Post # 17
I’d say 50%? I find it difficult to quantify it. I tried on rings, with my sister, my best friend and him. I looked online (and we decided against it, for personal reasons.) And I decided on a few things that I really like – split shank, halo. Oh, and I got properly sized instead of just my guess (but my guess was correct.)
The rest of it is in his hands. I’m done.
Post # 18
I voted 75% I have picked out the setting and diamond (shape). After that it is all up to him. [;
Post # 19
I’d say 99%? He came to almost all of the visits while I worked with the jeweler to source in the perfect stone….I asked his opinion with the setting but he pretty much took a back seat on everything. He did pay though. That’s huge.
Post # 20
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
50%. I designed the setting and decided the general stone spec range, and he oversaw the custom process and selected each stone.
Post # 21
I’d say 75%. I’m now engaged, and when we first started looking, I knew I wanted an antique ring. Originally, my finace wasn’t sure about that idea, because he wanted to ensure that I recieved a high quality/cut diamond… so we looked around alot. I showed him the pro’s and con’s of both sides, and we really did our homework. I also love rubies, so I wanted to incorperate them somehow into the ring. We looked at custom options but alot of modern rubies are simulated, and that was scary to us. As time went on, I fell in love with ring’s from the Art Deco age, with gemstone halo’s. My fiance and I did alot of research, and he found an antique, art deco, natural ruby– halo setting, through a private jeweler, that was set with a certified diamond of my fiance’s choosing. I think this was an amazing compromise: I got the ring of my dreams, and my fiance got to choose the diamond. 🙂
Post # 22
@NYCkindaBee: Close to 0%. My only request was that he just get me something small, if anything. 🙂
Post # 23
I would say almost 100%. I knew I wanted Moissanite and a specific look so I wanted to pick out the setting. I had always wanted a halo but the ones I liked best were out of budget. FI suggested paying the upgrade fee for palladium over white gold, and when he placed the order picked a stone one size bigger.
Post # 24
@NYCkindaBee: SO has made it very clear that this is his territory.
It can be hard sometimes to be on here and see all the bees who get to help in the process, but honestly…I’ve got 20 different favorite rings and it seems like every week I find a new colored gem, or a style that I really like.
I just focus on the positives and upsides of not being involved in the ring selection process. At the end of the day, it’s his money to spend and to choose what sort of ring he wants for me. I’m happy that I have a man who wants to do this process on his own, and he’s also said that he wants to do some sort of elaborate proposal…which makes me nervous because we are both relatively shy and reclusive people!!! I’m thinking maybe he just means something that involves a trip/destination or even our dining room littered with roses…it’s fun to dream about it haha.
Post # 25
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
We had been shopping for a while and I really didn’t care what he got me as long as it was something I agreed to liking. Basically that I would show him styles I liked and then he picked which one to present to me.
One day we were walking down main street and I saw a ring in a window. I told him I wanted to go look at that ring when the shop was open the next day. I tried it on the following day and looked at my Fiance and said “This is my ring. We’re done looking.” When we were in the car he said “So I guess I don’t get a say anymore.” I said sorry but nope. Honestly I would have been happy with whatever he gave me but after trying on that ring I just knew that was my ring. He presented it with me a few months later.
Post # 26
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
I voted 0%, but it was probably about a 10%-15%… I would drop very general hints about style basics I did and didn’t like for myself… like “yeah I like more intricate rings” , and “i want it pretty unique, maybe antique-y” and I had also dropped some hints about wanting to check out moissanite, yellow sapphire, etc. He did look into moissanite but ended up going with a diamond, he went to a very specific jewelry store because of a friend and they don’t deal with moissanite.
However I had NO clue that he had been shopping and the final choice was 100% up to him! And I could not be happier, it is more beautiful than anything I had been looking at and envisioning!
Post # 27
I went e-ring shopping first with my mum, where I basically figured out my size and thought I found a style that I liked. He and I went once, and for the life of me the style that I thought I wanted very quickly became NOT the right one for me. He and I went shopping again, looking this time at completely different styles and I fell in love with 2. Told him to choose between those…. I put 100%, because I don’t think there was every any doubt which one he’d choose.
Post # 28
@NYCkindaBee: I was 75% involved. I narrowed it down to 3 choices and let him decide.
Post # 29
100 percenter over here. He originally thought to leave me out of the process, because of tradition, but we do everything together. He wanted to be sure that we settled on a ring that I would love and that’s what happened. He is also clueless about this stuff, so I helped him out. I know the ring is in his closet, and now I’m waiting for my proposal to see my beautiful ring again.
Post # 31
I’d say like 90% because I did all the research, picked which one I liked the best, I also found his ring, but the final decision for both rings was a joint decision/agreement