(Closed) How is food being served now a days? At a wedding/shower

posted 3 months ago in Food
Post # 31
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Bee Keeper

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@futuremrscat:  Then if you are against this idea, don’t give in to what she wants. You should have not agreed to the shower to prove your point because that one was under your control. How old is your mom? I’m guessing 60+? Well if my guess is wrong, we all know that the older you are, the higher the incidence of comordities is. That’s just how nature works (not that younger people don’t but just lesser).

I don’t understand why she doesn’t get that being people in her age group has the highest risk of getting sick, she still wants to continue with this. I’m imagining with that 80+ invitees, there are many people who are her age and older. Doesn’t she realize that the numbers for infection rates are skyrocketing even though the whole world was hoping that summertime “will slow things down”?

If she wants you there at her wedding, try to convince her to have an intimate ceremony with immediate family only for this year. And postpone everything else (showers, bachelorettes, a second ceremony with reception) in the future when hopefully it’s safer so people can attend.

This is a perfect example where I’m wrong to think that the older you are, the wiser you are…apparently not.

 

Post # 32
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

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@futuremrscat:  Just a month ago you posted asking for ideas for your mother’s 50th birthday party which was a surprise so I actually do not belive for a moment that you don’t want to throw this party. 

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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@futuremrscat: 

“Mom, I cannot host an event with 80+ guests because I don’t want to put anyone at risk. I know this is upsetting and unfair, but I hate the thought of any of our loved ones becoming infected. As we celebrate these important events, I want to be sure you are around for a long, long time and I don’t want to do anything that would jeporadize your health. I want you to have the wedding and shower that you’ve dreamed of – how can I help you do that with a more limited guest list? Can I host a dinner for six of your closest friends and then we can plan for a much bigger event in 2021?”

Post # 36
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

You’re a grown woman not a 12 year old. You use your big girl words and tell your mom she’s being selfish and stupid. And when she cries you treat her like you would a child throwing a tantrum for something dangerous – you tell her it’s for her own good.

Like come on girl, no one is buying this poor me excuse. If you didn’t want to do any of this stuff you wouldn’t, you just want to come off as innocent here to us so people won’t call you out while still gathering ideas. 

I doubt anything anyone says will change your mind so maybe for a party game you can all write down who you think will end up with COVID out of the guestlist and in two weeks whoever is right gets a prize.

Post # 38
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Bee Keeper

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@futuremrscat:  Remind her too that thousands of other brides out there had to postpone their weddings too and mostly even brides younger than herself (to remind her that this affects EVERYONE of all ages) so she doesn’t feel like she’s all alone in this.

And I don’t mean only your situation OP but I think in general, this is the biggest factor why we are still in this shithole. When stricter rules were applied March & April, infection rate peaks were reached and it went downwards. Around Memorial Day weekend (US), some businesses started to open up. I understand we kind have to do it at some point. However what the biggest problem was when things started to open up, many people became too laxed or no longer cared and started doing whatever they wanted for the most part without being rational. Many didn’t know how to behave and ignored distancing and took “opening up slowly” as a free for all. 

Post # 39
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

I think a big problem stems from the amount of people, pandemic aside. That’s soooo many people for a shower. You’re essentially throwing her a second reception! I would tell her you can only accommodate 40 people (20 per side) and that will give you a lot more room to plan. The grilling, as someone said, will definitely take a long time with even that many. You’ve got the right idea to have things as individualized as possible. Maybe you can get sides from somewhere that’s got them in packages already. For example, at our local shake shack they have the fries in closed containers right now. Another place near me does Mac and cheese in Individual containers as well. I would stay away from family style serve yourself. You can have your husband pick the food up during the party so it’s hot and can go right out on the table to grab, still covered, for consumption. 

Post # 40
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Bumble Beekeeper

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@futuremrscat:  You deal with her crying about a party so you’re not all crying at a funeral (or funerals). That’s how.

Post # 41
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Its sad that you even have to explain anything to your mom, she should know and UNDERSTAND! The selfishness is real…. Print out this thread and show her… look mom IT’S INSANE TO HAVE A PARTY RIGHT NOW! The risk is too great, and if she wants to continue on … then so be it… you don’t have to be a part of it.

Post # 42
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

It’s similar to if you were throwing a bridal shower for someone (before Covid-times) and could only afford to host 20 people, but their invite list is 85.  If you wouldn’t be able to afford the party, you would have to tell the bride that you can host 20 people at to cut their list. Stand your ground! If you really think having 85 people at a party is a bad idea, then don’t host the party.

Post # 43
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

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@futuremrscat:  You’re right….I don’t know you but you are a grown woman so if you don’t want to throw a party then don’t, you literally posted asking for ideas, that doesn’t sound like someone who doesn’t want to throw it. I suspect that if you didn’t want to throw a surprise party, you’d be asking how to deal with your mother’s fiancé. I’m also an only child, it’s tough! You have such a good excuse to remove yourself from these events, a pandemic that has not happened in our world in 100 years, stand up to your mom and tell her no if you really don’t want to throw this shower. 

Post # 44
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Buzzing bee

wait i’m confused…i thought you were going to tell your mom you refuse to take part in all this? I thought that’s what you said in the other thread…

What kind of really hard conversations could you have possibly had with her if you’re still going forward with an 80 person shower??? And multiple other events? How is any of this being responsible?

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