : (26 votes)
    13 %
    I told him my preferences (metal or setting style, etc) and he picked one out : (30 votes)
    15 %
    I told him a few I'd love and he picked : (18 votes)
    9 %
    we worked together and decided on one : (62 votes)
    31 %
    I decided and he wrote a check : (55 votes)
    27 %
    other (please share) : (10 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 61
    208 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

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    caligirl0011:  it is so sweet and romantic that you chose a blue sapphire so you both could enjoy it!!

    Post # 62
    9440 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    He knew I wanted an emerald cut diamond but the rest was all him. 

    Post # 63
    315 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

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    DelaneyRose:  I knew what I had wanted to YEARS (nothing too fancy, a round brilliant with tapered baguettes), but I also know how I detail-oriented I am. We went shopping together to confirm that I liked the style and tried on a few others (which was SO FUN, he actually liked shopping with me for the ring), found a jeweler and confirmed my choice in moissanite after seeing the stone in person.

    I left him with a picture of what I wanted the ring to look like, then he made it clear that the rest of the process will be a mystery. He knows that I am not the biggest fan of surprises, but he wanted to take over after all of that. He had a few follow-up questions that he tried to sneakily ask here and there, but we will see what he comes up with in the end 😀 I am super excited. 

    Post # 64
    1777 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I was involved in the sense that when my Fiance asked me what kind of ring I liked, I said a solitaire diamond on a platinum band.  Armed witht this knowledge, he researched, talked to jewelers, and picked out the ring himself.  He did amazing!

    Post # 65
    200 posts
    Helper bee

    We went to Tiffany’s together and found one we both loved. Then I found some similar ones online (for 1/3rd of the price, if not less) and have sent him some options. The rest is up to him, we’ll see what he ultimately gets me. It could be one of the ones I sent him, could be totally different. Who knows!

    Post # 66
    3606 posts
    Sugar bee

    We both liked RBs the best out of all the cuts, so that’s how we decided on the shape of the center stone. Then we both did a bunch of research on diamonds, pored over BN, JA, WF, Ritani, and other sites that sell loose diamonds online, and eventually found the perfect stone. For the setting, we mostly liked one at a jeweler’s in my hometown, but needed some aspects of it to be customized, so the jeweler made a brand-new setting for us and set our diamond in it.

    I’m glad I got a say in designing the ring. I didn’t see the customized ring until the proposal (and he had kept it a secret from me that the ring was even ready), so it was still somewhat of a surprise even though I had a general idea of how it was going to look.

    Post # 67
    110 posts
    Blushing bee

    My boyfriend and I looked for rings together recently. I have told him the kind of setting I like and we picked out a diamond together. I asked not to be involved in the final decision between two different settings so there is still an element of surprise. 

    Now I am just in the fun waiting period! 

    Post # 68
    162 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

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    LadyNyx:  for what it’s worth I love that ring and would be proud to wear it even without the amazing back story!

    Post # 69
    123 posts
    Blushing bee

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    CarlyMoMarly:  Thanks so much 🙂 I really love it

    Post # 70
    113 posts
    Blushing bee

    Honestly, I pretty much picked mine out, which I never had really dreamt about my ring so I had no idea where to start. But once we narrowed down what he disliked & what I disliked, a simple solitaire was it. He did have a lot of say though, he said he hated halos, hated anything that looked like a flower (which I loved..lol), didn’t like 3 stone rings, etc. I wasn’t a fan of split shanks. I did think I wanted rose gold, which I didn’t end up with, but I’m totally okay with it. He only liked certain diamond cuts, I pretty much liked them all, but have a taste for the unique & different. The ring isn’t on my finger yet, but it is in our drawer for safe keeping until the time is right. Ultimately, I found/chose my diamond & setting which he loved too. I’m blessed to have a half carat asscher cut solitaire coming my way!! Eek! so different from anyone else where I’m from & I’m SO excited to wear it on my finger! It is perfect! 

    Post # 71
    1305 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: A very pretty church.

    I started showing him things and he okayed or vetoed them generally (he has strong feelings about some styles). Many were online but ultimately we chose a brick and mortar store that had a design I liked (I had seen it on their website). I am pretty picky generally and am unhappy about the sort of sales tactics I have seen in the mall stores. I thought putting pressure on him to somehow choose the ‘perfect’ ring would be unkind. A friend of mine recently had to do this, he did well, but I know he was super nervous and stressed about it for months. We had already decided to get engaged, he’d even already asked me nicely, no reason for the ring choice/purchase to be a trial by fire.

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