(Closed) How is being married going to be different than living together?

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

“The only thing that I feel has changed, is that now I am committed to making this work, I try harder during tough times, I know I cannot just walk away. Hard to explain, I feel more connected to him? Doesn’t change much, but a little”

^^ this is what i was trying to say!

Post # 18
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I’m not married yet, but I think the biggest difference for us will be that my last name will be his and we can introduce ourselves as husband and wife. Other than that maybe just the “feeling” will be different… it’s a big deal to have a husband rather than a boyfriend or even a fiance.

We have been together for 3 and a half years and we’ve lived together for 9 months in a house. We have a joint bank account and we own a business together, so we’re already committed to each other and living a life in unity.

Post # 19
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3978 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I doubt anything will really change for us. However, I want SOMETHING to feel different and, for me, rearranging things gives everything a new feel even if it isn’t new. So, we plan on getting some new furniture with out wedding money (and gifts) and re-arranging the appartment so it looks and feels new, even if it really isn’t. Also, I know it will feel more legit. It did after we got engaged even though we had alreayd been living together. And the idea of getting knocked up on accident wouldn’t be as shameful with my family as if it were to happen now. Not that I expect that to happen, but if we do get too carried away and end up with a baby it wont be As big of a deal. (Although still not something to take lightly.)

Post # 20
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158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

not really, I thought it would but really…no.

Post # 21
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Worker bee

Being married and living together are not much different, in my opinion. The only difference I think is that when you have a marriage certificate, there are more legal ramifactions.  Btw, couples who live together before marriage have a higher rate of divorce than those who don’t live together before the wedding…not to put judgment on anyone, just saying statistically…

Post # 22
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570 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Lisamr:  If you have lived together for a year and it was happy it should get more blissful being Mrs.???.  YOu will have to compromise more on situations you disagreed before.

2) you cannot call it quicks ever

3)  You hopefully have more sex and feel less stress than before (I know I did since I knew I was living in sin before being married)

Post # 23
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22 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I have been with my man for 7 1/2 years.  We just got married May 29th after 6 years of living together, & I didn’t think anything would change.

For us, it was a huge change though!  For the better.  This may be Too Much Information, but “making love” is SOOO much more special now! And my husband feels the same.  Some of the biggest differences may be due to our “Marriage On the Rock” CD’s we got as a wedding gift.  We listened to them together as well as filled out the questions in the “Marriage on the Rock – Discussion Guide” journal, and it has morphed our already awesome relationship into an absolutely beautiful union that is more fulfilling than anything we could have imagined.

Becoming his wife is the best thing that’s ever happened to me.

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

The biggest difference was I kept getting the absolutely ridiculous question “so how’s married life” all. the. time.

But otherwise, no difference other than our homeowner insurance and car insurance going down.  Oh, and the little old lady across the street being very happy that we were no longer “living in sin”.  🙂

Post # 25
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1361 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

We had a house together (in his name) and lived together for a year before, but did not have sex.  So the biggest change after the wedding was sex.  And maybe it’s just because we’re in the process of moving, but we fight alot more than before.  I’m not sure why. 

Post # 26
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5654 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

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@ChristineS86:

Great resource for sure!! You & your DH should get the “Indestructible Marriage” series (also from Jimmy Evans)… It is AMAZING & so worth the $$! We’re doing the study right now & it is so wonderful! (sorry to threadjack just had to share) 🙂

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