Post # 1
So we have about 2 months or so left…I am freaking out. We mailed our invitations yesterday, went to PreCana yesterday (Catholic church required education). My Mother-In-Law is making my look at candalabras for the tables. I just picked the tablecloths and my venue was going to have square candles on the table – it’s not a sitdown dinner so I was fine with it. But if she buys candalabras – what the heck are we going to do with them after the wedding. And how are they getting down to the venue etc etc etc. Anyway- our other cause of stress is our priest wont meet w us!!! Who would have thought? I have called the secretary several times, said I was wondering when our priest would want to meet w us. Intially she told us that Father had everything he needed. Now she gave us one date – and of course that is the date we are in AZ to buy a dress for my STBSD. I dont want to be pushy – but really? Does he want to at least meet me before our December wedding? I really want to find out if we need to have a full mass – it matters for our singer and music…but I may not find that out until our rehearsal at this point. Everything else is done I think. Except for cupcakes – having trouble finding someone on NYE. The one person wants to charge $50 for delivery. For cupcakes???? I dont think so. So I am about to go back and renegotiate or find someone else. I am expecting some drama around the invties – mailed them yesterday and expecting my soon to be BIL creating drama around the fact that his kids aren’t invited and he lives in WI and can’t afford to come. (oh and he is besties with my FI’s ex… -so she’ll know ALL the details very soon). So thanks for the therapy session, I feel much better…
How are all of you?
Post # 3
@AngieN: I am having a Catholic wedding also, and our priest won’t meet with us either!! Apparently he is very overwhelmed with too many responsibilities and doesn’t meet with couples? I don’t feel like this is normal, but I don’t really know what to do about it. We are getting married at a chuch where we are not parishioners so I dont know if its just the way this church does things or what. We have a woman that is helping coordinate all the other details at the church, but what will he talk about during the ceremony?? I guess just give generic marriage advice and not say anything personal about us?
Everything else is going pretty well, I NEED to work on the programs. Have you created yours yet?
Post # 4
ha, I am having a Catholic December wedding too! I am doing okay. However, I don’t like the musician the church has selected, so I am hoping to talk the church’s little Christian youth band(they are so amazing!) into doing our wedding. I hope it works out!
I still need to get in touch with a florist/hire one. Then find a makeup artist. I hate this constant checklist thing going on….. I sometimes wish I had just eloped to French Polynesia or something….sigh…. I mailed my invitations this week, my dress arrived(yay!) and so needs to be altered, way too big in the chest… We also have to deal with our honeymoon this week.
Post # 5
I decided to nix the programs. It’s a small wedding with only a Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man. My drama right now is my soon to be step daughter who is 21 “doesnt really like long dresses adn really doesnt want to wear black”. I told my Fiance today to figure it out, but the attire for her is a long black dress, appropriate for church and NYE. End of discussion. I. AM. THE. BRIDE. (My first bridezilla moment!) (Oh and we flew from Phila to Arizona where she goes to school to buy her a dress this week).
Invites out, dress has to be picked up from the tailor next weekend, adn I have my hair/makeup trial on Sunday. I finally have cupcakes too. Saved $100 by emailing one more person…YEA!
Need to order stickers for the favor boxes (our favors are the cupcakes). Not really happy with the menu for the rehearsal dinner. Need to call them next week to discuss. (Oh and I am not paying $100 for a room that no one would be using anyway…I’ll put my 12 people in the restaurant then).
@chibride1204 – I guess it will be a pretty odd homily. And I have some really specific requests – like a family blessing after the vows. I guess that’s what the rehearsal is for.
Post # 6
I’m having an internal struggle with programs. Yes, no? Why should I? It’s just more money. Considering it’s going to just be a small 30 minute ceremony I don’t really think it’s necessary. We’ve mailed out invitations and so far I haven’t heard a peep from anyone about them, which I didn’t expect. But I’m sure I’ll have lots of mail come next week with the RSVPs.
Post # 7
I wasn’t completely convinced about the need for programs all along either, but with a full Catholic mass I think its more necessary. I also think the programs are a great way to “honor” the people involved in the wedding – it lists all the members of the wedding party, anyone else involved in the ceremony, etc. Also I plan on writing a little thank you note in there and honoring our relatives that have passed away. I will also probably put our address on their for guest’s reference. I think this is a great way to communicate with your guests on the day of.