(Closed) How is this my job?

posted 6 years ago in Encore
Post # 3
85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I understand completely.  Between Fiance and I we have 5 children and even though our wedding is next year, I’ve been thinking about this same thing!  To make my situation worse one of his children has behavioral/anger issues which means that no one (even his family) wants to watch him for an extended period of time.

I don’t have any advice for you but wanted to let you know you are not alone. Smile

Post # 4
670 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014


I’m sorry you are dealing with this.  It doesn’t seem fair that you have to be the one do handle it.

This might be a dumb question, but what about the mother of his children?  If that isn’t an option perhaps hire a babysitter to watch them for the evening.

Whatever you do, you should talk to your Fiance.  They are his children and needs to help you in finding care for them that evening.  Good luck!

Post # 5
11418 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I can understand some of what you’re experiencing, since I had never been married before, and I married a man who had been married for more than two decades and had multiple children, two of whom were ‘tweens/very young teens at the time of our wedding.

I’m sure it’s difficult for you and your Fiance to feel carefree and focused on your wedding and wedding-related events when you — especially he — have the responsibilities of being a parent.  However, I do not at all understand why the responsibility for arranging for the children’s care would fall to YOU instead of to their father.  My then-FI/now-DH took care of making all the arrangements for the care of his minor children on our wedding night and throughout our honeymoon. I did not need to become involved in those details, and I don’t understand why your Fiance is leaving that to you when you have so many other wedding details to oversee. 

Post # 6
1158 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Tell him to figure it out.problem solved.lol

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